Weekend Booster Shot: A Reminder That You ARE Good Enough!

Weekend Booster Shot: A Reminder That You ARE Good Enough!

It's time to stop believing the lies the narcissist tells you about yourself and start taking back your power, my friend. This compilation contains five videos designed to help you do just that - click below to watch and get your weekend booster shot of self-love and self-confidence. Hugs and love to you all!

This Woman Says Her Narcissist Husband Has Healed

This Woman Says Her Narcissist Husband Has Healed

Do you think it's possible to heal a narcissist? Maybe it has to do with your definition of "healed" - right? 

Narcissists, Psychopaths and the Weird Sex Stuff: Personality Disorders and Sexuality (Compilation)

Narcissists, Psychopaths and the Weird Sex Stuff: Personality Disorders and Sexuality (Compilation)

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Why are narcissists so easily bored all the time? Narcissistic Personality Disorder FAQ

Why are narcissists so easily bored all the time? Narcissistic Personality Disorder FAQ

What is it that causes narcissists to become so easily bored? They get bored in relationships, they get bored in life - they require so much attention and supply. That's what we're covering in this video. 

Is this narcissist cured enough for you?

Is this narcissist cured enough for you?

Today I’m sharing a story from a SPAN member who says her husband has been healed of his narcissism by Dr. David Hawkins, who has claimed to know the cure for narcissism. With her permission, I’m printing her letter in full here – but we’ll refer to her husband as Mr. X to protect their identities.

“Hi Angie, just watched your video referencing Dr. Hawkins. My husband Mr. X (name changed) and I have been clients of Dr. Hawkins’ for 18 months. Prior to Dr. H, nothing worked. Mr. X could sell ice to Eskimos and fool me, himself, our previous counselor, etc.

Mr. X didn't believe he was abusive or narcissistic; he only acknowledged being self-centered and feeling entitled.

Dr. Hawkins was effective for a few reasons:

  1. Hawkins knew who and what he was dealing with-- he called out every attempt of blame shifting, gaslighting, etc. He easily drilled down and identified Mr. X's triggers.
  2. He taught me how to respond and react in a way that cut off Mr. X from abusing me and he wasn't allowed to interact with me again until he made appropriate amends as approved by Dr. H. If his amends were BS, Dr. H called him out on that too.
  3. Over time he identified Mr. X's abuse cycle and the triggers for each phase of it. He taught Mr. X how to identify his thinking errors along with a process to replace his stinking thinking with healthy thinking.
  4. The abuse cycle used to be short, repeated every few days or weekly, then as Mr. X became a humble participant in his own therapy with Dr. H the abuse cycle occurred maybe once a month. Mr. X's "narcissist mode episodes" happened less and less.
  5. It was hard work, we had to work together daily, per Dr. H we read Lundy Bancroft's book, "Why does he do that?", this taught us both why abuser's abuse, how they think, what needs to occur for them to change, etc. This was one of many helpful assignments from Dr. H.
  6. If the NPD spectrum was a 1 to 10 scale, Mr. X would have been rated a 4-5. I think any WILLING Narc rated 5 and under could change with Dr. H's approach, but only if they truly want to and only if they stick with it.
  7. Mr. X spends a min if 1 hour a day working on his recovery. He also worked the 12 steps even though he doesn't drink! Many years ago, Dr. H wrote a book on the 12 steps, basically the principals teach you to let go of resentment and a lot of the workbooks and exercises address narc behaviors.

So, I wanted to share! It was hard, it's a new lifestyle, Mr. X will be in therapy forever.  His inner narc is rarely triggered, and if I even think I'm seeing a glimpse of it I announce it and Mr. X uses his tools before it takes over. 

Just like anything, it's not for everyone. I'm the Mom of a son who happens to have ODD, Asperger’s, and Anxiety. I've mastered identifying and redirecting triggers. I don't want to be a Mom to a Narc and I refuse to do so.

Before Dr. H I was apartment shopping and thought I'd consult him as one last effort before running! Mr. X had very good qualities that were present way more than his Narc side.

Dr. H saved my husband and our marriage. Your videos so helpful in teaching me more about gaslighting etc. It made it easy to see what was happening and get help! Thanks Angie, you are a hero!”

My response is included in this video.

Is there a cure for NPD?

Is there a cure for NPD?

Can a narcissist be cured? Dr. David Hawkins' says he's healing narcissistic personalty disorder Discover. Understand. Overcome. It's how smart people change their lives! Subscribe to my channel: vid.io/xoJJ

Before a viewer asked me to look into it, I wasn't very familiar with Dr .David Hawkins, who reportedly "debunks the notion that sending your man off for individual therapy for his narcissistic traits is effective.

He suggests that it is not and that "you, the partner of someone with narcissistic traits can be very effective in helping him to heal."

Today, I'm answering a question from a viewer on those controversial statements.

The question comes from Robyn Newberry, who wrote: "Angie Atkinson, what do you think of that Dr. David Hawkins who thinks Narcissism can be cured!? I'm like, why even torture yourself by trying to do the impossible!? I'm sorry, but after the pure Hell I went through, I couldn't do it again to myself and my daughter especially."

Is it possible to heal narcissistic personality disorder? Can you expect a sociopath to use psychology for healing?