1. Make sure you tell someone you’re going no contact, and that you touch base with them each day. Accountability is intensely helpful – consider this person sort of your “no contact” buddy. If you don’t have a friend or family member you can trust, join an online support group like SPAN and report your success daily! Join SPAN at QueenBeeing.com/SPAN
2. Make a list of all the reasons you’re going no contact, and put it somewhere you can easily access it for those tough moments. Pull it out anytime you feel weak and remind yourself why you’re doing this! Consider having a copy of it on your phone, too – just in case you need it when you’re not at home.
3. Go to QueenBeeing.com/60days and download your free no-contact calendar. The calendar is filled with activities to keep you on track during the early days of no-contact.
4. Take your time and allow your emotions to flow – but not forever. I suggest setting an end-date on your mourning. Choose any day you like, but never longer than 30 days. I suggest anywhere from a weekend to a month, depending on the length and nature of the relationship. When the “mourning phase” is done, decide that it’s time to start your life over again – and really do it!
5. Start focusing on yourself. Consider getting a new look, and start focusing on your passion. Not sure what that is, exactly? Visit QueenBeeing.com/passion and download your free Passion Finder.
6. Get out of the house! When you’re ready, get out and do something different. Check out meetup.com and find a group that shares an interest you have – and be social. It’ll feel weird at first, but even casual contact with the outside world can be so healthy for you. If you need it, there’s an online course at Life Makeover Academy you can take to revamp your social life. Take the course, right here. Or, try this 3-pack of courses to help you get through it – this one includes a 30-day empowerment bootcamp that you can do in the comfort of your home.
7. Remember that going no contact opens your life for new and better relationships, once you’ve healed. None of us are getting any younger – and don’t you deserve to be happy? Keep your end goals in mind. Even though it feels easier sometimes to go back to what you know, in the long run, you will be glad you stayed no contact. Trust me.