Editor’s Note: #SpeakOut is a new series in which we ask a group of people for their opinions on a specific QueenBeeing topic. What follows is an actual online discussion about beautiful women–who is beautiful, who has potential and what people think IS beautiful.
Q. Do you believe any woman can be beautiful if she makes an effort, or are there actually “lost causes” when it comes to appearances, as far as you’re concerned?
Karin O: “Never a lost cause. Beauty comes from within and is deeply imbedded in attitude and confidence. Broken spirits need healing and then the beauty is able to be seen. Outward appearances can be deceiving. You may look beautiful by what ever standard someone is judging you but if the spirit is not well then…”
Bridget:I believe everyone woman is beautiful in their own personal way. No one should ever be considered a lost cause due to her appearance. The true beauty lies inside the mind, body & spirit of each woman. Some woman come by that naturally & know their inner beauty, some take longer to “blossom”. The outside is only a facade, a shell, if you will, of what lies beneath.
Kristopher:Everyone is attractive for different reasons, and everyone is attracted to different people for different reasons. Anyone can alter their appearance to look attractive. Beauty, however, in my opinion is the ability to make the outward person more attractive by letting the true nature of the inner person shine through. Unfortunately, there are some people who just aren’t comfortable with their inner person, or their inner person is a horrible person. Those people, regardless of physical augmentation, are ugly to the core and changing them is hopeless.
Karin O:Kristopher, while I agree with most of what you said, I do believe that everyone is capable of changing that inner person. Many chose not to and are seemingly hopeless, but I believe that if they desire to find a way to be better then there is hope.
Karin J.: I have seen some women with truly unfortunate looks, but that disappears when their faces are lit with joy. I’ve seen truly beautiful women whose looks are marred by the selfishness and entitlement that exudes from every pore. Pretty is as pretty does is not just a cliche!
Bridget:Kristopher, good insight on your comment… up to the point of the last sentence. It’s boils down to a matter of opinion, I suppose. If the topic where murderers, rapists, psychopaths, etc. I’d strongly agree on the word hopeless. However, with regards to this specific issue, of the normal, everyday person and beauty, I’d have to adamantly disagree. The standard person(s), I believe, are capable of change. That’s what we humans do for the most part, adapt (or change) accordingly. With that being said, I do understand your point but also believe beauty lies within every being, in some shape or form.
Now it’s your turn! Can any woman be beautiful if she tries? Share your thoughts in the comments, below, or on your Facebook page.
Angela Atkinson is a certified trauma counselor and the author of more than 20 books on narcissism, narcissistic abuse recovery, and related topics. A recognized expert on narcissism and narcissistic personality disorder who has studied and written extensively on narcissistic personality disorder and narcissistic abuse in toxic relationships since 2006, she has a popular narcissistic abuse recovery YouTube channel. Atkinson was inspired to begin her work as a result of having survived toxic relationships of her own.
Atkinson offers trauma-informed narcissistic abuse recovery coaching and has certifications in trauma counseling, life coaching, level 2 therapeutic model, CBT coaching, integrative wellness coaching, and NLP. She is a certified trauma support coach and certified family trauma professional. She also has a professional PTSD counseling certification. Her mission is to help those who have experienced the emotional and mental devastation that comes with narcissistic abuse in these incredibly toxic relationships to (re)discover their true selves, stop the gaslighting and manipulation, and move forward into their genuine desires – into a life that is exactly what they choose for themselves.
Along with her solution-focused life coaching experience, Atkinson’s previous career in journalism and research helps her to offer both accurate and understandable information for survivors of abuse in a simple-to-understand way that helps to increase awareness in the narcissistic abuse recovery community. Atkinson founded QueenBeeing.com Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Support, the SPANily Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Support Groups and the Life Makeover Academy.
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Regardless of your age, sex, race, weight, nationality or financial situation, you can begin to affect change throughout your whole life by taking some very simple steps. A hint? It all starts in your head–and your heart.
Project Blissful is a movement toward whole-life healing, growth and improvement. It’s more than a movement–it’s a real whole-life project that anyone can join and participate in at anytime.
Jamie Paretti, the owner of MTM Body, sent me some of the My BFF Body Shift to try–and after I heard about the success stories she’s seen, I couldn’t wait.
This stuff supposedly helps you lose weight fast–and who doesn’t want that? Although I’m down more than 100 pounds since launching my Project Blissful, I still need to lose around 30 to get to my final goal.
So, yeah–I was excited to give it a shot, and I felt like sharing my experiences would help my readers out–so here we are. I’d also like to express my gratitude to Jamie for introducing me to this stuff, because it has certainly already had some really positive effects.
Well, I’m ten days in. So here we go: an honest review from a real person of My BFF Body Shift from MTM Body.
