Now, we’re ready to begin replacing them with new, more positive habits that will support the lives we desire. So how do we create and implement new, more effective habits in our daily lives?
Change Your Mind
Once you’ve identified a negative habit, you need to intentionally change your thought patterns in order to change the habit, and then replace it with a new, more positive habit.
One very effective way you can begin to “change your mind” is to practice saying affirmations each day–and to change a specific habit, develop a short, positively stated affirmation that you can recite anytime you notice the habit.
So, for example, let’s say your negative habit is obsessively checking your email and it distracts you from getting your work done. The next time you notice yourself checking your email when you should be working, stop what you’re doing and remind yourself what you want to do instead.
Your affirmation in this case could be something like “I check my email at scheduled times and I stay focused on my work.”
It doesn’t have to be fancy–just something short that you can say (or intentionally think) to yourself to help “reprogram” your thoughts.
Because, as you may know–thoughts become things. Remember too that you need to state your intention in positively because your subconscious doesn’t recognize negatives. So, if you say “I don’t obsessively check my email,” your subconscious will hear “I obsessively check my email.”
You create the life you have by attracting the things, people and situations on which you focus.
So, by intentionally switching the focus from your old habit (obsessively checking email and interrupting your work) to your new habit (only checking email at scheduled times and focusing on your work), you begin to immediately manifest that change–and before you know it, the new habit becomes second nature.
One Thing at a Time
While it is completely possible to become exactly who you want to be, it’s a good idea to change your habits one at a time.
I find that, in most cases, adding one new habit every week to two weeks works for me–but sometimes it takes a little longer.
Most experts suggest that it requires thirty days of focused intentional change before the habit becomes automatic.
Don’t Beat Yourself Up If You Slip
This one’s important folks–and it can mean the difference between success and failure. If you slip into your old habits, don’t beat yourself up–but do get back on track immediately.
Forgive yourself and move forward with the plan, RIGHT THEN–don’t say “well, I messed up anyway, I might as well start again tomorrow” because tomorrow never comes!
Treat yourself like you’d treat someone you love (because, of course, you must love yourself first).
Change doesn’t have to hurt–but you’ve got to really want it. Just like that little caterpillar in the opening quote, stay focused on the goal, and remember why you’re making the changes in your life.
Write it down and post it on your fridge if you need to–whatever helps you to stay motivated.
Give yourself the gift of making intentional choices in your life, and before you know it, you’ll be living the life you’ve always wanted. What do you think?
Dirty Dancing “Do You Love Me” Workout is a fat-burning, dance-inspired cardio exercise that uses official dance steps and music from the hit movie, Dirty Dancing. Get ready to sculpt a lean, sexy dancer’s body and melt away the pounds as you learn to move like Baby and Johnny. You will have a blast with this series of effective metabolism-boosting moves set to the sensational song, “Do You Love Me.”
Emulate your favorite characters originally played by Patrick Swayze and Jennifer Grey as you tone your body, boost your heart rate, and dance your way to your weight loss goal. This workout features easy to follow moves from Dancer’s, Tracey Mallett and John Byrne that are perfect for any skill level. If you are a fan of this 1980’s classic, this is the workout for you! Click this link for more Dance Workouts: http://bit.ly/yuyL4H
This workout is from John Byrne & Tracey Mallett’s DVD “Dirty Dancing Official Dance workout”.
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How often do you judge a book by its cover? And how often have you been unfairly judged yourself? We’ve talked before about why we shouldn’t judge others and the impact it can have on our own lives. Today’s guest poster, my business partner and friend, Alyssa Ast, gives us a peek inside the mind of someone who is often judged by others who don’t take the time to get to know her.
Alyssa wrote this post back in 2010, originally as a guest post for my old site. I’m rerunning it here because I believe the lesson is still valuable and a good reminder for all of us.
Alyssa has become even more successful as a writer (and has grown her family by two, including the one she was pregnant with) since she wrote this piece, and she continues to impress me every day.~Angie
In Judgmental Eyes
By Alyssa Ast
Let me give you a brief history lesson of the past 5 years of my life. I’m 23 years old and technically considered to be a single mother.
I got pregnant with my first son at 17, had my second son at 19, and I’m currently pregnant with my 3rd.
