Depression, characterized by erratic mood swings, loss of interest in hobbies and activities is a very serious emotional disorder affecting about 9.5 per cent of the nation.
Needless to say, it is could be a lot more fatal if a depressed person is heading towards suicide.
Therefore, here are some signs to know if your loved one is considering suicide as a result of depression.
Depression Suicide: Warning Signs to be Aware of
1. Mentions of Suicide or Death
2. Wanting to tie up loose ends or give away personal belongings
3. Engaging in reckless behavior such as heavy alcohol and drug use
4. Withdrawing from family and friends
5. Erratic mood swings
6. Inappropriately saying goodbye.
7. Verbal behavior that is ambiguous or indirect: (for example: "I want to go to sleep and never wake up.", "I'm so depressed, I just can't go on.", "Does God punish suicides?"
Though the signs and warnings may vary from person to person, it is important that you are able to recognize such warnings and take some steps to help your loved one.
Helping a loved one who is showing signs of Depression Suicide
If you believe someone is contemplating suicide do seek help immediately, however there are a several suicide prevention web sites and hotlines available to help those in need, but in case these are not within your reach, you can try the following:
1. Cultivate Physical Closeness: Simple hugs, kisses on the cheeks, loving pats and compliments go a long way in healing a broken heart or depressed mind. Remember, sometimes the little things DO count.
2. If the person is acutely suicidal, do not leave him or her alone.
3. Remember: suicidal behavior is a cry for help. Thus if someone contemplating suicide turns to you, it is likely that he believes that you are more caring and more informed about coping with depression, and more willing to help. This in itself is a positive, thus it will be time to empower yourself to be what a suicidal person views you to be; stronger and you are.
4. Other steps to take include reassuring them that help is available and that with appropriate treatment they can feel better. Try not to patronize them by simply telling them that "everything will be fine," or that "they have everything to live for.
5. Try to search the house for dangerous items such as guns and knives that could be potentially harmful.
In addition to the factors above, if you are of a spiritual inclination, this will be a good time to pray according to the framework of your faith. Indeed, prayer when used effectively can work wonders to aid in curtailing depression suicide.
Moreover, in the hopes that your loved one begins to show signs of improvement from the warnings indicating depression suicide, it will be great to start to include such drug-free approaches for depression treatment such as exercise: namely Yoga, a proper diet for physical health which in turn heals the mind and positive thinking and affirmations.
Naturally we all would get concerned or frightened if a loved one seems on the brink of suicide resulting from depression, however as with all life's problems, if we can catch it early and nip it in the bud, depression suicide can be prevented. If things may have gotten more advanced, then it may be time to seek professional help or as an alternative double up on our efforts to steer the loved one back to a positive outlook on life.
The No-Contact Chronicles: Everything You Need to Know About Going NC With a Toxic Narcissist
Basics of No Contact:
1. Stop taking the narcissist's phone calls.
2. Block him/her on all social media networks.
3. Do not schedule or encourage visits with the narcissist.
4. Stop seeing, speaking to or in any way interacting with him/her.
It's not rocket science, right? Then why is it so difficult to enact and then to stick to the no contact rule?
On NO CONTACT AND BEING ADDICTED TO THE NARC: There's an evolutionary spin here - the loss of a potCntial baby-making mate would be bad for us as a species. On top of that, humans are hard-wired to develop bonds to other humans - another survival urge.
Add together your need to bond and the need to keep your mate (or to feel great distress in the loss of him/her), and what do you have?
It affects you like a drug, your relationship with this toxic person. And when you're not getting the sweet poison, you might just miss it. A lot like a crack addict might miss his fix.
This compilation contains 8 videos that focus on the No Contact practice.
This book came together after years of practicing no contact with toxic people in my own life, and coaching my clients to escape and remain free of toxic relationships with abusive narcissists in their own lives.
In addition to a comprehensive guide to implementing and maintaining the practice of no-contact with a narcissist, the book offers personal stories and advice from three other survivors, including one who chose to remain anonymous who tells her story of being abused in a toxic lesbian relationship with a narcissist.
