No Sugar-Coating: 5 Harsh Truths About Weight Loss

No Sugar-Coating: 5 Harsh Truths About Weight Loss

BlendificanyouvanOccasionally, I like to wax all philosophical on your asses, and today, I’m doing exactly that.

As someone who has lost 110 pounds and counting, so far, I think I have a pretty good idea of what it takes to lose weight and keep it off–at least for me.

So, with that being said, I present to you these harsh truths about losing weight.

Hold on to your hats, people. This is serious. And don’t get your panties all in a bunch–I only tell you these things because I care. Truly. 🙂

Harsh Truth #1: Over-thinking is just a way to delay your success. Seriously. Stop it!


Size 22 to Size 8

It is way too easy to get caught up in every new theory and research bit that comes out.

I can’t tell you how many people I know, both personally and professionally, who jump on every weight loss and study bandwagon that clamors into their frame of reference.

One week, they’re talking about how if you’re not juicing, you’re totally not living right.

And then the next week, they’re cutting out all carbs (including the fruits and veggies they raved about last week) and eating three-pound steaks for every meal.

The unfortunate thing is that for all the diet-jumping they do, they rarely ever lose any significant poundage–and they often end up weighing more than they did when they started.

And yea, I know someone like that, personally.

So much so, in fact, that the person has maintained nearly the same weight (plus or minus a few pounds) for more than two years–a time during which a weight loss effort was supposedly being made. But the friend couldn’t see the forest through the trees. By focusing so hard on what everyone else was saying, the friend was not noticing what really matters.

That, my friends, does not work. Take it from me–find what works for you and stick to it.

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Harsh Truth #2: Magic pills do not exist.

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My largest to current: size 24 to size 8.

Listen, if there was a pill that allowed you to eat everything in sight and never gain a pound, I would totally own stock in that company!

Now, don’t get me wrong here–there are supplements and stuff that can help you along on your journey–but you cannot just take a freaking pill and keep eating 18 billion calories a day while sitting on your ass and expect to drop 100 pounds in a month or two.

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That just doesn’t happen. Take it from me. I have tried every so-called magic pill out there–and aside from the icky side effects, the only thing they succeeded in doing for me was draining my bank account.

Seriously. Stop buying into bullshit that wastes your money and your time.

Harsh Truth #3: You have to eat less and exercise more if you wanna get and keep the weight off.

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From my wedding day (on the left) to today–size 20 to size 8.

Yeah, I said it. And yeah, it sucks.

A little bit, anyway.

But the truth is that while you can absolutely lose weight without much exercise (hey, I lost my first 60 pounds that way), you really do have to get your groove on if you want to get it off and keep it off.

Not only does gaining muscle help to tone and define your body, but since muscle burns more fat than…well, fat, you will be able to eat more and still look freaking amazing when all is said and done.

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Harsh Truth #4: Some of your friends won’t support you.


Size 22 to Size 8

Whether we like it or not, sometimes jealousy can make a friend behave in a way she might not otherwise.

So, when you find yourself swimming in the traveling pants you and your BFF have shared for years, don’t be surprised when she starts getting a little bitchy. She might even try to sabotage your efforts or stop accepting your calls.

But if she does, remember that it’s not your fault. She is looking at you, seeing what she’s not getting right–and feeling bad about herself. And in some cases, she’s literally “just jealous” of your success.

Don’t be mad at her–she’s only human.

The best thing you can do here is to remind yourself that you are freaking amazing, and then, if you love your friend, support her in any way possible. And hey–remind her that  she’s amazing and beautiful too. Sometimes, just a little extra attention can help, especially if your activities together used to revolve around food.

Whatever you do, though, do not allow yourself to be dragged down by anyone’s negativity. You are getting healthy, doing something right for yourself and your health. Breathe, and let the negativity go.

Harsh Truth #5: If you’re going to keep it off, don’t expect to lose it overnight.

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Size 10 to Size 8

For me, taking the weight off slowly has been the key.

Since I started taking my journey seriously about two years ago, I’ve lost 110 pounds.

I’ve still go a few to go, but at a size 8 and curves in (almost) all the right places, I’m not complaining–especially because these results were totally worth the weight…er, wait. 🙂

Yeah, pun intended.

