Lise Colucci is an intuitive healer and certified life coach, as well as a certified narcissistic abuse recovery coach. She is a long-time admin and mentor for the SPAN Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Group, actively helping survivors of narcissistic abuse in the broad community to learn and heal. A big believer in the strength of survivors as well as the power they hold to transform their lives for the better after abuse, Lise is continually learning new ways to help others. She sees the big picture and helps clients to dissect the overwhelming issue of narcissistic abuse into manageable parts. Lise is very knowledgeable in both understanding narcissism as well as the effects of toxic relationships on survivors. Making her even more effective in her work, she also understands how it feels firsthand - she is a survivor herself. Lise is passionate about providing coaching services that help her clients feel heard and validated as she guides them along their healing journey. Lise has certifications in life coaching from Universal Coach Institute as well as a Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Coach certification from Life Makeover Academy. At home, Lise is the mother of four amazing humans. She loves spending time with her kids and dogs.
If you are living with, married to, dating or otherwise involved with someone who seems to have a dark personality, this video is for you. Whether you're dealing with NPD or another cluster B personality disorder, you can benefit from understanding the psychology of it all.
I'll explain exactly how scientists say we naturally sort of "see" narcissists, psychopaths and machiavellians just by their facial features - and much more.
But we can have an intense feeling of deep affection for someone who doesn't feel the same way about us, so in my opinion, that's not real love.
A lot of us think we want "real love," but most of us can't even really define the word effectively. After all, we can liken describing love to describing color - you can't really "get it" unless you've felt it.
Love isn't just experienced with your logical mind, and yet your logical mind is what attempts to define it. Real love is the result of your intention to love - but it's very different from your intention to BE loved. Real love is something we "are" rather than something we "get" or share. That's why it's so confusing.
Maybe a better definition is that love is a feeling that expresses itself through action and acts of service. It's what we do, and our intention behind it. It's not the need for control, or security, and it's not jealousy. It's mutual trust, mutual respect and deep, lasting friendship. It's finding beauty in one another even in the darkest times in our lives, and loving one another even when it feels hard.
Relationships are difficult. But when we can commit to one another for life, bringing in the deepest parts of ourselves (the good, the bad and the ugly) - and then accept one another, flaws and all, we can find love. Avoid bad dating relationships, difficult marriages and inevitable divorce with this advice.