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Today we are tackling one of the messiest rooms in the house. The Family Room.
Take a deep breath and let’s get to it.
Get four tubs or boxes and label them “Toss”, “Donate”, “Keep” and “Relocate”. Keep is for items that will stay in this room and Relocate is for things that need to go somewhere else in the house. Starting in a corner, work your way around the room. Clear off the top of each horizontal surface and empty out every drawer. Put the items in the appropriate bins.
Be strict with yourself about what you keep. Do you really need your collection of design magazines from 1992? Do you need a Barney VHS video when your “baby” just turned 12? Your local library loves donations like this. Better yet, with today’s modern technology and streaming services like Netflix, you can probably watch most of the movies in your collection at no additional charge. Why not donate them all? Imagine all that extra space.
Games are another challenge for the family room. If you can find all the pieces, then make space in a cabinet so your family can easily access the fun. If you are missing too many pieces to make it work, get rid of it. Who wants to play Yahtzee with only 3 die?
Make sure you clean, dust, wipe, whatever before you replace the Keep items. This includes the back of the electronics, the top of the picture frames, everything. You’ll thank me when you’re done.
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Our organizing task today is more of a “gathering” task. You need to gather all your important papers, irreplaceable documents and valuable jewelry. Find each family member’s original social security card and birth certificate, as well as original copies of death certificates, marriage licenses and divorce decrees. Get the actual policy for your life, homeowner’s or renter’s insurances as well as the original copies of your will, living will and medical power of attorney.
Find your grandmother’s wedding band, your dad’s senior picture and any other irreplaceable items that would just break your heart if you lost. You can also grab the memory stick that you use to back up your hard drive (although research using the “cloud” for this as it is now more efficient).
Where am I going with this? A safe, of course. As you can see from the items we collected, you don’t need to be wealthy to need a safe. Make sure it is large enough to accommodate everything and fire rated for at least 2 hours.
Don’t automatically store it in your master bedroom closet. That’s the first place a thief would look. Think about natural disasters. If you live in a tornado prone area, keep your safe in the basement. If you live in an area that floods, keep it near the door so you can grab it and go.
Today’s task may seem silly to some of you but you would be surprised how many people do not take the time for this and regret it later. Being organized also means being prepared.
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Day 3 – Formal Living Room
Welcome back to day three of our 30-day decluttering challenge! Today we’re going to work on organizing either the entertainment center, media area or the formal living room in your house.
If you think there’s not much to clean and sort through, you’re probably right … and wrong.
Most formal spaces are already neat as a pin. We don’t live in those rooms; sometimes we don’t even enter them. We tend to hide our chaos and clutter in the back of the house, in the rooms most guests don’t see. That’s fine. But, we are on this mission to organize our homes and taking a day for this room is still extremely useful.
If you have clutter or objects that do not belong in this room, by all means, take care of it now. If not, what have you always wanted to do to this room? Take the time now to try the sofa on another wall. Take the time to finally hang up that picture. Or, even, take the time to order new curtains.
Do whatever it is that you have been putting off.
So much of our lives is disorganized because we are constantly on the go and do not take time to do the little things. The next thing you know the little things have piled up into one massive BIG thing! I hereby grant you the time today.
What are you going to do with it?
It is Day 2 of our 30-day decluttering challenge - and today it's all about the Front Closet!
Day 2- Front Closet
Hey! Welcome back. Returning for Day 2 is a big step. You are that much closer to getting your home organized.
Ready for your next task?
Let’s tackle the front closet today.
Before you just stick everything back in and close the door – stop. Sort through what you own. Do you need it? Does it still fit? Be brutal.
This is the front closet, not a storage unit. Your guests will use this and it should look presentable.
Put nice, inexpensive baskets on the shelf for storing out of season gear, like hats, gloves and scarves. Get some wooden hangers for the coats, making sure that you have plenty of extra ones for guests to use. They may seem like an expensive item but you can get nice wood hangers for less than $10 at any Super Store. Line up any shoes or boots neatly in the back. After your purging, cleaning and new storage solutions, this closet should look like a million bucks.
If you have extra time today, take five minutes and step outside. Give the front porch a quick sweep, wipe the cobwebs off the coach light and shake out the welcome mat.
Doesn’t it feel better to have such a welcoming entrance to your home?
See you tomorrow.
Cleaning and organization are only part of this deal. Decluttering is more for those of us who have experienced narcissistic relationships.
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Day 1- The “Spot”
Today’s task is to tackle “the spot”. You know the one. It’s the spot where you dump everything when you come home from work.
For some, it’s that little counter to the side of the fridge. For others, it’s the table in the foyer. It doesn’t matter where it is for you. Just get an empty box and dump everything in it.
Wipe “the spot” so that it’s nice and clean. Admire it for a moment.
Ok, now, it’s time to get to work. Set yourself up at the dining room table or your kitchen island.
Now, we’re going to sort through the box.
Make piles for mail, bills, books, things that need to go in other rooms etc. Throw out anything that you don’t need. Once it’s sorted, put each stack in its place.
This really shouldn’t take too long; it only seems overwhelming. Trust me. That’s it. You did it!
Day 1 is complete.
Pat yourself on the back. Better yet, write yourself a note and stick it on the fridge. Remind yourself that you can and will get organized!
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Your Clutter Could Be a Symptom of Your Narcissistic Relationship
Clutter can make you feel stressed and leave you less free time to enjoy your life. But mindfulness can quickly allow you to cut through the clutter (even more than cleaning). Most people hold on to clutter because they assign the possession some kind of emotional significance.
A broken toy wagon might still be in the closet because it was the last toy that a loved one gave a person before they passed away. So the owner of the wagon associates the love with the wagon.
One of the reasons that so many people struggle to get rid of things, both physical and emotional, is because the decluttering process can be painful and overwhelming - especially when you look at it as a whole.
Mindfulness can help you get rid of clutter because it allows you to maintain your focus on one area or one issue at a time that needs to be dealt with. You’ll be able to simplify your life, keep what needs to be kept and let go of what you need to be free from.
Focus only on what truly matters to you. By using mindfulness to help you clear out the clutter, you’ll get rid of stress, too. The things we keep and the emotions we won’t let go of can be reminders of what was.
You might think that if you don’t address them, then you don’t have to deal with these things. But clutter hovers and you sense it in your subconscious. When you let mindfulness help you declutter your life, you’ll be able to maintain a better ability to focus in all areas of your life.
You’ll feel better emotionally when you let go of things. You’ll also be able to find things when you need them instead of searching and getting stressed when you can’t find something.
Plus, you won’t spend as much money buying things that you forgot that you already had. A big benefit with using mindfulness to let go of the clutter is that it does more than give you more room in your home or in your office.
It allows you to let go of the mental and emotional clutter so that you’re able to have a more improved mindfulness, too. For the best results, go through every area of your life one portion at a time and clear out the clutter.
If you’ve always found it too difficult because you think the task is too big, give yourself fifteen minutes a day to focus on the clutter. When you break a task down, you’ll find that it’s easier to do.
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