I did it by making small, manageable changes, and nothing more. It all started with simply making sure I was drinking eight glasses of water every day.

And then, I started keeping track of my food intake–at first, just keeping track, not promising myself to stick to the plan (although, to be fair, tracking just makes you want to stick to the plan!).

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The point is, it has taken me just more than two years to get the first 110 pounds off. And I’m expecting to get the last few off within this year. It’s not a big rush for me at this point (who can afford to keep buying whole new wardrobes!). It’s just that I have a goal, and I know I’ll reach it eventually.

But hey–if making one small change at a time could help me go from being seriously obese to being pretty much healthy in a matter of two years, and it didn’t cause me a great deal of heartache or pain–wasn’t it the right way to go?

Especially if I can now understand my body and its signals on a whole new level, which gives me the freedom to eat whatever I want and stay healthy?

Yes. Yes, it’s worth it. Totally. Freaking. Worth. It.

That is all.

Don’t be mad. It’s all true.

What do you think? Am I being too harsh? Share your thoughts and your own harsh truths in the comments section, below.


Money Is Just Energy, Dummies

Money Is Just Energy, Dummies

You know those money issues you struggle with?  The ones that keep you cash poor, that have you maxing out your credit card each month, that keep you from asking for that raise every year? Yeah, those are the ones.  Well, here’s a little something I learned recently – those beliefs and issues surrounding money start WAY earlier than I ever would have imagined.

Case in Point:

money issuesA few weeks ago, as I was crawling towards the coffee pot early one morn, I happened upon my three nieces, along with one of their small neighbor friends, planning a summer job.  Pink, red, and yellow construction paper was strewn all over the front porch and markers were tossed aside – lids off – to dry in the sun that was already baking the concrete.

I stopped, wiped my bleary eyes, and asked what they were doing.

My niece Jocelyn gave me the hand-made poster which outlined their services:

Dog  Wash

If you got a dirty pup we’ll clean them up!

Open Hours 11:00 to 2:30

$2.00 per dog             Any size dog

Not open on holidays and Friday and Mondays and Birthdays

(You will see the dog when you come in the neighborhood)

Plus we dry, brush or put something in their fur, your choice.

It may have been my dull senses upon just waking but I was über proud of my ability to refrain from asking which Friday they are closed (as there seemed to be only one) and whose birthdays they were talking about (the customer’s or theirs) and what “something” they planned to put in the dog’s fur.  (A few hours later, their Dad was not so full of restraint and told Jocelyn that he wanted her to put $4.00 in his dog’s fur.) And, damn. . . “you will see the dog when you come in the neighborhood” – they’re certainly confident aren’t they?  Lastly, I beamed with a pride I couldn’t contain over their correct use of the word “their.”

After my coffee-deprived brain had spell-checked their document I did the math.  For each dog they washed they would make $.50 a piece.

Say what?

The hair on the back of my neck stood on end as I asked, incredulous, “That’s all you’re charging? $2.00 per dog?”

Four heads nodded at me in unison.

“Girls, you are seriously undervaluing yourselves.”

MaKendra, another of my nieces, looked up at me confused, “No we’re not.”

I turned red as a pomegranate. “You should be charging at least $8.00 per dog.  That’s $2.00 a piece per dog.  Your time is more valuable than $.50.  How long is it going to take you to wash each dog? How big are these dogs?  $2.00 is just too low, you’re all worth more than that.”

Then I stopped ranting.  $8.00?  I pay $45.00 for So-kr8z’s S-PaW days (though that $45.00 includes the massaging of his oh-so-delicate anal glands – a task which I’d happily pay $150.00 for.) But even I, at the age of 40, am undervaluing time and energy.  Yes, even I was ball-parking low for these girls. What’s with that and where does it come from?

I got my answer

Days later I was talking with their Dad – who is probably the hardest working guy I know, as is their mother.  These two parents are on the go from 7:00 am until 1:00 am Every. Single. Day. working their guts out.  And they’re not rich.  Yeah, they get by, they have the necessities and some fun toys but they’re not vacationing in the Bahamas every year. They fervently believe that they have to work extra hard for every single red cent. They hope the washer doesn’t break down.

