wpid-3994713135_cbd6e83c8c_b.jpgSo, you need or want a woman to do something for you, but you're not sure how to make it happen.

Lucky for you, I'm one of those people who does not believe in secrets - and as a woman, I totally understand how us girls work. 

Whether you're a man or a woman, there has probably been some time in your life when you needed or wanted a woman to do something for you. Or maybe you just wanted her to do something for her own good.

Whatever the case, you may have failed to get what you wanted for a number of reasons. But I've got great news for you: if you make a few small tweaks to your own behavior, you can get almost any woman to do almost anything you want (within reason).

Check yo'self before you wreck yo'self

Women rarely respond well to demands, ultimatums or faith-based manipulation. Those who do may have been trained to do so, but it doesn't do their souls any good when they bend against their will.

It's better to help a woman understand what you need or want and why. Then she can understand your goal or intention, and that means she can understand a big, important thing for every woman: how she can help you reach that goal. Which brings me to my next point.

Ask her to help you

Few women can resist someone she likes or loves who needs her help. This is even true with strangers in many cases. We can't help it - we are wired to take care of people.

Don't go all feminist on me now. This is not about that. The fact is that as humans, men and women are wired to survive and to carry on the species.

Obviously that means different things for men and women, so the caretaker urge we women have is simply an instinct we can choose to nurture or not. Most of us tend to just go with it because it still works for us today.

Treat her like someone who matters to you

Here's the bottom line on talking to women and getting anywhere, ever.

Do NOT, I repeat, do not treat her like anything less than your equal. I don't care if she's your wife, your sister, mom, boss...ever your daughter...whatever. Treat her as if she is as important as you. At the very least.

Give her a little pedestal to stand on and she might really shine.

If nothing else, just remember this: No woman will respond positively to someone who treats her disrespectfully. At least none who have self-respect (a super-important part of what makes any woman particularly hot, on an unrelated note).

Tell her she's pretty/smart/amazing

Look, not gonna lie to you. Us women? We love a good compliment, especially when it's genuine. Don't try blowing sunshine up our asses now. Understand that we know when you're lying.

But find stuff to compliment us on and watch how we light up. When you've got us all warm and fuzzy? We are always willing to be more generous with our favors.

Tell others how awesome she is

Because honestly, next to being complimented directly, hearing that someone thinks we are awesome enough to be bragged about to others is the best feeling in the world.

That makes us like or love you that much more. The more we feel connected to you by positive feelings and experiences, the more we want to make your life easier too.

Do her a favor once in awhile too.

You know how we (women) never forget when you hurt our feelings? Well we don't forget favors either. And a lot of us like to pay it forward. The rest, conscious or otherwise, will automatically be a little friendlier and more generous with someone who has offered us the same kindness.

It doesn't have to be big, either. Open the door for her. Help her carry on the groceries or the stuff for the big presentation she's giving.

Watch her kids for a few hours and give her some freetime. Cook her dinner one night and save her the trouble. Take out her trash, do her dishes or mop her floor. Clean her closet or walk her dog. You know what she needs done. Do it and make her feel appreciated.

Of course, bigger favors are always appreciated as well. Don't get me wrong.

Bottom line: never be a jerk

Jerks come in all flavors and they can be men or women. In this case, if you ever want a woman to be available to help you when you need or want it, treat her with respect all of the time.

Don't talk badly about her to other people and don't talk to her like she's anything less than important.

Don't take out your anger on her, don't be rude or short with her. And if it happens, be a grown-up and apologize. Women are often happy to forgive when a genuine apology is accompanied by a positive change in behavior.

One more thing: JUST ASK!

Communication is so important to everyone - but women are especially wired for it. So if you need something, all you have to do, so long as you are generally a decent human being who treats her with respect, is just ask. 

Don't try to give her hints or clues or talk around the subject. Just say what you want. That's probably where you should start, actually.

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