They never tell you exactly what you’ll lose when you go no contact or when you break up with an abusive narcissist. Here are 109 things that you lose when you lose the narcissist. This list isn’t just made up – it contains real experiences from actual survivors of narcissistic abuse who have healed themselves with our help. Compiled after a survey of more than 100k people in our SPANily narcissistic abuse recovery support groups.