The Depressive Narcissist

The Depressive Narcissist

Many scholars consider pathological narcissism to be a form of depressive illness, according to "Psychology Today". The life of the typical narcissist is, indeed, punctuated with recurrent bouts of dysphoria (ubiquitous sadness and hopelessness), anhedonia (loss of the ability to feel pleasure), and clinical forms of depression (cyclothymic, dysthymic, or other). This picture is further obfuscated by the frequent presence of mood disorders, such as Bipolar I (co-morbidity).

While the distinction between reactive (exogenous) and endogenous depression is obsolete, it is still useful in the context of narcissism. Narcissists react with depression not only to life crises but to fluctuations in Narcissistic Supply.

The narcissist's personality is disorganized and precariously balanced. He regulates his sense of self-worth by consuming Narcissistic Supply from others. Any threat to the uninterrupted flow of said supply compromises his psychological integrity and his ability to function. It is perceived by the narcissist as life threatening.

I. Loss Induced Dysphoria

This is the narcissist's depressive reaction to the loss of one or more Sources of Narcissistic Supply or to the disintegration of a Pathological Narcissistic Space (PN Space, his stalking or hunting grounds, the social unit whose members lavish him with attention).

II. Deficiency Induced Dysphoria

Deep and acute depression which follows the aforementioned losses of Supply Sources or a PN Space. Having mourned these losses, the narcissist now grieves their inevitable outcome the absence or deficiency of Narcissistic Supply. Paradoxically, this dysphoria energizes the narcissist and moves him to find new Sources of Supply to replenish his dilapidated stock (thus initiating a Narcissistic Cycle).

III. Self-Worth Dysregulation Dysphoria

The narcissist reacts with depression to criticism or disagreement, especially from a trusted and long-term Source of Narcissistic Supply. He fears the imminent loss of the source and the damage to his own, fragile, mental balance. The narcissist also resents his vulnerability and his extreme dependence on feedback from others. This type of depressive reaction is, therefore, a mutation of self-directed aggression.

IV. Grandiosity Gap Dysphoria

The narcissist's firmly, though counterfactually, perceives himself as omnipotent, omniscient, omnipresent, brilliant, accomplished, irresistible, immune, and invincible. Any data to the contrary is usually filtered, altered, or discarded altogether. Still, sometimes reality intrudes and creates a Grandiosity Gap. The narcissist is forced to face his mortality, limitations, ignorance, and relative inferiority. He sulks and sinks into an incapacitating but short-lived dysphoria.

V. Self-Punishing Dysphoria

Deep inside, the narcissist hates himself and doubts his own worth. He deplores his desperate addiction to Narcissistic Supply. He judges his actions and intentions harshly and sadistically. He may be unaware of these dynamics but they are at the heart of the narcissistic disorder and the reason the narcissist had to resort to narcissism as a defense mechanism in the first place.

This inexhaustible well of ill will, self-chastisement, self-doubt, and self-directed aggression yields numerous self-defeating and self-destructive behaviors from reckless driving and substance abuse to suicidal idealization and constant depression.

It is the narcissist's ability to confabulate that saves him from himself. His grandiose fantasies remove him from reality and prevent recurrent narcissistic injuries. Many narcissists end up delusional, schizoid, or paranoid. To avoid agonizing and gnawing depression, they give up on life itself.

Using a Child Support Enforcement Agency

Using a Child Support Enforcement Agency

Are you upset because you cannot afford to buy your child new shoes for school, or obtain other necessities he or she needs? The child support process can be daunting, especially if it is your first experience in child support collection. If you are a single parent trying to get support from the other parent, there are resources available.

A child support enforcement agency is an organization that helps custodial parents get their child support entitlement. Government agencies are sometimes unhelpful. The truth is, in some states, the government child support enforcement agency only enforces child support mandates in cases in which a family is receiving state aid. The money collected then goes into the government coffers to offset the money received by the custodial parent.

An independent agency is sometimes your best solution for fast results. There are benefits to having someone else with the authority, power and experience to help you out. An independent agency can assist you in most any state where you live. A good child support collection agency will assign a team of child support enforcement specialists to help you. The specific laws differ from state to state, but the general procedures are similar. Many independent child support agencies have countrywide facilities and can immediately access specialists that are familiar with your specific state laws regarding the collection process in order to maximize your results.

Most agencies keep their clients informed with updates regarding their case and work hand in hand with the clients in order to fully understand their specific situation and personal history.

Many government child support agencies are overloaded and understaffed. On the other hand, an independent agency will handle your case on an individual basis and a personal level, in order to get the best results possible and maximize child support payments. In many cases it is even possible to obtain back payments for you. Independent agencies fight for the rights of their clients and make every effort to get their clients the money they deserve.

The enforcement laws are different in each state, and depending on where you live you may also be entitled to interest on unpaid child support payments.Do your research and choose the right independent agency. Many agencies have years of experience helping custodial parents through the myriad of problems that can surface when local government child support resources are unreliable or ineffective.

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Male Survivor of Narcissistic Abuse Offers Hope for Fellow Survivors

Male Survivor of Narcissistic Abuse Offers Hope for Fellow Survivors

Editor's Note: Today's post comes from a member of my SPAN (Support for People Affected by Narcissism in relationships) online support group, a well-educated male who has chosen to be identified by the name Manager Poet. He also happens to be a survivor of narcissistic abuse, and I thought his perspective was interesting and that it may be able to help a lot of people. You might also want to check out this post on the differences between male and female narcissists. 

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