There's an old story about a child trying to move a heavy stone while his father looks on. The child works and works, but is just not strong enough. Finally, he tells his father, "I can't do it. It's impossible."

His father responds, "Of course you can. You haven't used all the strength you have available to you yet." The little boy answers that he has tried his hardest, and still can't do it, to which the father responds, "You haven't asked me to help you yet."

Sometimes, when you're trying to recover from narcissistic abuse, it can feel like you're moving that heavy rock. You struggle and fight, but it's so hard to stick to the plan that you give up. There comes a time to recognize that asking for help is a sign of strength, not weakness. Enlisting the aid of friends, family and a good support group can bolster your efforts and help you overcome setbacks that threaten to derail your narcissistic abuse recovery efforts. Instead of trying to go it alone, try a few of these suggestions to help you stay on track with the help of friends and family.

1.Get a support systemGather up trusted friends and family members and make them part of your inner circle - your support system. Don't have people you feel comfortable sharing your situation with? How about a whole group of people who have been there, done that? Join my SPAN group, right here. It's totally free and confidential.

2.Get your family on the right page. Husbands, wives, children and siblings can offer support in unexpected ways. Something as simple as a sincere compliment at the right time can be all you need to nudge you onward. By the same token, refuse to let them sabotage your recovery efforts. Sometimes even people who are acting as the flying monkeys of a toxic narcissist don't know what they're doing. Give yourself the freedom and space you need to clarify the situation - and don't be afraid to take a step back from people who are toxic for you, especially during recovery. 

3. Join my small group coaching sessions. There's a lot to be said for seeking out the support of others who are fighting the same battle you are. Whatever it is that motivates you, you can find it in my small group coaching sessions - and you'll get one-on-one help as well as being able to connect with and learn from your fellow group members during our sessions. Healthy sharing, companionship, encouragement, applause and practical, common sense advice from others who are also fighting to take back your life can all make this whole narcissistic abuse recovery stuff a whole lot easier. 

4. Read all you can about the topic. Read up on this site, or visit http://booksangiewrote.com to pick up my books - all less than $5. 

5. Get one-on-one coaching - sign up right here. 

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