Also featured are Jillian Tindall, Esq. and Carlita Vega, two other narcissistic abuse survivors who have both taken back their lives, partially with the help of the advice they found in my videos on narcissistic abuse recovery.
I want to share a little bit about my fellow authors with you for a couple of reasons - first, because they are fellow survivors as well as amazing, accomplished women. And second, because they deserve recognition for their contribution to this book - they provided thoughtful, inspiring and raw stories that readers will identify with on a profound level.
Suboru is the name selected for the pen name of our anonymous contributor, who is a fellow narcissistic abuse survivor. While she has chosen the cloak of anonymitiy for her own safety, Suboru is passionate about helping narcissistic abuse survivors to overcome abuse and create the lives they want. She's also an advocate for abuse awareness in LGBTQ relationships.
Jillian Tindall, Esq.
Jillian M. Tindall, has been practicing law for over 17 years, and has an extensive background litigating a wide range domestic relations matters in Las Vegas, Nevada, including, but not limited to, divorce, annulment, child custody and visitation, child support collections and defense, modification of child support, property valuation and distribution, debt division, alimony, domestic violence proceedings and protective orders, termination of parental rights, annulments, name changes, adoptions, legal separations, and the international recovery of children through Hague Convention proceedings.
Ms. Tindall has practiced in Federal and State Courts, including Municipal and Justice Courts, and has experience with the Nevada Supreme Court.
She has written and lectured on domestic relations issues for multiple continuing legal education providers, and has received recognition for her contributions for pro bono representation in Clark County, Nevada.
Ms. Tindall is experienced with high conflict litigation, as well as mediation and alternative dispute resolution options, whether your case is highly contested or simple and uncontested.
Ms. Tindall's earlier background experiences involve thousands of hours of work in crisis advocacy for victims of domestic violence, and she received a combined B.A. degree in Psychology and Sociology from the University of Oregon, in 1996, where she graduated Summa Cum Laude with honors in Psychology for her Autism research with Oregon Health Sciences University, and her thesis on Autism, studying behavioral differences among gender groups.
Ms. Tindall also received a certificate in Substance Abuse Prevention. In 1998, Ms. Tindall received her Juris Doctor from the University of Oregon, and she is licensed in Nevada and Kansas. Prior to attending the University of Oregon, Ms. Tindall pursued studies in early childhood education.
Carlita is a hard-working and loving mother of four children ages 23, 16, 11 & 7. She was born in Cleveland, Ohio and graduated from the Cleveland School of the Arts.
She relocated to Georgia in 2002 and currently resides in Fayetteville. She is a survivor of child molestation, rape and most recently, narcissistic abuse.
She has managed to retain her mental and spiritual stability in spite of life’s difficulties.
Ms. Vega is a passionate entrepreneur, and also wants to help women that have been and are being subjected to this type of abuse.
She is presently improving her mental and spiritual health with research, meditation and prayer.
A Little More About the Book
Navigating No-Contact with a Narcissist is a practical and inspiring guidebook that will help you to let go of the feelings you still have for the narcissist and to stop feeling like you want and need to engage with him or her. Inside the guide, you'll learn how to reclaim your sense of self, take back your life and as you move forward, to safely move on to a better relationship. You'll learn what "no contact" really means in terms of narcissistic abuse recovery, where the term came from and how to implement it in your own life. Plus:
How to break an unhealthy relationship cycle
Dealing with smear campaigns and rude narcissists
How to deal with co-parenting with a narcissist
How to help your kids through the separation and divorce
How to find yourself again after recovery
Why no contact works so well and why it's hard to execute
The steps you need to take to make it happen
The book will also take you through the stages of recovery and show you what to expect in each one, as well as offering exercises and activities for each stage. Written by certified life coach, author and YouTuber Angela Atkinson, aka Angie Atkinson, this book is both comprehensive and written in a way that is easy to read. This book is for you if:
You've done your research and you already know or are pretty sure that you're dealing with a narcissist.
You've been abandoned, or you've left your narcissist.
You're still in the relationship, but you know you want to leave the narcissist, and you need some help.
You've gone or recently decided to go "no-contact" with a narcissist.
You want to go no-contact, but you're not sure how.
You're already no-contact, but you are tempted to go back to the narcissist.
