Does being with a narcissist give you narcissistic tendencies? Narcissistic Abuse Recovery FAQ by Angie | Mar 30, 2017 (Visited 229 times, 1 visits today) 1 Comment Jack on March 31, 2017 at 1:18 pm Hi Angie, Have I ever wondered whether I am a narc too? All the time! When you’ve been conditioned to think of nothing but the narc’s needs, in my case for 2 decades, thinking of yourself for a change is very selfish-feeling. I struggle with this line in the sand constantly. Our self-worth has been skewed by a purposeful, deliberate undermining (mind-&*^$-ery). We have been taught that our needs are trivial and selfish and wrong. But we learned that from folks who excel at lying. My narc is the consummate actress. My personal issue, like many other of your viewers, is that I am a people-pleaser/co-dependent as a result of having grown up with a narc mother. So, absolutely, putting myself first is strange and uncomfortable. I’m still working through that after a year of separation. I’ve only been NC for about 2 months though. Hope made me think the nice act was genuine. Remember, if you give them enough rope, they’ll hang themselves. I, thankfully, never invited her back into my home. Whew! Be strong, my brothers and sisters, it gets better everyday. Head up! Move forward! Stop looking back, you know what that looks like! The most powerful word in any language for us is “NO”! “No, I can’t drop everything right now for your needs”, “No, I have other plans.”, “No, I refuse to accept the Kool-Aid of your evil agenda and believe your bullshit anymore. If a single “No” brings out the demon in your narc, laugh and run like hell! Be strong, you are worthy of healthy love and appreciation. Have a great weekend; do something just for you. Reply Leave a Reply to Jack Cancel reply Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *Comment Name * Email * Save my name, email, and website in this browser for the next time I comment.