Has someone called you a narcissist, and you don't believe you fit the bill? I've been there - and I'm about to fill you in on a situation that has recently occurred over on my YouTube channel's comments section.
You guessed it - I have occasional commenters who claim that I must be a narcissist - obviously, because it's not possible to understand anyone's psychology unless you ARE one of those people, right?
Pardon my sarcasm there, but the fact is that MOST people who communicate with me understand where I'm coming from. Generally, those who don't understand me have a good reason for it - choice or difference in opinion - and maybe, at times, I hit a bit too close to home. Who knows? In any case, I'm once again addressing this silly issue.
In this video, I'll address these comments - and I'll fill you in on WHY I won't argue with people who attempt to label me a narcissist.
"Discussion is an exchange of knowledge; an argument an exchange of ignorance." ~Robert Quillen
"People's minds are changed through observation and not through argument." ~Will Rogers
Look, healthy narcissism is self-focus, self-confidence, self-interest and personal drive, but these qualities must coexist with a healthy concern for others and the ability to genuinely empathize with them.
Unhealthy, toxic narcissism and NPD involve the lack of empathy and concern for others, combined with an unhealthy amount of self-focus. And of course, this kind of narcissistic person is secretly quite insecure and very troubled, in some cases - but you may never know that unless you look beyond the smoke and mirrors.
So, watch that video and let me know what you think. Am I a narcissist? Go ahead, hit me with it. I can take it.