Divorcing a Narcissist: Compilation on Leaving, Surviving and Thriving After Toxic Marriage by Angie | Feb 4, 2017 (Visited 435 times, 1 visits today) 1 Comment Colleen Nersesian on February 7, 2017 at 4:25 am Hi Angie, AKA My Angel, Last June , when I found out that my STBE was Fn a 24 year old (he is 61 and God forgive me, just gross) I came to the realization that he was never going to change. This , I found out 2 days shy of our 33 wedding anniversary. I didn’t know what narcissist meant until then. He , aka “reptile” is a classic Overt Narcissist. Okay, my one tidbit of advice, which worked beautifully for me in regard to material possessions. So, on the day I decided to leave, for all eternity , I started in the attic. I went through every box, bin and crate. I said to myself,”If I never have the opportunity to visit here again, what would I take?” … When I made the decision to leave, I must interject, I drew up a “Separation Agreement ” that we had notarized by our lawyer. I say this because each state has their own laws regarding abandonment. It took several weeks, tears , heartache and second guessing. Fast forward to today February 6, 2017. The “things” I chose to bring with me are all I need. There is a huge home full of “stuff” back in NC that I will not miss!!! I AM FREE OF THE NARC!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I absolutely WILL NOT EVER let him hurt me, ever again!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Although this is far from over, I am so strong, with the education and empowerment you have given me. I know that I will prevail and be granted , “The Plantation”!!! Can I visit you for coffee?? I’m a New Yawker , feel me with the cawfee!!!! Love you Angie, you have made an incredibly positive influence in my life. Nite nite XO Reply Submit a Comment Cancel reply Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *Comment Name * Email * Save my name, email, and website in this browser for the next time I comment.