You might be reading this on Thanksgiving day, or maybe on Black Friday. Either way, you know what the title of this post means, right? It’s time to think about what you’re buying for the holiday season. Before I dig in, let me say: if you can’t afford anything right now, don’t beat yourself up. Grab the free stuff in this post and run! I promise I understand.
With that being said, whether you can afford to buy some new self-care stuff or not, you can always do a little self-care for free! That’s what I want you to remember most this holiday season: to take care of yourself. Have you seen my free Self-Care Resources Center?
If you’re anything like me, you probably want to save as much as you can this year – and if we’re being totally honest, you might just want some free stuff. So, in addition to some freebies from QueenBeeing and Life Makeover Academy, I have a 50% discount on some of my most popular courses for you – AND, while I was at it, I found some really great free trials for you at Amazon, plus I have some special discounts for you from several different Amazon vendors.
If you’re alone on Thanksgiving this year because you’ve gone no contact with a gaslighting narcissist or someone with NPD, you don’t have to spend the day by yourself. Get involved with your SPANily instead!
You are never alone because you always have your SPANily. Even on Thanksgiving Day! That’s right, my friend. The SPANily has you covered with several events on Thanksgiving Day this year. **Be sure to double check the time zones listed so you won’t miss anything!**
Coach Lise will also host two private group coaching sessions on Thanksgiving Day. These sessions will focus on self-care and will be held at 11 a.m. Pacific time and at 6 p.m. Pacific time. Not sure you can commit to four weeks, but still want to join in on Thanksgiving? No problem! Lise says if you’d like to join for just a single one-hour meeting on Thanksgiving Day, you may do so for just $15. Email her at CoachLiseC@gmail.com to get your discount and join the group session.
In the meantime, if you have the time or need a little encouragement, below is my Thanksgiving Day video, which offers tips and ideas on getting through the holiday and on resisting the narcissistic holiday hoover. Hugs and love to you, my friend.
Here are some tips for not being so alone and to avoid the holiday hoover to get you through. You don’t need to be all by yourself – you won’t have to be alone for Thanksgiving this year!
Dear SPANily, I have one request today! Please share this post with any other survivors who you know might be alone on Thanksgiving Day. Help us reach as many as possible so no one needs to feel alone. Love, Angie
SPAN Book Club is facilitated by SPAN admin Sarah Browne, who offers an active, engaging group experience that is completely free. Sarah and the SPAN Book Club community offer socialization and camaraderie over a shared hobby to alleviate loneliness and isolation for survivors of narcissistic abuse and members of our SPANily.
She says that the club helps survivors to remember how to have their own voices and to have their own thoughts and opinions validated. And, she says, the added benefit is that survivors regain a sense of self in the process.
How it works:
Books are chosen by the group members.
Sarah announces her top three choices, and members have a week to cast their votes.
Once the book is chosen, members get a week to obtain the book through Amazon.com, their local library or any other source.
The discussion begins the following week on Sunday.
Do you feel like you’re on the verge of huge personal change but you can’t quite put your finger on your next move?
Do you want to change something about yourself and your life?
Do you sometimes feel like you’re not really living, or like the things you want are out of your reach?
Do you find yourself longing for more?
Can you relate to the idea of having an existential crisis?
Being in a relationship with a toxic narcissist destroys your identity in so many ways. Often, when you finally get out, you’re left spinning – wondering who you are and where you go from here.
But here’s some good news: you aren’t permanently stuck in this so-called “limbo” – you can create exactly the life (and the self) that you want.
So let me ask you this:
Do you know who you want to be and do you know how to get there? Human beings are amazing, we have much more control over our destinies and ourselves than we realize – especially those of us who have survived a toxic relationship. We all know that we must change – it’s inevitable! But too often, we find ourselves just waiting to see what happens next.
The bad news? When you wait for change to happen rather than taking control and directing that change, you may not like the new reality you are facing.
The truth is that if you have ever made an effort to make yourself or your life better in any way, you have what it takes inside you to realize a new and improved you.
This is powerful information, because it explains that simply by “wanting” personal growth and improvement in some area of your life, you are subconsciously beginning to choose to take the required action to get you where you want to be.
Of course, you are not alone in your desire to discover all that you can be.
Many survivors of narcissistic abuse share your personal development goals…
Life Purpose * Life Balance* Enjoy a better relationship with self and others
Make more money, become financially independent and career goals
Can you identify with any of those self-improvement goals?
Maybe you have some entirely different personal development achievement in mind.
No matter what area of your life you would like to improve, why haven’t you been able to in the past?
Hint: YOU ARE NOT lazy or incapable of change! The truth is that you just haven’t been given the proper tools. But all of that is about to change!