I haven’t completed a level of education beyond the 11th grade and needless to say I’m a high school dropout.
I live out of wedlock with my children’s father and don’t work a nine to five job.
You may now be thinking to yourself, well there’s what’s wrong with society. In judgment’s eyes I appear to be just like every other teen mother out there.
I bet you probably think I spend my nights partying as my parents watch my kids. I’m sure you’re even thinking this is why some people should not reproduce.
But if you peer a little deeper and take some time to lose the judgmental eyes, you may actually be surprised at what you would learn about me and my life.
While I’ve made more mistakes in my life than I care to admit, I can honestly say without those mistakes, I wouldn’t be who I am today. Now take a minute to get to know the real me.
I’ve lived with my soul mate, my partner, my best friend for the past 5 years. We have 2 beautiful children together and are expecting our 3rd in June.
Our family consists of days spent laughing under the sun and doing typical things families do together, with one minor exception. We believe in raising our children with the morals and values of the past that have long since been forgotten by most.
Although they are only 4 and 3 years old, my boys are well rounded children, and although they may get into trouble from time to time, they know the importance of respect for themselves and others- which so many children lack now and days.
Like I said, I’m a high school dropout and I don’t work a nine to five job. Instead, I test at college level education in every academic course, except math- which I currently hold a 12th grade education level.
I work from home and co-run a successful business. I’m a freelance writer, journalist, co-founder of the WM Network, and I’m about to publish my first book. And, all before my 24th birthday.
But all of these accomplishments sometimes go unnoticed in my life, because all some people see is my age. In judgmental eyes I’m viewed as a typical teen mother, without a wedding band on my finger, or a high school diploma.
Because of my age, people don’t take the time to notice I’m not one of those parents that’s out partying every night; in fact my parents may have watched my children twice in 5 years.
Because I lack a piece of paper verifying I completed general education courses, I’m viewed as being limited in my intelligence. And because I don’t leave the house every morning to go to work, I’m viewed as lazy and not contributing to society.
It’s very frustrating and emotionally exhausting to be viewed as an ignorant child in the eyes of society. Society has their mind set on stereotypes and most lack the capability to take a second to see what’s really behind some viewed as a stereotype. It isn’t anyone’s fault; after all being judgmental is a human’s nature.
However, please take 5 minutes to really look at me and see ME. Yes, I am 23 years old and expecting my 3rd child.
But please look a little deeper and see, I am a mother and although not legally, I am a wife. I am an educated and successful writer that follows my dreams to make a better life for my children.
I hold wisdom and maturity beyond my years, as I have grown from my past mistakes. Take a second to look and see that not everything is as it appears; sometimes you just need to look a little deeper for the truth.
More About Alyssa Ast
Alyssa Ast is an experienced Arizona based freelance writer, journalist, author, SEO/SEM, web developer and social marketing specialist, who enjoys working from the comfort of her home office. Alyssa works for many online companies and private clients, fulfilling their need for quality content, social marketing and developing their online business needs. Using her SEO and SEM knowledge, Alyssa optimizes traffic to online content and websites– increasing traffic, search engine ranking and profit potential. Read Alyssa’s full bio here.
So, since I’ve been taking this Bella Vi Insane Amp’d stuff and started to notice the positive effects, I decided I wanted to maximize the effects as much as possible.
Being the nerdy journalism-type that I am, I started doing my research. I wanted to know what people were doing to increase the effectiveness (because if you’re going to have positive effects from a single dose of a supplement, why not get the maximum benefit possible, right?).
So I dug around online in forums and blogs, and I talked to people who are finding success with Bella Vi weight loss supplements. Here are some tips to help you get the maximum benefits possible from the Bella Vi Insane Amp’d.
How to Get Better Results From Bella Vi Amp’d Up: Tips From Successful Users
Get Better Results From Bella Vi Amp’d Up: When to Take It
From my research, it seems that people are getting the most benefit from Amp’d Up when they take it on an empty stomach and then wait 45 minutes before they eat. I’m giving this a shot and have been doing this for 2 days now. I think I see an increase, but I’ll keep you posted.
Another timing tip: some users say that if you typically don’t eat breakfast OR you are a big night-time eater, you should take the supplements closer to lunchtime. This way, you might be able to avoid those night-time munchies altogether.
