If you’re dealing with a toxic ex, chances are you’ve got enough anxiety already. And if you can’t afford a traditional home security system, you may be constantly stressing about your safety. This is not good for your physical or mental health. But there’s good news – traditional systems are no longer your only option.
Protecting your house doesn’t have to be complicated, but you will have to decide between a do it yourself home security system versus a home security service. Both are viable options that can keep your valuables away from thieves – but how do you know which one is right for you? Let’s take a look at what’s involved with each type of system.
It’s true that alarm systems are no longer so confusing to install that only a professional can figure them out. It’s true that wireless is now one of the top, most installed systems in homes today.
It’s also true that monitoring services can protect your home – but even a monitoring service is not theft-proof. Because of the cost of a professionally installed and monitored system, many homeowners are now choosing to take care of their home’s protection themselves.
Getting the necessary supplies is as easy as ordering the systems online and having them delivered. One of the main perks is that you’re going to save on the equipment and also the cost of paying for a professional installer’s time to set up the system.
Setting one up is as easy as being able to read – if you can read the directions, you can accurately put in the system. There is one challenge with the do it yourself home security system versus home security service, and that is the wiring.
If you decide that you want to go with the hard wiring, unless you’re an electrician or have successfully installed a system into a home before, then you want to pay to have the installation done.
The reason for this is because the potential to mess up your home’s wiring is there and you can cause all kinds of additional problems (and incur wiring repair expenses) that you don’t want.
The good news is that if you do decide you want to install your home’s system, you can easily order a system that’s ready to go right out of the box. Plus, you don’t have to buy any extras unless you want more sensors than what came with your package.
This type of system is affordable on any budget and you can add features to your security system as time goes by, rather than having to come up with the entire cost all at once. When you buy a professionally installed system and opt to go with a service, you’re going to pay a lot. Plus, you’re going to get locked into a contract and then have to pay the company to keep an eye on your system so they can call if there’s a problem.
In the battle of do it yourself home security system versus home security service, what many users don’t know up front is that the hard-wiring can be thwarted by a savvy criminal if he cuts the phone line.
This can deaden your system and render it useless. Having someone watch your system and call if the alarm sounds a warning can be effective if the authorities are notified in an expedient manner.
Psychologists define ‘the dark core of personality’ – D-FACTOR Egoism, Machiavellianism, narcissism, psychopathy, sadism, spitefulness, and others are among the traits that stand for the malevolent dark sides of human personality. As results from a recently published German-Danish research project show, these traits share a common ‘dark core’. So, if you have one of these tendencies, you are also likely to have one or more of the others. In this video, I outline the study and explain what it means to you. Read the full study here.
I’m so excited to share my newest narcissistic abuse recovery coaching program – this one is a personalized, one-on-one Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Coaching Program that I’m calling Clear the Slate.
Not only will it save you $278 total in appointment discounts and services discounts, but it’ll also offer you tons of additional help and content, which you can keep forever to help you as you go forward.
The goal: Clear the Slate and Get Your Feet on Solid Ground: Stop Spinning Your Wheels (A 6-Week Personalized Program to Help You Find Center and Start Living Again)
Are you dealing with narcissistic abuse in a relationship, or have you dealt with it in the past? If so, you might be a candidate for this program.
As you’re going through this recovery and growth process of recognizing and getting through narcissistic abuse, or of getting over a narcissistic relationship (not to mention the mental damage done by it), you might start to feel like you’re not quite connected like you should be – or like you want to be.
Let me ask you: do you ever feel like there’s a sort of barrier or bubble around you that prevents you from actually experiencing life?
Or maybe you can’t quite “feel” the world around you? Or, is it kind of like like you’re looking at people through a fog or screen, or maybe like you just have no emotions at all?
If you’re feeling scattered, forgetting things and generally dissociating from yourself and your life as you work to heal from the abuse you endured during your narcissistic relationship, you’re not alone.
In fact, you might also be feeling a variety of PTSD-related symptoms as you go through this process, and that’s because you’ve been through an emotional hell, or you may still be going through it.
Here’s What’s In It for You
As we work together, you will learn how to stop spinning and put your feet on solid, level ground. By the time we’re finished, you’ll be ready to really start your new life and to begin creating the life and self you truly want and deserve.
This means you’ll learn:
To discover the exact reason and to let go of whatever brought you to this broken place in your life – and exactly how and why you should.
Why and how dissociation and other PTSD-related symptoms have literally saved your sanity and maybe even your life in the past, and why it’s so hard to let go of them.
How you can stop dissociating find center again.
Coping tactics for the weeks and months ahead as you go through your self-rediscovery process and get through the narcissistic abuse aftershocks.
How and why you’ve got to live in the moment.
Self-care affirmations, plans and daily routines to help you learn to love yourself, in a way that you never could before.