I know, I know, material stuff shouldn’t be important, and you can throw tomatoes and other soft fruit at me later, but bear with me for a moment and hear me say that money and material stuff IS important.  Let me explain.

Money is just energy.

Let me repeat that. Money is just energy. Let’s use the analogy of the ocean in place of money.  The ocean is vast, huge, and, in fact, water covers 70% of the earth’s surface.  And it might be my optimism speaking but I don’t see the oceans drying up any time soon.  So water flows in to the ocean and water flows out but the ocean never dries up.  Money is the same way.

Roald Dahl knew this when he brilliantly penned thee most apropos money quote I’ve ever heard in his novel Charlie and the Chocolate Factory.  Charlie is thinking of selling his Golden Ticket so his family can eat when Grandpa George tells him, “There’s plenty of money out there. They print more every day. But this ticket — There are only 5 of them in the whole world, and that’s all there’s ever going to be. Only a dummy would give this up for something as common as money. Are you a dummy?”

Yup. Me and my family are a bunch of dummies – and so are you if you have issues in regards to the green stuff.  Just as the ocean never dries up, neither does energy and so, therefore, neither does money.

Possessions also have energy.

Many of us with money issues believe it’s “evil” to want things.  So, for example, it’s bad to want that nice house with the freshly painted white fence when you already have a roof over your head.  It’s horrible to want those strappy Manolo Blanik’s right?  Nope.  Possessions have energy too and the only requirement for you in the wanting of something is that you love it.

As part of a social media campaign recently I asked people on Facebook, “What’s your favorite material possession.”  (WOW…  this raised some major angst among people.) Most folks appeared to scratch their heads, hem-haw, and not respond at all.  My guess is that these peeps have money issues and believe that they shouldn’t value the possession of a thing. I thought that too, for the longest time, and I would stand upon my pedestal with a golden aura surrounding my head like a halo while I spouted, “you can’t take ‘stuff’ with you when you die.”

But now I beg to differ. When you love a possession – when you truly value it – you’re imbuing that possession with energy. Perhaps the best example is to use an item from your childhood that you still hold on to.  One of my most valued material possessions is a blanket that my Grandma made for me when I was ten. Over the years this blanket has traveled thousands of miles with me.  This blanket has been washed more than I have. It’s vibrant canary yellow color has faded to a dingy off-white.  The stuffing is matted and falling out and sticks to my clothes whenever I huddle beneath it.  But I love this blanket.  Like L. O. V. E. love.  Every time I use it, and feel that feeling of utter comfort, I myself am giving this blanket some of my energy.

My point is that every material possession that you value and love is full of energy.  Haven’t you heard the wise sages and money gurus tell you, over and over, to surround yourself only with that which you love?  To pare down, clean house, de-clutter?  This is why. Because what you love has value and energy.  In the case of my blanket, someone out there in the world made the material that my Grandmother bought in order to make it for me.  Then, of course, there’s the energy of love that my Grandma put into it while she sewed. The postman who delivered it expended energy too as he drove from the post office, down the tree-lined streets of Stevens Drive, to get it to me a few days before Christmas.  You get the point.

Surrounding Yourself with Shit

I’m guessing that 99% of hoarders (or even those folks who just collect a whole lot of shit) have money issues as well, and I’m almost 100% positive that many of these people don’t surround themselves with only things that they love.  Rather, many of them surround themselves, simply, with things; an empty plastic Dr. Pepper bottle, a string cheese wrapper, a sack full of things they picked up from Wal-Mart that they just had to have but have never taken out of the bag.  That, my friends, is NOT honoring your material possessions. I understand that hoarding is an illness and my heart goes out to those struggling with this issue. But, whether you’re a hoarder or not, I imagine that we all hold on to things we don’t love, even after we’ve douched our own personal space.

So… what’s to be done?  How do we reconcile some of these age-old money issues?  How do you figure out how to expend your energy, how to value your energy, and how much to charge for your energy? The first step, I think, is simply to realize that your time, money, possessions, you, yourself, everything is energy.  That’s all I’m asking, even of myself, is to take that first baby step towards not being a dummy.

Melanie Bates

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