Get Better Results From Bella Vi Amp’d Up: Stay Cool to Burn More Calories
According to what I’ve been reading and hearing, Bella Vi Amp’d Up induces thermogenesis, which in this sense means that your body is heated from the inside. That causes your metabolism to get faster and makes you sweat.
And, as I understand it, thermogenesis is activated faster in a cold environment or when the body is cold. So let yourself be cold. You’ll burn more calories. I’ve been using ice in my water for a couple of days and trying to stay cool when I can. I’ll keep you posted on the progress.
You already know that your weight loss is directly affected by your intake of water and of food. The Bella Vi supplement increases elimination as it detoxifies your body in the first ten days or so, meaning you’ll need to drink a LOT more water. I’m just going into my third week and can attest to this one! But it’s not terrible.
One expert recommended eight 16-ounce bottles of water each day. That’s twice the generally a accepted amount. But according to what I found in my research, you will not lose as much weight if you don’t drink the water-which, to me, is pretty obvious, with or without the pills.
Still, in my experience so far (as a person who is already a big water-drinker who avoids soda and sugary drinks) I feel thirstier more often, and I’m definitely seeing the loss of inches–which, honestly, totally rocks my world , not gonna lie.
So those are the best tips I’ve found so far on how to get better results from Bella Vi Amp’d Up. Have you tried this or any Bella Vi weight loss supplements before? Tell me what you think of them and how you have done with them in the comments section, below!
Note from Angela: Part of my own ‘Project Blissful’ includes getting paid to do what I love, and I believe that most everyone is or will be happier when they are passionate about their work. Today’s guest post from Courtney Coumier offers tips and advice on how to find the job of your dreams through networking–both online and through more traditional methods.
The goal in life is to fulfill the American dream, and part of that has become finding a job that you actually enjoy. So besides finding a job that will pay the bills, you now need to look for something that is fulfilling to you. Something that not only adds to the quality of your life but won’t interfere with other parts of it.
Which leads us to the ultimate question: how do we find this “dream job?”
I wish I could tell you something simple and easy, like just ask Oprah, but unfortunately it is going to take a little bit of work. The main thing to do, at all times not just when you are looking for a job, is to network.
I know it may sound simple, but it is a step that is often over looked until you are pounding the pavement with your resume.
First off, what is networking?
It is not just telling people you are looking for a job. Networking is connecting with other professionals in the industry you hope to work in or that share an area of interest with you. Basically, making friends based on their professional field. It may sound silly to hunt for friends on the interwebs (and off) but in today’s job world it is still all about who you know.
Your professional network shouldn’t just be there to help you find a job; they can also help you with a question, or have advice on something you are going through. Think of it as a professional support system, except it’s free and won’t ask you to explain your feelings.
There are a lot of ways to build out your network; I’m partial to using online networking sites. I was always skeptical of Twitter, until I landed a job. It’s amazing how strong the communities on Twitter are; there is one for everyone. You can scope them out by searching hash tags relevant to you, I use #writers and #hfchat a lot to network with HR recruiters and other writers.
Another big site is Facebook, we already use Facebook to connect with family and friends, why not add a professional network within?
BeKnown is a recent Facebook app created by Monster.com to help aid people in creating professional networks.
The idea behind it is that your Facebook network holds just as much weight as your professional one, so why not merge the two? Before you start to worry, your personal Facebook profile stays private; you control what information is put out rather than the app.
Although networking online is fairly easy, and you can do it from anywhere, nothing beats making connections in person.
By joining different online communities, or looking for different professional networking events in your area, you can find a million new resources.
And remember, the most important things to bring to any networking event are a business card and a friendly attitude (cheesy, but true).
Introduce yourself and tell them why they could connect with you, what do you have to offer, but just highlight the top three things.
Hopefully this helps you realize that 1. Networking is not a wait and see game and 2. It can lead to amazing opportunities, such as that dream job you always wanted.
About the Author
Courtney Cormier is a community manager for Monster.com’s new Facebook application BeKnown. When she isn’t busy live tweeting for the Bachelor, or attempting to give relationship advice over at The College Crush she can be found perusing the web to catch up on the latest and greatest improvements in online networking. Connect with her on BeKnown, Twitter, and check out her blog!