Are you in a relationship with someone who makes you feel crazy and "not good enough" all the time?
Do you find yourself constantly shocked at the outrageously disrespectful behavior and excessive bullying of a friend, family member or co-worker?
Narcissists and people with narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) make you feel worthless and numb, and they leave you wondering if you're even a real person sometimes.
Being involved with a narcissist can be a crazy roller-coaster ride of emotions - from the highest of the highs to the lowest of the lows.
That's because their gaslighting and manipulation tactics are so well-honed and laser-targeted that you often don’t even realize that you’ve become codependent and enmeshed in a toxic relationship until it’s too late.
You're NOT ALONE. I know because I've been there.
The pain of being in a narcissistic relationship is something that you don't get unless you’ve been there, and that’s where I'm uniquely qualified to help you.
See, I'm also a survivor of narcissistic relationships - that's what led me to you today.
That’s what offers me the unique ability to understand, and to offer insight and actionable steps to overcome the horrific emotional abuse and toxic mind games of a narcissist. It's what helps me relate to to my clients and readers so effectively.
You are more powerful than you think. Let me teach you how to stand up for yourself.
Knowledge is power. Admitting the issue is the first step. Next, you'll learn to understand, identify and overcome the behaviors of the narcissist.
That's when you'll - and begin to heal - whether that means inside the relationship or by ending it.
So no more putting band-aids on this problem, alright? Stick with me and we will get this figured out together.
Plus: The Ultimate Resource List for Victims and Survivors of Narcissism
You're probably also well-conditioned to avoid disappointing the narcissist and are actively making sure to give the narcissist whatever he or she wants, right?
In this video, I'm answering the question: how will a narcissist react when they don't get what they want? What does a narcissist do when you disappoint them and why do narcissists react differently than "normal" people when it comes to dealing with unexpected problems and challenges in their lives?
Join me in the brand-new 30-Day TOO BLESSED TO BE STRESSED Challenge!
When you join the challenge, you'll get a daily dose of inner-peace-packed content from Angie Atkinson, certified life coach and narcissistic abuse recovery expert.
That means that over the course of the coming month, you’ll be learning new things and new ways to handle relaxing and reducing stress.
In addition to the abuse you've suffered, you're dealing with the hot mess that our society likes to call a "life" - and boy, life is really overwhelming these days, right?
The fact is that we live in such a busy world where we’re always reachable, constantly bombarded with news updates, email alerts, and of course advertisements. Social media puts us under a lot of pressure to document the perfect life, and in between all that we’re juggling family and career, while paying off student debt and a large mortgage.
It's really no wonder we’re more stressed than ever and stress related illnesses are on the rise.
It’s high time to relax more and take a more active approach to stress reduction - and you MUST do it before it kills you, my friend.
I invite you to do just that right along with me over the course of the next 30 days. Each day I’ll have a new tip or idea to share with you on the topic.
Each day, we’re faced with the choice to create peace or create stress. This can be a challenging task on a good day. On a bad day, it feels impossible. The constant ups and downs in life are a given. They’re largely uncontrollable. But you can control your response to them. You can learn to feel peaceful in challenging times.
Find the peace you need to thrive after narcissistic abuse:
Give yourself the advice you would give a friend. It’s difficult to make decisions when you’re emotionally compromised. But the path forward is more obvious to you if someone else is struggling. Imagine that your friend has the same challenge you’re facing. What advice would you give them?
Ask yourself what you’re learning from this experience. Are you learning the importance of saving your money? Are you learning not to overextend yourself? Are you learning how to deal with the death of a loved one?
Every hardship provides a lesson. Determine what you can learn from the experience.
Write in a journal. Let your emotions flow out onto paper. There’s something cathartic about writing. It feels like the emotion is leaving your body and taking residence in a new location.
After unloading your negative emotions, use your journal to make a list of possible solutions to your dilemma. What resources do you have available? Whom can you contact for help or support?
What are you afraid of? If you’re feeling out of sorts, you’re afraid of something. What is it? Defining your fear will make it a little less scary. Ask yourself what is the worst thing likely to happen.
Practice mindfulness. We make our challenges more challenging by continuously churning through them. You think about your issue while you’re in the shower, driving to work, eating lunch, talking with friends, or watching TV. You never get a break.
Mindfulness is simply paying attention to your environment and the task at hand. If you’re eating dinner, your mind should be on eating, not thinking about your difficulties. It’s challenging to control your thoughts, but the peace you experience can’t be beat.
Tame your mind first. It’s a common mistake. You focus on solving your challenge first. Then you believe you’ll feel better. This is logical, but slow and challenging. Get your mind under control, and then your problem is easier to solve. You’ll also feel better more quickly. Quiet your mental noise first and then search for solutions.
Remember all of your previous issues that turned out okay. Think about the challenges you’ve faced in the past. You survived and moved on. You’ll get over this, too. Believe that everything will work out for the best.
What was the worst thing that happened to you during your elementary school years?
Look for the helpers. Whether there’s a fire, an earthquake, or a homeless family, there’s always someone helping. There are people available to help you, too. Look for the helpers and you’ll find them.
Feeling stressed is a typical response when life takes an unexpected turn. Our responses to hardship are habitual. Habits can be altered or broken. New habits can be created. Avoid the belief that your negative feelings are happening to you like bad weather. You can choose your focus and manage your thoughts. Find peace first and then solve your challenge.