Sex and the Narcissist: When the Narcissist Withholds Sex to Control and Hurt You by Angie | Feb 9, 2017 (Visited 581 times, 1 visits today) 2 Comments Laura on February 9, 2017 at 12:44 pm Angie! The sex addict narcs also withhold sex to control you! Mine would tell me “I don’t care if you please yourself next to me, I’m just not attracted to you right now.” Reply JBG on February 10, 2017 at 4:10 pm Thank u so much for this video. I not only found it relatable, but very informative. My supposedly very religious ex claimed he was waiting until marriage to have sex, yet he would engage in everything but (I’m not certain if certain language is frowned upon, not that I’m planning to write anything crass…so I’ll just say) “traditional penetration.” He often shamed me for having a libido and even the infrequent sexual experiences we had together were very mechanical, unemotional, passionless, lacked any sort of real togetherness and usually surrounded by some sort of negativity….which was always my fault. Yet he loved strip clubs and from what I’m told by his guy friends/roommates the type of porn that made them very uncomfortable…I’m sure this all sounds familiar to u, but after watching ur video and thinking (which I usually do visually) about my sexual life/experiences with him, I can understand y he thought and/or behaved as he did…thank u Reply Submit a Comment Cancel reply Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *Comment Name * Email * Save my name, email, and website in this browser for the next time I comment.