The first day, I took two pills right before breakfast. After a couple of hours, I noticed I felt really hot and my stomach felt a little like it was “working” on something (ok-honesty–it was working on a big poop–HA!).
At first I wondered if I was getting sick, but it passed and I felt fine, only to have a similar hot feeling a few more times throughout the day.
Side Note–I later found out that is a pretty normal reaction to the pills–at least at first. See, part of how these My BFF Body Shift things work is through a process called thermogenesis–which is defined by FreeDictionary.com’s Medical Dictionary as “the production of heat, especially within the animal body.”
diet-induced thermogenesis–a portion of dietary calories in excess of those required for immediate energy requirements are converted to heat rather than stored as fat. Some types of obesity may be related to a defect in this mechanism.
nonshivering thermogenesis–increased heat production due to enhancement of normal calorigenic metabolic processes.
My BFF Review: Can Bee Pollen Really Help You Lose Weight?
I think, based on my research, that a lot of the weight loss effects are related to the bee pollen in the My BFF Body Shift supplements–which I understand can stimulate the metabolic processes, speeding up calorie burn.
It also has lecithin in it, which I’ve read helps dissolve and flush fat from the body–so it can aid in detoxifying your body. (Probably why it makes you poop more!)
Bee pollen is also supposed to help your skin look better/younger, according to reports from Dr. Lars-Erik Essen, a dermatologist in Sweden, who treated many of his patients successfully for skin conditions, including acne and wrinkles with it.
The high concentration of B vitamins could also help you live longer, according to some researchers. Bee pollen reportedly causes side-effects like enhanced energy, stamina and endurance–and it has been touted as an aphrodisiac and fertility aid, among a long list of other physical benefits.
(By the way–this probably goes without saying, but if you’re allergic to bees or honey, you probably need to stay away from anything with bee pollen in it.)
Does My BFF Body Shift Really Work Like the Manufacturer Claims?
For me, so far, it’s working pretty much as I’m hearing it’s supposed to. On the tenth day in, I’ve lost a couple of pounds (despite it being the week of the month where I usually gain a couple of PMS-induced pounds) and I feel great. But the pounds lost are less important to me than the fact that I FEEL better.
My BFF Body Shift Review: The Pros
Appetite Under Control–Even in the Face of PMS Week
My appetite has been under control for a long time (you have to get control in order to lose 100 pounds, you know!), but during this PMS week, I usually allow myself two to three days of a few indulgences (not excessive!) and it is usually fine. But this week, I’ve been just fine. Sure, the cravings for protein and chocolate are there–and sure, I’m treating myself as always. But now, I’m just finding that a few bites are doing me just fine–whereas before, I’d eat the burger or low-fat concrete with a smile on my face. It’s a good thing!
Digestive System Running More Smoothly
I am one of these people who can literally start feeling the stomach bloat within the first few bites of anything containing onions, peppers, beans and a whole bunch of other various yummy foods, so this one is BIG for me. I typically take a fiber supplement to keep everything on the regular (usually the Walgreen’s version of the fiber/calcium combo supplements), but since I started taking the Body Shift, it hasn’t been necessary.
And the usual gas and bloating (because, let’s be honest, I’m not giving up awesome veggies/fruits, etc. just because of a little bloat) is significantly reduced too–thankfully, since I was seriously considering buying stock in Gas X for a minute.
So within the first probably 48 hours I was FEELING slimmer–and I attribute that in part to this whole digestive regularity aspect of the supplement.
Skin Feels Brighter, Tighter
Ok, I’m gonna be honest–this could TOTALLY be my imagination–and I’m not qualified in any way except that I look at my own face pretty often–but I feel like my skin looks better. Seems like it’s a little brighter and a little tighter on my face–and even other areas are tightening up pretty nicely.
Like I said–this could be just something I am seeing because I want to see it–but from my perspective, it could be related to the claims about skin improvement and anti-aging properties of bee pollen.
Size Six–First Time in 17 Years
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That’s right. I have been holding steady at a size eight for months. Maybe it’s a coincidence, maybe not–but the other day, I bought a size six jeans and they fit just fine. First time since before I got pregnant with my oldest child. I’ll take it. 🙂
My BFF Body Shift Review: The Cons
Cotton Mouth–You won’t forget to drink your water when you take Body Shift–your mouth gets really dry on this stuff. But, to be fair, when I do drink enough water, I don’t have this problem. So maybe this one ought to be on the pro list, sorta.
Punished by Poop–I notice when I eat things that are higher in fat, I poop more. I guess this is related to the claims that this stuff gets rid of extra calories for you. It’s not debilitating–just sort of makes you think before you eat–which I guess is also not that bad. But it can feel a little annoying!
