Grandstanding, Virtue Signalling and Toxic People

Grandstanding, Virtue Signalling and Toxic People


Virtue Signalling and Grandstanding: Narcissist Manipulation Tactics Explained – Narcissists use virtue signaling and grandstanding and pretend to have ethics so they can fool you into thinking they’re decent people.

Narcissists will also use this tactic to give them a stronghold when they do mess up in the future. For example, you may hear a sob story about how an ex cheated on them, and they may say that they would NEVER do such a thing because it hurt them so much. You may totally fall for this story because it’s actually true for you – someone did cheat on you in the past, and you can’t stand the idea of making anyone else feel how you felt.

But in reality, the narcissist only tells you this so that when and if you do catch them cheating in the future, they can scream in your face and remind you of how morally superior they are and ask you how DARE you ask them if they cheated when you KNOW how strongly they feel about it. And then they might even throw in “geez, if I am going to be accused of it, maybe I should really do it.”

Fact: basic human decency should be the default for most people. But narcissists are different: they lack this “basic decency” quality because they do not have empathy – so they don’t care how you feel and how it affects you.

Another reason narcissists do this is because it helps them to set you up for a standard of behavior during the relationship. They may do this by stating their own values, or they may even use stories about their ex or another person hurt them in the past.

Here is a light-hearted example to consider: you may hear about how their ex never did the dishes and how it made them just miserable – and then you may decide that you’ll do the dishes every day of your life in order to show the narcissist that people do, in fact, do the dishes and that you are different from the ex.

Basically, the idea then is to teach you how to treat them during the relationship and to put “sticking points” in place so that if and when the mask falls off and you are able to catch a glimpse of their true selves, they can attack you with these points. The point they make: “I have always told you I’d never do that, so you should blindly trust me.”

In other words, the narcissist claims they’re (insert quality here) honest, faithful, otherwise morally correct, and they expect you to be the same, but they have no problem twisting things and lying to you and/or manipulating you to get what they want.

New Research Reveals the ‘Dark Core’ of Personality: The D Factor

New Research Reveals the ‘Dark Core’ of Personality: The D Factor

Dark Core of Personality Defined: New Study Exposes the D Factor in Dark Triad Qualities

Psychologists define ‘the dark core of personality’ – D-FACTOR Egoism, Machiavellianism, narcissism, psychopathy, sadism, spitefulness, and others are among the traits that stand for the malevolent dark sides of human personality. As results from a recently published German-Danish research project show, these traits share a common ‘dark core’. So, if you have one of these tendencies, you are also likely to have one or more of the others. In this video, I outline the study and explain what it means to you. Read the full study here.

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