The narcissist is trying to hoover you and you need help resisting.
You really can do anything you set your mind to - and that includes almost literally everything.
Many of us have big dreams that we try not to think about. Some people want to be astronauts, some people want to be rock stars… but few people will admit that when asked at a party what they're interested in.
Problem is, we feel a bit silly admitting to our ambitious dreams and hopes because we know they have a small chance of becoming real. We let a fear of failure prevent us from speaking about our aims – and even prevent us from acknowledging them!
But this is hugely misguided. The reality is actually that it is easy to achieve anything you want to achieve. And you can be whatever you want to be – just like the teachers told you at school. Read on and we'll look at how and why this can be the case.
How to be a Rock Musician?
If you want to be a rock musician, what do you do?
The first step is simply to start playing rock. What you could do next though is to start recording that playing and maybe upload it to YouTube. Do this enough and eventually you'll get a following as people start to add you and subscribe. Over the course of a few years, you could eventually end up with a list of subscribers that's long enough to make you legitimately something of a minor celebrity…
Want to be a novelist? Then you can write a book and publish it on LuLu (a self publishing site) to be able to legitimately say you're a 'published author'.
The point is that it's actually very easy to become the thing you want to be. Getting to the point where you're professional is harder but you don't need to make your job the thing that defines you. So in other words, if you want to say you're a 'writer' all you have to do is to 'write'.
Once you start looking at your goals and dreams like this, it allows you to completely forget the idea of failure. Failure is no longer an issue and so you can attack your goals with vigor. You can't fail to 'write regularly' and this allows you to enjoy the thi8ngs you are passionate about without feeling the need to lie or to downplay your hopes and objectives.
You can be anything you want to be – and being good comes with time!
You replay your favorite song over and over to relive the good times – and you cry tears of misery as you do. Just as often, you find yourself remembering the abuse, almost as if it’s against your will – and you relive it over and over again. Heck, you may even fantasize about how to win back that person's love.
Affirm your worth. Splitting up can leave you feeling guilty or rejected. Instead of thinking that you’ve failed, focus on what you’ve learned. Remember that you deserve happiness and fulfillment.
Take responsibility. At the same time, acknowledge the role that you played in any conflicts. By examining your actions, you discover what you can do differently next time. That’s a lot more powerful than being a victim.
Face reality. Chances are you’d still be together if you were really soul mates. When you stop idealizing your old flame, you’re more likely to notice other interesting singles.
Talk it over. Connect with family and friends who want to support you at this difficult time. They may have similar experiences and fresh insights.
Identify triggers. Everyday sights and sounds may bring back disturbing memories. Take your ex’s photos off your phone.
Set goals. Empower yourself by taking on an ambitious project. Use your extra free time to reflect on your purpose and priorities. Maybe you want to devote more energy to your career or community activities.
Care for your health. Does a broken heart make you lose your appetite or drive you to seek comfort in a pint of Rocky Road? Protect your emotional well-being by staying physically fit.
Redecorate your surroundings. If your apartment reminds you too much of your ex, restyle your space. If you can’t afford to replace the furniture, there are plenty of low budget solutions, like a fresh coat of paint or building a headboard out of an old door.
Expand your interests. You may have been neglecting your hobbies if your last partner didn’t share your passion for opera or volley ball. Resume the activities you love, and discover some new outlets.
Schedule a makeover. It’s easier to reinvent yourself when you’re comfortable with the way you look. Browse magazines for ideas or start small if you’re still figuring out what works for you. If a tattoo seems too radical, shape your eyebrows or get a pedicure.
Travel the globe. Pick a destination you’re excited about seeing. Look forward to interacting with others who see you as an individual instead of half a former couple. Enjoy feeling capable on your own as you figure out foreign currencies and sample the local cuisine.
Stay busy. There’s a difference between accepting your grief and wallowing in it. The more you do, the less time you’ll have to stare at the phone.
YOU CAN bounce back after a toxic relationship, my friend. Soothe your hurt feelings and shift your attention to the future. By using your old relationship as an opportunity to work on yourself, you’ll be preparing for a new and more lasting love. You GOT THIS! <3 Stay strong!