Super Sweats–You will sweat when you take this stuff–in short bursts. I call them hot flashes, but as someone who hasn’t yet experienced menopause, my friend Lori (who is in the midst of it) tells me that I haven’t experienced anything. Now that I understand WHY they happen, I’m not so frustrated about it. But when you workout or exercise heavily, you might find yourself sweating a little harder than usual.
Tummy Trouble–For the first few days, I intermittently experienced a little bit of an upset stomach, but this has since resolved itself.
So that’s that. I’ve also been doing some research on how to take the My BFF Body Shift in order to get the best and most potent possible effects, so stay tuned for a post detailing my findings very soon. I’ll also return with more updates on my progress as I continue testing these things out.
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Have you tried any of the My BFF weight loss products? What did you think? Would you recommend them to a friend? Share your thoughts in the comments section, below.
Angela Atkinson is a certified trauma counselor and the author of more than 20 books on narcissism, narcissistic abuse recovery, and related topics. A recognized expert on narcissism and narcissistic personality disorder who has studied and written extensively on narcissistic personality disorder and narcissistic abuse in toxic relationships since 2006, she has a popular narcissistic abuse recovery YouTube channel. Atkinson was inspired to begin her work as a result of having survived toxic relationships of her own.
Atkinson offers trauma-informed narcissistic abuse recovery coaching and has certifications in trauma counseling, life coaching, level 2 therapeutic model, CBT coaching, integrative wellness coaching, and NLP. She is a certified trauma support coach and certified family trauma professional. She also has a professional PTSD counseling certification. Her mission is to help those who have experienced the emotional and mental devastation that comes with narcissistic abuse in these incredibly toxic relationships to (re)discover their true selves, stop the gaslighting and manipulation, and move forward into their genuine desires – into a life that is exactly what they choose for themselves.
Along with her solution-focused life coaching experience, Atkinson’s previous career in journalism and research helps her to offer both accurate and understandable information for survivors of abuse in a simple-to-understand way that helps to increase awareness in the narcissistic abuse recovery community. Atkinson founded QueenBeeing.com Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Support, the SPANily Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Support Groups and the Life Makeover Academy.
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Regardless of your age, sex, race, weight, nationality or financial situation, you can begin to affect change throughout your whole life by taking some very simple steps. A hint? It all starts in your head–and your heart.
Project Blissful is a movement toward whole-life healing, growth and improvement. It’s more than a movement–it’s a real whole-life project that anyone can join and participate in at anytime.
“I was about half in love with her by the time we sat down. That’s the thing about girls. Every time they do something pretty… you fall half in love with them, and then you never know where the hell you are..” ~ J D Salinger
This post might also be entitled “how to make a whole room full of people fall in love with you” or “how to be incredibly irresistible to everyone you meet.”
We’ve all seen her. You know the one–the woman who can walk into any room and instantly have all eyes on her.
She doesn’t miss a beat and pretends not to notice the gazes of both approval and thinly veiled jealousy as she gracefully glides in and inserts herself into the most attractive group in the room, taking center stage as naturally as the rest of us breathe.
She makes it look effortless, being this amazing creature that captures the attention of everyone within a 50-foot radius–and you might wonder exactly how she does it.
Here’s the thing–she’s no different than you or me. In fact, if you look at her really closely, she is probably no more physically attractive either. The reason she seems so much brighter and sparklier than everyone else in the room actually has nothing to do with her perfectly styled look, hair or even the fact that her purple lipstick somehow makes her eyes seem much brighter blue.
Sometimes, she shows up in jeans and a pseudo-broken-in t-shirt, no makeup and her hair piled on top of her head–and still look completely freaking amazing. That bitch! No, no, I kid.
Then there are the times she appears as a plus-sized woman who somehow gets the attention of every hot guy who walks in her path–or as a 60-something southern girl who blows you away with her charm.
The point is that there are certain women who just happen to be the center of attention at every party. The bottom line is this: we all want to know how she does it, but not many of us are willing to walk up to her and ask her. But lucky for you, you’ve got ME, and I happen to be really into the whole sharing information thing.
Now to the meat of this post! I hope you’re sitting down–the secrets are about to spill.
Wear the right outfit. The right outfit will vary from woman to woman and party to party, but generally, consider the following tips when choosing your look.
The kind of occasion. If it’s a formal event or a back-yard BBQ, there is a certain type of attire that is most likely appropriate. Unless you’re into negative attention, try to keep your outfit reasonably appropriate to the occasion.
Coordination of color. If you’re going to be in a darkened room, then you’ll want to wear a brighter color if you hope to be seen, provided the occasion allows it. If you’re going to be in a well-lit room, you might still consider brighter color(s), but you might add patterns or other small details to the look. And as always, be sure the colors you choose are the ones that make you look the best.
