Parental Alienation and Narcissism – Whether you’re dealing with divorce or just custody issues, parental alienation syndrome can be incredibly difficult for everyone involved. Let’s discuss the parental alienation signs and typical presentation, plus the definition and why narcissistic parents use parental alienation against us.
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You may not realize it, but a cluttered and disorganized environment can have a huge effect on the amount of anxiety you feel. When things around us and in our field of vision are physically in disarray, it can cause our minds to feel just as scattered. It’s been documented that feelings of helplessness, anxiety and overwhelm can result when our surroundings are a mess.
Many of us don’t give enough credit to the fact that a disorganized environment can be a real problem that affects us throughout all aspects of our lives. Take a look at the science behind clutter’s effects and consider some suggestions for how to declutter your home in order to ease your mind.
A messy environment causes your senses to be overstimulated. Your brain is overloaded with too many stimuli, primarily of visual means, but this applies to tactile and olfactory also.
When your mind tries to take in and process all of this, it becomes overwhelmed by trying to handle the unnecessary stimuli. Let’s face it, when there’s clutter, most of the items are probably unnecessary. You’re making your brain work too hard, and it’s stressing you out.
Because your head is so busy processing and wading through all this excess stuff, you won’t feel relaxed. Coming across this mess everywhere you turn tells your brain that there’s no completion to the task.
Our minds need to have a sense of closure in order to move from an alert phase. When you are stimulated and on-edge for extended periods of time, such as in your workplace or at home, you’re bound to feel anxious or nervous, not to mention guilty, embarrassed and overwhelmed. Messiness is also emotionally frustrating because it leads to wasted time and lost items, among other issues.
Cleaning up your mess may seem impossible, but it’s actually a problem that has a solution and that can be dealt with in stages. Breaking a big job down will make it seem more doable. You can manage this by assigning tasks to roommates or family so that everyone shares in the load. If you live alone, just break the job down into segments.
Clean one room or even one section at a time. This approach tricks your mind into believing there’s an end in sight. Once you get started, you’ll be surprised to actually see that end approaching as you tackle it all in baby steps.
Take some hints from the organization shows on TV. Create piles for things you plan to donate, throw away and keep. This is also a strategic way to trick your mind.
Essentially, you’re organizing your organizing. Breaking things down always makes them seem easier and increases your motivation to get started. We all know that starting is half the battle, right?
You can declutter your home in order to declutter your mind. The reward will be the immense relief and lower levels of anxiety you feel when the job is done. Keep your most-used items close at hand, and be sure everything has a place. These steps will help you to maintain the sense of order you just created.
Here’s a video I did on this topic for a previous challenge – I hope you find it helpful.
A viewer asks: “I am pretty sure my ex is a Narc. The biggest problem I have is I feel I caused it. I always described our relationship as a push/pull in the beginning. He would be good for a little bit and then go to his shitty self-centered ways. But when he loved you, it was like being engulfed in the sun. I met a man and we started talking. I was feeling like I needed to leave my marriage and yes, one thing lead to another and I ended up having an affair. I tried to divorce him. He was so devasted he couldn’t go to work, said he’d get on medication… which I knew he needed for his depression. I felt horrible and I stayed. Fast forward 13 years later, we’re divorced. He had many affairs… 9 that I know of to date. I lived like we were walking on eggshells. I kept putting up with everything because I felt I did this to him… my behavior turned him into this monster. Can that happen? Can someone turn into this from being hurt like that?”
I’ll answer this question and fully explain my answer in this video.