I take the time to reflect on my words and actions and determine if those behaviors exemplify this person. I look at that blueprint each day and take the necessary steps to match my actions with it.
I acknowledge that sometimes I simply react instead of thinking first. I get so worked up by others or unpleasant life situations that my feelings overshadow my goal.
I am a conscious being. I am instantly aware when I disappoint myself by giving into negative emotions. When that happens, I take steps to renew my focus. I realign my actions with my blueprint and all is well with my world once again.
Today, I vow to remain aware of the person I want to be. I commit to carefully assessing my actions to ensure they are aligned with my behavioral goals. I desire to be a better person and acknowledge that there is always room for improvement.
Today’s Self-Reflection Questions:
1. Do I listen to the feedback from others about my behaviors?
2. Is there room for improvement where my behaviors are concerned?
3. How many times do I allow myself to make the same mistake?
Deep inside, I know what is right for me. I am aware of where my values lie and which life choices make me happiest. Therefore, I regularly go within and get in touch with my true self.
I trust that the answers I need are inside of me. If I feel uncertain, I take a moment to breathe deeply and evaluate the situation at hand in light of my highest vision of myself. The answer always becomes clear.
This self-searching is an ongoing practice for me. Because I stay in touch with myself, I increasingly find myself knowing intuitively what I need or what to do in any situation. I act with confidence, knowing that I am aligned with my highest priorities: my values.
I am thankful for the self-confidence I gain when I act in alignment with my highest vision of myself. I have character and integrity and their strength grows increasingly as I connect more and more with my innermost self.
Today, I make time to evaluate the extent to which my actions are aligned with my values. I am thankful for each opportunity to create what I most want in my life. Because this is such a high priority for me, I regularly go within and get in touch with my true self.
Today’s Self-Reflection Questions:
1. In what situations do I feel I act most clearly in accordance with my values?
2. In what circumstances do I feel challenged to act according to my beliefs?
3. What can I do to support positive action in these situations?
So here’s my latest progress photo. On the left, I’m close to my highest weight ever. The photo on the right was taken over the weekend.
And now it’s your turn! Your mission, should you choose to accept it:
Use photos to inspire you. Some ideas:
Make your own side-by-side progress photo. Just take a photo in a similar pose of you at a higher weight and place it next to your current photo.
Make an inspiration photo. Place a photo of yourself next to a ph0to of your ideal body. Check out mybodygallery.com to find one that is really close to what you’re going for–it really helped me at the beginning.
Make progress photos a regular practice. And if you happen to find yourself looking especially hot one day, go ahead and take a few full-body shots in your standard pose. You’ll appreciate it later.
Guidelines for Weight Loss Progress Photos
Take three full-body photos of yourself today–one from the front, one from the side and one from the back. File them in a secret folder if you like–you never have to show them to anyone if you don’t want to, they’re just for you.
Weight Loss Progress Photo Tips:
Show as much skin as you can stand in the photo (but keep your private bits covered, in case you later decide to publish them or share them in a progress video like I did.) This is one regret I have–I wish I’d taken a couple shots in a swimsuit or at least something that showed more of my actual body.)
Be sure you use a decent-quality camera if you can–but any camera will do if not.
Try to take the photo in a well-lit area and remember that this is supposed to be a VERY HONEST photo–so let it all hang out. Not only will it give you a better idea of your progress later, but if you’re like me, you’ll find it very motivating.
Do you find progress photos motivating in your weight-loss journey? Share your thoughts in the comments section, below!
As you journey through our 60-day fitness challenge, I invite you to pause for a moment and do what I call a self-check.
We’re going to get to know ourselves a little better, and we’re going to start identifying the areas we’re going to focus on during this challenge.
This is where our individual paths will begin to form–this is where the work begins. Are you ready?
Today’s Bliss Mission: Know Yourself
Pull out a journal (or open a blog post/Word doc) and jot down your thoughts. Save this as we may refer back to it later during the challenge. We’ll do at least one self-check per week.
This week, we’re going to take emotional stock of our self-perceptions versus how others see us.
During the challenge, we will not only focus on losing weight and getting fit, but we’ll also work on figuring out WHY we are carrying these extra pounds. Then, we’ll make moves toward resolving or better dealing with the issues or concerns that may have contributed to our habits.
Ask yourself these questions.
1. How well do I really know myself right this moment? Who would I say that I am? Who would others say I am?
2. What areas in my life are working for me, right now?
3. What areas do I need to work? What could change in my world that would improve my self and my life?
Try this exercise.
Ask someone in your life who knows you really well to describe you as they would to a stranger. What are you like? What do you do? Are you successful? How does this person see you, etc.? This can be done in person or by email, and if you can, get a few different opinions.
Read or listen to the opinions, taking note of the descriptive words and general sense of character that comes through in the description. At first, try to keep your personal feelings out if it (it will be tough). Just hear/read them and digest them for what they are.
Take a m0ment to reflect on the opinions presented. Do they reflect the person you want to be? Are you satisfied by the perception others have about you, or do you wish you could change it a bit? Does it really matter what people think? How does hearing/reading what others think affect your opinion of yourself?
While it’s true that I care more about women making peace with their bodies than most people, and although I live my life committed to supporting women in liking who and what they see when they look in the mirror, I was one of the first in line to see Sex & The City II when it came out a few years ago.
Seems so shallow to admit that. Let’s face it ladies, as much as many of us love these four characters, they are not exactly representational of most women today – many of whom are struggling to take care of their children while working full time. But while Carrie, Samantha, Charlotte, and Miranda do not represent most women, they do represent something that makes my heart just sing. I fell in love with the characters from the get-go. I literally cried my way through the last episode of the series, and have watched every episode a few times each. The pretend world they occupy feels and looks so glamorous, and I love how they strut around exuding power in a way that feels sincere and effortless.
While I do like to look nice, I am not a shopper and I am not someone who goes crazy about fashion. But whenever I am trying on clothes, I make believe I am Carrie – my favorite character on the show. I am nothing like her, and yet she is my alter ego. I just love how she walks around NYC in her high heels and cool clothes.
My own “Carrie” moment
So yesterday, I am in Banana Republic and I put myself into Carrie mode. I see this pair of heels that are so fun, so cool, and so not me, and yet I had this feeling come over me, and suddenly I HAD TO HAVE THEM! I did not care what they cost, how high they were, how much they hurt – I just had to have them.
I wear a size 10 wide, and it is difficult to find shoes in my size. However, the store had a 10, and on my feet they went. They were too tight and so not right. I said to Michael, the gay guy helping me, “These shoes are so tight, but I want to be like Carrie.”
Michael cracked up. Then he looked at me very seriously and said, “Honey, beauty is painful.”
I said, “You are so right, and it is so unfair.”
Of course I got them. After all, they were on sale.
Does it have to hurt?
I care more about our insides than about how we look. I care about how we talk to ourselves every day, and I want to live in a world where we are less critical and more self-loving. I care more than anything about the obesity epidemic that plagues us, and I care about the fact that we are seduced by the beauty industry. I care that models starve themselves and that “beauty is painful.” Women – myself included – do all kinds of whacky things to make themselves look good at the expense of their health and their soul.
I am passionately committed to these causes. I so want to live in a world where beauty is no longer cruel. But I also have an inner Carrie who, in a perfect world, can still have sexy black high heels. It’s one of those great paradoxes that makes me who I am. I own both parts, and know they’re right. (I just wish the Carrie side didn’t have to hurt!)
What about you? Are you willing to suffer for beauty? Have you suffered long enough? Where along the continuum from inner beauty to outer glamor do you spend most of your time?