The hotness factor. Look, sometimes it’s not okay to walk around with your boobs hanging out. And sometimes, the whole “more is less” thing is legit. The fact is that you can be SUPER HOT without being a SUPER HO. No kidding. So again, appropriately hot.
Your personal brand of hot. As important as being appropriate for any occasion is the fact that you need to do what works best for you personally. That is, find the right look for your body, your personality and your overall preferred image. This will obviously vary from person to person based on individual factors, and there’s really no wrong brand of hot–it’s all about what makes you feel confident, beautiful and comfortable. Don’t be afraid to try on several outfits and take photos to see which looks the best.
Get the Attention
Here’s where it gets interesting. The thing is that a confident woman will always grab the attention of a less confident one, eventually, regardless of which of the two is more physically attractive by societal standards. Like the southern belle I recently met proves, a woman’s personality is at least 80 percent of her hotness.
Ask any guy what’s the sexiest quality about a woman that you can’t see in a photo, and he’ll tell you it’s her ability to be self-confident, to be herself or to be “real” with him. So how do you get the attention of a whole roomful of people? Try these tips.
Work the Room
When you enter a room, be sure to make your way around the room and greet everyone you see (or at least those you know) before settling into any particular crowd. That’ll give you the lay of the land and give you an idea of where you want to spend the most time—or you might choose to keep floating all evening. There’s nothing wrong with mingling–or even bringing together groups of people who didn’t know each other before!
You’re Never Fully Dressed Without a Smile
You probably don’t realize how significantly a smile can change your world, but try something for me. Tomorrow, or the next time you’re out in public, make an effort to meet the eyes and smile at everyone you pass. If that’s too much for you, then try smiling at 10 people throughout the day. You’ll be pleasantly surprised when you discover the amazing effect it has on you (and those around you!).
Be Quick With a Joke and to Light Up a Smoke
You don’t really have to light anyone’s cigarette, but the idea is that you show up at every party with a few key tricks up your sleeve.
A couple of (appropriately) funny stories and/or jokes—if you come prepared to be funny, you’ll find that people just flock to you. This may seem a bit “calculated,” but the truth is that most attention-grabbing women are way more calculated than they appear.
A catchphrase or schtick—this one is optional, but tends to make people remember you. Come up with a cute little phrase, expression or idea that you can share throughout the evening to sort of “brand” yourself,. You’ll be unforgettable.
Make a Grand Entrance
Maybe this seems old-fashioned, but show up a few minutes after everyone else and don’t enter quietly (when it’s appropriate!). When you employ the outfit and confidence tips outlined above, the grand entrance is easy to accomplish.
Listen Like Your Life Depends On It
Here’s the biggest secret to being absolutely irresistable: nearly ALL people, male and female love someone who is genuinely interested in THEM—so the best way to get attention is to be genuinely interested in the people you’re partying with! Find out what makes them tick, what makes them smile—anything they’re willing to share, and hang on every word. When you speak to them again, use the material they shared to spark up a new conversation.
What are your best tips for how to be the center of attention at every party? Share them in the comments section, below!
Angela Atkinson is a certified trauma counselor and the author of more than 20 books on narcissism, narcissistic abuse recovery, and related topics. A recognized expert on narcissism and narcissistic personality disorder who has studied and written extensively on narcissistic personality disorder and narcissistic abuse in toxic relationships since 2006, she has a popular narcissistic abuse recovery YouTube channel. Atkinson was inspired to begin her work as a result of having survived toxic relationships of her own.
Atkinson offers trauma-informed narcissistic abuse recovery coaching and has certifications in trauma counseling, life coaching, level 2 therapeutic model, CBT coaching, integrative wellness coaching, and NLP. She is a certified trauma support coach and certified family trauma professional. She also has a professional PTSD counseling certification. Her mission is to help those who have experienced the emotional and mental devastation that comes with narcissistic abuse in these incredibly toxic relationships to (re)discover their true selves, stop the gaslighting and manipulation, and move forward into their genuine desires – into a life that is exactly what they choose for themselves.
Along with her solution-focused life coaching experience, Atkinson’s previous career in journalism and research helps her to offer both accurate and understandable information for survivors of abuse in a simple-to-understand way that helps to increase awareness in the narcissistic abuse recovery community. Atkinson founded QueenBeeing.com Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Support, the SPANily Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Support Groups and the Life Makeover Academy.
Q. Do you believe any woman can be beautiful if she makes an effort, or are there actually “lost causes” when it comes to appearances, as far as you’re concerned?
Q. Do you believe any woman can be beautiful if she makes an effort, or are there actually “lost causes” when it comes to appearances, as far as you’re concerned?
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