2 Step, Repeatable Process for How to Control a Narcissist/Cluster B Personality: by Angie | Mar 21, 2017 (Visited 89 times, 1 visits today) 2 Comments Sandra on March 21, 2017 at 3:55 pm I figured out these 2 methods many years ago just as a method to preserve my sanity. However, after living like this for more years than I should have, I realize that I have become numb to, well, life! And, somewhere along the way, I have lost myself. I want “me” back again! I’m currently planning my escape, and it’s one of the most difficult things I’ve ever done! Reply Brandi Ortega on March 21, 2017 at 6:19 pm My covert narcissist at times when I do gray rock will imply again and again and point out all the ways I put him on the back burner for not showing my concerns (I don’t love him), or frustrations (I don’t care about him) my affections (I show the kids or dogs more then he gets or my excitement (I am not in love with him no more) he gets angry, turns it on me and my fault so he can storm off and if I do not come looking for him he tells me I prove his point, my question is how can I minimize this pattern in order for me to get my life together so I can leave? I feel numb to his ways now and I’m fading fast. In his world if I would only give him sex anytime he wants and chain the dogs to the trees, he can be happy with just about everything else in our future together. I have come to realize I am not in love with him and doubt I ever was. We have been married for 12 years and 3 kids. His anger used to be so outrageous I would literally run away, I can point to just about every part of my house and tell you he broke this he broke that. He is a big drinker but for the last 3 years, he only has one beer a day or so. He has killed my dog and is very unsupportive of me getting my MBA in May of this year and I have to beg him to watch the kids so I can do my seminars, the majority of the time he will just call his sister over so he doesn’t have to deal with them. I also think him and my oldest son have an emotional disconnect and he favors my daughter more. Ugh, I could go on and on but Ill stop, it just feels better getting just this sliver out and told to someone! Reply Submit a Comment Cancel reply Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *Comment Name * Email * Save my name, email, and website in this browser for the next time I comment.