Included are the Following Weekly 45-Minute, One-on-One Coaching Sessions, Each Customized to Your Specific Situation and Needs
Week One: Push the ‘Restart Button’ On Your Life
Week Two: Letting Go of Old Baggage
Week Three: Managing Dissociation and PTSD 101
Week Four: How and Why to Start Living in the Moment
Week Five: Something to Anchor You
Week Six: Freedom and Self-Love: Developing Your Personal Passion Plan
And: Weekly Self-Discovery and Personal Development Missions:
Week One: Jumpstart Guide to Your Brand New Life
Week Two: Personal Baggage Inventory Tool: Figuring Out What You Can Leave at the “Station”
Week Three: Coping Tactics & Tools
Week Four: Tools for Development: Mantras for Moving Forward
Week Five: Anchoring Yourself: Your Personal Sign of Self-Actualization
Week Six: Your Passion Plan Building Kit
Plus: Tools to Help You Move Forward and Reclaim Your Life, Including:
Access to Coaching via App During the 6 Weeks and for 2 Weeks Afterward (Learn more at DailyCoach.App)
Daily & Weekly Reminders, Checklists and Related Reading Materials
Daily Affirmations, Journal Prompts, Exercises and Reflections sent to your private coaching inbox during the 6-week program.
Big news! We have recently released a brand-new special collection of inexpensive, inspiring jewelry pieces specifically for survivors of narcissistic abuse. The QueenBeeing Bee Inspired Jewelry Collection has been hand-selected for you by Angie Atkinson. This collection is regularly updated and specially curated for the SPANily.
These are the same pieces that Angie and her team give away a few times a month in the SPAN group. Angie wishes she could afford to give one to every member of the SPANily and she hopes to one day be able to, but until then, she offers this collection at the request of several SPANily members.
All proceeds go to support the QueenBeeing mission to help educate, comfort, support and connect victims and survivors of narcissistic abuse and to help them heal and become the best possible versions of themselves. Have jewelry or artwork you’d like to see featured in this collection? Contact our business manager, Melina, at firstname.lastname@example.org to arrange to have Angie take a look at your ideas.
A lot of our readers have asked about our affiliation with Life Makeover Academy, so I thought I’d fill you in today! To make it simple, here are the most important bits of information from the LMA about page:
Founded by certified life coach and author Angie Atkinson (and backed by BlissFireMedia), the Life Makeover Academy‘s mission is to help you discover, understand and overcome any obstacle that stands in the way of the manifestation of your ideal life. Plus, we’ll teach you how to take your life to the next level and to become the ideal version of yourself.
At the Life Makeover Academy, we’re about just one thing – creating the life you truly want and deserve!
It’s about your personal life, your physical health, your spiritual and psychological wellbeing and even your professional life!
We believe you can have everything you want so much that we’re creating a whole new MOVEMENT here at the Life Makeover Academy!
Whether you’re just getting started in life or you’ve been around the block a few times, chances are that you’re full of thoughts, experiences and ideas that lead you to want to fix parts of your life.
And, being human, it’s only sensible that you’ve got so many different things you’d like to change that you don’t even know where to begin. Maybe a “whole life” change is too much for you?
But here’s the thing. It’s really not about jumping into a whole new personality by tomorrow afternoon–nope. In reality, what this whole life fix movement is all about is pretty simple–it’s a whole attitude change and comes along with a whole host of tools to help you in the day-to-day challenges that beat you down.
The Life Makeover Academy is focused on improving every aspect of your life. Take some time and look around! Try out some of our free courses, and get involved in our community. If you’re tired of the life you’re living and you’re ready to create serious personal change, you have found your new online home.
I don’t know enough about the legal system to be able to do it alone.
Have those thoughts crossed your mind? I know they crossed mine when I was preparing to leave my narcissist. But as I stressed over these things, I realized something HUGE: If you have a simple divorce, with or without children, you are capable of filing a divorce on your own.
Even though my education is as a paralegal, filing for divorce was so daunting, partially because I had not worked in the field since I stopped working 11 years ago to raise my family.
Can I do it alone? How much is it going to cost? What if my spouse gets an attorney?
I have some things I would like to share that I learned along the way while filing for my divorce. Now that I am nearing the end of this journey that seems impossible, I have gained a lot of confidence in myself that I had been lacking from the years of abuse – and no matter the outcome I know I did right by my children.
Is money the issue?
If money is the issue that holds you back, you can go to the clerk’s office and ask to file indigent status. After filing my paperwork, spending half my rent money that was due and that I would struggle to replace, I learned the hard way that you can file your divorce at absolutely no cost to you if approved by the clerk of courts. I ended up being approved at a later date, but they did not return the $500 I already paid out.
You can also find a local domestic violence center near you. They may have a listing of pro bono attorneys that would be willing to take your case if you meet their criteria at no cost to you. There is a ton of help out there; you just need to figure out where to find it.
Where to begin?
You can start with an online search for your county and state in the US along with legal forms. I apologize that I have not learned about the process in other countries, but a Google search is still a safe bet to begin. After reading the instructions and figuring out which form best fits your situation, print out all of the pages you will need. This is usually not too hard to figure out.
After printing out the paperwork, complete every question. If it does not fit your situation you can put N/A on the line so the court knows it does not apply to you. It is very important that every line and every page is filled out in its entirety.
Once you have taken your time to fill out the paperwork, you return them to the clerk’s office to have them filed. You can also pick up the paperwork from the clerk’s office already printed and in order and it can be done with a small fee if you are unable to print them.
Even though filing for divorce alone without representation from an attorney seems impossible, the court system has made it a lot easier. And, if you get lucky, your spouse won’t respond and you more than likely get what you’ve asked for. If not, you have a little more work on your hands but so does your spouse – and you will be two steps ahead.
If you are thinking about starting the process of filing for divorce and you have any questions on how to start or help in finding what you need, please leave a comment and I will help in any way I can.