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Editor's Note: If you need inspiration and motivation, you NEED to read this post! This beautiful submission came from one of our SPANily members and fellow survivors named Julie Liang. Not only is she a gifted artist, but she is an inspiring example of someone who is...read more
What Happens When Narcissists Get Old? The Aging Narcissist - Does It Ever End? NPD and aging lead to far more than a standard midlife crisis.read more
Narcissistic Personality Disorder Vs. Self-Confidence: Here's What You Need To Know Have you ever wondered what the difference is between narcissistic personality disorder and self-confidence? What is it that makes a person a toxic narcissist versus the qualities that...read more
The abuser has harmed you again, is perhaps gone having discarded you, or you’ve left. ...but you’re still thinking you “love” them. These are the words in your own voice echoing in your head—the soft-focus, romanticized ideation that your abuser actually deserves...read more
It's time to get real. Is your toxic relationship making you fat? How exactly does the narcissist affect your health? Can being in a relationship with a toxic narcissist cause you to gain weight, or to have otherwise disordered eating? How does it work and why does it...read more
What is Self-Love? (the carpenter’s level illustration) ______________ The concept of self-love and honor is woefully undertaught, even being misunderstood as egomania. To love, care for, appropriately protect, and maintain yourself is absolutely necessary for a...read more
NPD does not evaporate with a change in relationship partners, counsel, nor a job change or new home, etc. There's no new person or thing that makes the narcissist suddenly normal, rational, or better behaved. For those of us who dealt with a drug/alcohol-affected...read more
One moment you're nothing The next moment you're born Dropped into a dark, angry, scary world You'd much rather ignore A mother's paranoid toxic mental state A father evil and psychotic with a deadly gun One sister's jealous dangerous hate The other brainwashed,...read more
A Few Resources to Help: Sick relationship red flags What you can do to start to feel better PLAN to leave a narcissist Learn more about narcissism & recoveryread more
A member posted in our SPANily Support Group for Co-Parenting with a Narcissist that her ex was making her son's life more complicated by not taking him to regularly scheduled events for a group he was involved in, and a fellow member offered some really great (and...read more
Dating after narcissistic abuse is more complicated than you might think. Here are some ideas on what to expect from yourself and from your new partner.read more
The Aging Narcissist, Midlife Crisis and Losing Narcissistic Supply - If you know or love an aging narcissist, then you know that whether they get cranky, mean and crotchety or just plain pathetic - when a narcissist gets old, it's no fun for anyone. If you're in any...read more
Do you ever miss the narcissist so much it hurts? You might be dealing with trauma bonding. Take this quick test and find out, right now.read more
If you’ve ever been involved with a narcissist, you may be aware that when they don’t get what they want, they tend to display blatant narcissistic rage, and if that doesn’t work, they will jump right into narcissistic injury (or, vice versa). What Causes Narcissistic...read more
"Cult recruiting methods based on dosing victims with the brain chemicals released during capture bonding would make cults even more of a problem than they are now." ~ Keith Henson Have you ever considered how much a narcissist seems to have in common with a cult...read more
So, sort of an amusing discussion happened this morning in my SPAN group. One of my admins said that having gone to the dentist proved to be more enjoyable than actually hanging out with her toxic narcissist. That sparked her idea of a blog post entitled "Things...
When you're looking to get out of a toxic relationship with a narcissist, sometimes it helps to think about what you need that you're not getting. This way, as you make your plans for moving forward, you can visualize your amazing new life properly - and make room for...
You have to do what you love to do, not get stuck in that comfort zone of a regular job. Life is not a dress rehearsal. This is it. –Lucinda Basset To exceed beyond your wildest expectations you must begin with wild expectations. –Anonymous High expectations are the...
"Once all struggle is grasped, miracles are possible." ~ Mao Zedong Would you believe me if I told you that you have the power to change your world? What if I said that you could choose literally every aspect of your life, at least as far as you believe you could?...
When you've been abused by a narcissist, the recovery can be hard. When you go back into the "real" world with "normal" people, you might find that you struggle when anyone criticizes you - you may instantly feel put-upon, upset or even angry, because you are so used...
A radiant spirit shatters insecurities. I take part in activities that keep my spirit alive and make me feel good about myself. I focus on maintaining positive energy. As a result, it is easy for me to let go of my insecurities. I surround myself with those who are...
"All of the biggest technological inventions created by man – the airplane, the automobile, the computer – says little about his intelligence, but speaks volumes about his laziness." – Mark Kennedy Life is Different Than it Used to Be We live in an online world...
While no two people are the same, we all have one thing in common - the little "roadblocks" that get in our way as we try to figure out what we really want from life. Roadblocks stop some people from ever making a change, but they motivate others to keep on going to...
As you probably know, I write about narcissism, NPD (narcissistic personality disorder) and toxic relationships in general pretty often - but only in an effort to help people to overcome them. I also coach people who have been affected by narcissistic abuse in...
One of the most difficult aspects of being tangled in a narcissist's web is learning to set firm boundaries with them. Narcissists typically have poor boundaries themselves; they like to win and maintain power, and they don't like others setting boundaries on them....
A lot of our readers have asked about our affiliation with Life Makeover Academy, so I thought I'd fill you in today! To make it simple, here are the most important bits of information from the LMA about page: Founded by certified life coach and author Angie Atkinson...read more
I know it is time. I know they are toxic. Divorce is so expensive. I can’t afford an attorney. I don’t know enough about the legal system to be able to do it alone. Have those thoughts crossed your mind? I know they crossed mine when I was preparing to leave my...read more
QueenBeeing has a new group coaching option to help you through narcissistic abuse recovery! Can't afford private coaching but you still need personal attention in your recovery? Looking for a more supportive group environment but prefer to speak instead of type? We...read more
Dear SPANily, I want to tell a story from a friend that stopped me in my tracks when I first read it: In 1952, at age 42, a wealthy New York physicist and entrepreneur was sent home to die. His body was riddled with disease, and he had less than two weeks to live....read more
Big news! QueenBeeing.com now has an Instagram TV (IGTV) channel! This means that if you prefer Instagram or IGTV to YouTube, you can now watch Angie's videos in portrait mode on your favorite platform. Don't worry, though - Angie's YouTube channel isn't going...read more
By popular demand, we've launched our official QueenBeeing Merch Store at TeeSpring! Here are just a few examples of the designs in our store - each created by Angie Atkinson. Visit the shop and tell us what YOU think! Got an idea for a design? Tweet @angieatkinson!...read more
"Some people aren't loyal to you, they are loyal to their need of you. Once their need changes, so does their loyalty." ~Unknown Ever have a "frenemy" - you know, the "friend slash enemy" combo, all neatly wrapped up into one friend, relative, co-worker or...read more
What is Narcissistic Abuse? Why Should You Care? With #WNAAD Founder Bree Bonchay - Talking World Narcissistic Abuse Awareness Day with Founder Bree Bonchay - As one of the featured speakers this year, I am so excited about WNAAD! Meet Bree Bonchay, the founder, and...read more
Meet QueenBeeing's New Narcissistic Relationship Recovery Coach, Lise Colucci Schedule with Lise: http://queenbeeing.com/lise Lise Colucci is an intuitive healer and certified life coach, as well as a certified narcissistic abuse recovery coach. She is a long-time...read more
Narcissists Control You With Money: Financial Abuse in Toxic Relationships In this video, I'm sharing the truth about narcissists and how they try to control you with money. Related articles Narcissists and Public Humiliation: How & Why Narcs Shame You Publicly...read more