Instead of cookie-cutter, one-size-fits-all personal development advice from a self-proclaimed, self-help guru, you need a plan that works for you, specifically. And this program was developed for you by a certified life coach and fellow survivor of narcissistic abuse.
As a survivor yourself, it’s so important to consider your personal needs and to arm yourself with the proper knowledge and tools to experience powerful and profound personal growth.
You need to understand exactly where you are now, how to get where you want to go, and how to handle setbacks on your way to your dream reality.
The right knowledge
Proven methods for identifying your current level of growth
Goal setting that works
A plan of development that turns knowledge into action, and action into the results you desire
Even so, your plan must be customizable and it must work for YOUR life, because there is no one exactly like you. You need the tools that show you exactly where you are now, how to get where you want to go, and how to handle setbacks on your way to your dream reality.
Includes Rewrite Your Story After Narcissistic Abuse in Relationships Course
How to Write and Release Your Toxic Relationship Story, and Rewrite Your New Future Story
Have you been mentally and emotionally abused and manipulated by a toxic narcissist? Have you had enough of the gaslighting, the flying monkeys, the love-bombing and the hoovering?
Are you tired of accepting the “you” that the narcissist has defined?
Are you ready to finally DEFINE YOURSELF? Want to make your own choices about who you are and what your life looks like?
If you’re ready to rediscover yourself again after narcissistic abuse, this course presents and easy and simple way to do just that.
You’ll learn to identify your abuse story, write it out and then release it. Plus, you’ll get a step-by-step plan to write your new future story – one that you can use to create the life you truly desire, and to become the person you’ve always wanted to be.
You don’t have to accept the story your narcissist put in place – you get to write your OWN story.
This course offers you the solution you need, and it’s been created specifically for you by a certified life coach, author and survivor of narcissistic abuse.
Inside, you’ll find several reports, worksheets and downloadable tools that will help you to take the steps necessary to get your story down, release it and write your new story.
Take the time to study the material, do the meditation and the writing exercises, and you’ll be on your way to making things go your way – and to creating the self and the life that you truly want.
PLUS: Exclusive Access to Discounted (TOTALLY OPTIONAL) Weekly Group Coaching Sessions with Angie Atkinson!
If you’re dealing with a toxic ex, chances are you’ve got enough anxiety already. And if you can’t afford a traditional home security system, you may be constantly stressing about your safety. This is not good for your physical or mental health. But there’s good news – traditional systems are no longer your only option.
Protecting your house doesn’t have to be complicated, but you will have to decide between a do it yourself home security system versus a home security service. Both are viable options that can keep your valuables away from thieves – but how do you know which one is right for you? Let’s take a look at what’s involved with each type of system.
It’s true that alarm systems are no longer so confusing to install that only a professional can figure them out. It’s true that wireless is now one of the top, most installed systems in homes today.
It’s also true that monitoring services can protect your home – but even a monitoring service is not theft-proof. Because of the cost of a professionally installed and monitored system, many homeowners are now choosing to take care of their home’s protection themselves.
Getting the necessary supplies is as easy as ordering the systems online and having them delivered. One of the main perks is that you’re going to save on the equipment and also the cost of paying for a professional installer’s time to set up the system.
Setting one up is as easy as being able to read – if you can read the directions, you can accurately put in the system. There is one challenge with the do it yourself home security system versus home security service, and that is the wiring.
If you decide that you want to go with the hard wiring, unless you’re an electrician or have successfully installed a system into a home before, then you want to pay to have the installation done.
The reason for this is because the potential to mess up your home’s wiring is there and you can cause all kinds of additional problems (and incur wiring repair expenses) that you don’t want.
The good news is that if you do decide you want to install your home’s system, you can easily order a system that’s ready to go right out of the box. Plus, you don’t have to buy any extras unless you want more sensors than what came with your package.
This type of system is affordable on any budget and you can add features to your security system as time goes by, rather than having to come up with the entire cost all at once. When you buy a professionally installed system and opt to go with a service, you’re going to pay a lot. Plus, you’re going to get locked into a contract and then have to pay the company to keep an eye on your system so they can call if there’s a problem.
In the battle of do it yourself home security system versus home security service, what many users don’t know up front is that the hard-wiring can be thwarted by a savvy criminal if he cuts the phone line.
This can deaden your system and render it useless. Having someone watch your system and call if the alarm sounds a warning can be effective if the authorities are notified in an expedient manner.
Psychologists define ‘the dark core of personality’ – D-FACTOR Egoism, Machiavellianism, narcissism, psychopathy, sadism, spitefulness, and others are among the traits that stand for the malevolent dark sides of human personality. As results from a recently published German-Danish research project show, these traits share a common ‘dark core’. So, if you have one of these tendencies, you are also likely to have one or more of the others. In this video, I outline the study and explain what it means to you. Read the full study here.