Weekend Booster Shot: A Reminder That You ARE Good Enough!

Weekend Booster Shot: A Reminder That You ARE Good Enough!

It's time to stop believing the lies the narcissist tells you about yourself and start taking back your power, my friend. This compilation contains five videos designed to help you do just that - click below to watch and get your weekend booster shot of self-love and self-confidence. Hugs and love to you all!

Is this narcissist cured enough for you?

Is this narcissist cured enough for you?

Today I’m sharing a story from a SPAN member who says her husband has been healed of his narcissism by Dr. David Hawkins, who has claimed to know the cure for narcissism. With her permission, I’m printing her letter in full here – but we’ll refer to her husband as Mr. X to protect their identities.

“Hi Angie, just watched your video referencing Dr. Hawkins. My husband Mr. X (name changed) and I have been clients of Dr. Hawkins’ for 18 months. Prior to Dr. H, nothing worked. Mr. X could sell ice to Eskimos and fool me, himself, our previous counselor, etc.

Mr. X didn't believe he was abusive or narcissistic; he only acknowledged being self-centered and feeling entitled.

Dr. Hawkins was effective for a few reasons:

  1. Hawkins knew who and what he was dealing with-- he called out every attempt of blame shifting, gaslighting, etc. He easily drilled down and identified Mr. X's triggers.
  2. He taught me how to respond and react in a way that cut off Mr. X from abusing me and he wasn't allowed to interact with me again until he made appropriate amends as approved by Dr. H. If his amends were BS, Dr. H called him out on that too.
  3. Over time he identified Mr. X's abuse cycle and the triggers for each phase of it. He taught Mr. X how to identify his thinking errors along with a process to replace his stinking thinking with healthy thinking.
  4. The abuse cycle used to be short, repeated every few days or weekly, then as Mr. X became a humble participant in his own therapy with Dr. H the abuse cycle occurred maybe once a month. Mr. X's "narcissist mode episodes" happened less and less.
  5. It was hard work, we had to work together daily, per Dr. H we read Lundy Bancroft's book, "Why does he do that?", this taught us both why abuser's abuse, how they think, what needs to occur for them to change, etc. This was one of many helpful assignments from Dr. H.
  6. If the NPD spectrum was a 1 to 10 scale, Mr. X would have been rated a 4-5. I think any WILLING Narc rated 5 and under could change with Dr. H's approach, but only if they truly want to and only if they stick with it.
  7. Mr. X spends a min if 1 hour a day working on his recovery. He also worked the 12 steps even though he doesn't drink! Many years ago, Dr. H wrote a book on the 12 steps, basically the principals teach you to let go of resentment and a lot of the workbooks and exercises address narc behaviors.

So, I wanted to share! It was hard, it's a new lifestyle, Mr. X will be in therapy forever.  His inner narc is rarely triggered, and if I even think I'm seeing a glimpse of it I announce it and Mr. X uses his tools before it takes over. 

Just like anything, it's not for everyone. I'm the Mom of a son who happens to have ODD, Asperger’s, and Anxiety. I've mastered identifying and redirecting triggers. I don't want to be a Mom to a Narc and I refuse to do so.

Before Dr. H I was apartment shopping and thought I'd consult him as one last effort before running! Mr. X had very good qualities that were present way more than his Narc side.

Dr. H saved my husband and our marriage. Your videos so helpful in teaching me more about gaslighting etc. It made it easy to see what was happening and get help! Thanks Angie, you are a hero!”

My response is included in this video.

Overwhelmed? 7 Simple Questions That Will Free Up Your Time

Overwhelmed? 7 Simple Questions That Will Free Up Your Time

We all have too many priorities and too little time to do them justice. You can create more free time in your life by asking yourself a few questions. Questions are powerful, because they focus your attention and generate solutions.

You just have to ask the right questions!

Ask yourself these questions and create more space in your life:

  1. What are my three greatest distractions? The most common distractions and time wasters are often electronic in nature. Your cell phone, laptop, and the television can leave you wondering where the time went. Other distractions might include an annoying neighbor, an organization that requires too much of your time, or frequent headaches.
  • Think of ways to eliminate or minimize these distractions and spend your time in a more meaningful way. 
  1. Am I making the best use of the free time I already have available? When you do have free time, how do you use it? Consider both the small blocks of time you have available throughout the day and the larger segments of time that you have free.
  • If you’re waiting for a meeting to start, how do you use that time?
  • Are you using your time in the car as productively as possible? You could use the time to make phone calls or listen to educational programs.
  • Examine all the spare time you have each day and resolve to use it more productively.
  1. What are the three greatest distractions I have at work? An overly chatty cubicle mate might be neutralized with headphones. You can turn off the ringer on your phone. Think of the distractions you face and create solutions.
  2. What are my priorities? Make a list of your work and personal priorities. You can’t focus your time if you’re unaware of your priorities. You can focus your attention by reminding yourself of your priorities each day.
  3. What are the optional activities in my life? Make a list of everything you do in your life that’s optional – from watching TV to playing softball on the weekends. Some of those activities add to your life in meaningful ways, while others do not. Which of those activities are you willing to give up to create more space in your life?
  4. How can I simplify my life? How many blogs, magazine subscriptions, and podcasts do you follow? Are they all worth the time?
  • How often do you check your email? Is that more often than necessary?
  • Can you hire someone to mow your grass or clean your home?
  • Can you get rid of a few possessions that are taking up time and space in your life?
  1. What would I do if I had more free time? How would you spend that time? With whom would you spend it? If you can identify how you want to spend your free time, you might become more motivated to create more free time in your life.

Are you lacking enough time to enjoy your life? It’s time to set priorities and reduce distractions.

Decide what is most important to you. Then determine how you’re using your time inefficiently. Ask yourself the important questions that will allow you to make meaningful changes. Free up your time for your priorities. You’ll be glad you did!


Is there a cure for NPD?

Is there a cure for NPD?

Can a narcissist be cured? Dr. David Hawkins' says he's healing narcissistic personalty disorder Discover. Understand. Overcome. It's how smart people change their lives! Subscribe to my channel: vid.io/xoJJ

Before a viewer asked me to look into it, I wasn't very familiar with Dr .David Hawkins, who reportedly "debunks the notion that sending your man off for individual therapy for his narcissistic traits is effective.

He suggests that it is not and that "you, the partner of someone with narcissistic traits can be very effective in helping him to heal."

Today, I'm answering a question from a viewer on those controversial statements.

The question comes from Robyn Newberry, who wrote: "Angie Atkinson, what do you think of that Dr. David Hawkins who thinks Narcissism can be cured!? I'm like, why even torture yourself by trying to do the impossible!? I'm sorry, but after the pure Hell I went through, I couldn't do it again to myself and my daughter especially."

Is it possible to heal narcissistic personality disorder? Can you expect a sociopath to use psychology for healing?

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