The real Rainn Wilson’s philosophy for happiness will get you in your feelings

The real Rainn Wilson’s philosophy for happiness will get you in your feelings

“I gotta be me, I have to find my own truth, my own way to be odd and ungainly and weird.” – Rainn Wilson, in a recent HuffPostLive interview

The first time I ever saw Rainn Wilson being…well, Rainn Wilson, he was appearing on Oprah Winfrey’s Super Soul Sunday show (which I absolutely love most weeks!).

Wilson was discussing having left NBC’s wildly successful nearly decade-long sitcom, The Office, and at first, he had me laughing, as usual.

But then as the conversation between Wilson and the amazingly talented and beautiful Oprah Winfrey (y’all know I love me some Oprah!), a chord was struck, and I got all “in my feelings,” as we say in St. Louis.

Not only was he nothing like his anal-retentive, awkwardly hilarious character, but he was clearly a surprisingly light-filled being who understood creativity and self-realization on a level that impressed me.

Then he started talking about this really amazing project he’d been working on called Soul Pancake.

I was already a fan, but this development changed my whole perception of Rainn Wilson.

If you’ve never seen the “real” Rainn Wilson, or if you have and you could use a little pick-me-up, you need to check out his recent appearance on HuffPostLive (see link at the end of this post).

I love when that happens. You know, when a preconceived notion is challenged by a new way of seeing things. Don’t you? 

Rainn Wilson was asked to share some lessons for living a good life. Moments later he was convulsing on the couch, showing off how he experiences “rapturous joy.”

Post-convulsion, during an appearance on HuffPost Live, he shared some poignant thoughts on happiness, his marriage, and being true to yourself.

“I gotta be me, I have to find my own truth, my own way to be odd and ungainly and weird.”

I was doing my first Broadway play and I was terrible in it. I was bad. I had so much pressure on my shoulders. It was kind of a classic play and I thought I needed to be a certain way as an actor. And oh my god, I stunk. I was so distraught, I would be weeping in the middle of the night, calling my wife.

It was one of the hardest experiences I went through, to show up everyday to a Broadway play knowing that you suck.

Sometimes as an actor youre just in the wrong part at the wrong time. But it was mostly my belief systems that really screwed me up and then after that something broke, something cracked.


See video and full story at: HuffPostLive

The Secrets to Happiness, According to the Experts

The Secrets to Happiness, According to the Experts

“It isn’t what you have, or who you are, or where you are, or what you are doing that makes you happy or unhappy. It is what you think about.” ~Dale Carnegie

In my experience as an individual as well as in my practice as a life coach, perception is what it’s all about. Just like Dale Carnegie said, it’s not what you have, who you are or what you’re doing that makes you happy or not – it’s all about what you think about. 

With that in mind, I am well-aware that everyone needs to look at things differently in order to truly “get” it, so I’m offering up this roundup of what the experts say are the secrets to happiness.

Each link will take you to a more detailed article that offers that particular author’s (or study’s) take on what it takes to be happy. Check them out, below.

And hey, don’t forget to let me know what you think by leaving a comment below or joining the discussion on our Facebook page.  

Shocker: What researchers say are the true keys to aging gracefully

Shocker: What researchers say are the true keys to aging gracefully

“Aging is not lost youth but a new stage of opportunity and strength.” ~Betty Friedan

I’m not getting any younger, people, so it might not surprise you to know that I’m thinking about what it means. And being the vain creature that I am, I am focused primarily on the way it’s going to make me look and feel as a female.

See, our society tells us that without physical beauty, we’re “less than,” and yet it also tells us that physical beauty often equals youth. So us old (and almost-old) chicks? We’re at an odd impasse in our lives.

I’ve got my theories on how positive thinking and intention can help you to create the life you want – and I’m living proof that stuff works.

So you can imagine how pleased I was when I read this post over at Longevity LIVE, which outlines several basic qualities of people who age gracefully.

For the record

All of this is based on research, of course. I’m a journalist and a research geek, y’all, so you know I love me some research.

So how do researchers say you should go about aging gracefully? You’ll love it – well, I know I did, anyway. The list looks like this:

  • Be accepting.
  • Live for today.
  • Be proud of who you are and what you’ve achieved.
  • Play.
  • Be real.
  • Laugh often.
  • Find your passion.
  • Keep on loving.
  • Meditate.
  • Have gratitude.

See the author’s explanation for each of these when you click through to the link below.


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How to Eat Whatever You Want and Still Lose Weight (Yes, You Can)

How to Eat Whatever You Want and Still Lose Weight (Yes, You Can)

“Everything in moderation, including moderation.”― Oscar Wilde

Updated Progress Photo: On the left, me, prior to losing 100 pounds. The photo on the right was taken Dec. 2014.

Updated Progress Photo: On the left, me, prior to losing 100 pounds. The photo on the right was taken Dec. 2014.

Listen, I’ve always said I don’t like feeling deprived. I could never lose weight on a consistent basis until I figured out that doing it right didn’t mean ALWAYS eating right. It meant eating right most of the time, and just paying attention to how much I ate all the time.

See the core weight loss tips I used to lose 100 pounds (and counting), right here.

Bottom line, if you love food and you don’t want to live on lettuce and carrots, it’s all about HOW MUCH you eat, not necessarily WHAT. As long as it all adds up to a calorie deficit by the end of the day, you’re all set for weight loss. If not, at least burn as much as you take in–and you won’t gain any weight when you splurge a little.

Portion control is key to losing weight without feeling deprived.

So, can you really eat what you want and still lose weight? Well, yes, you really can. For example, you can eat chocolate cake and other foods you love if you just reduce the serving size – or eat less calories elsewhere in your day. Try these strategies to reduce your portion sizes and lose those extra pounds.

Read more: 9 Shocking Life Changes to Expect When You Lose 100 Pounds

Tips for Eating at Home

1. Plan weekly menus. Sketch out your eating plan for a week at a time and use it to guide your grocery shopping. Many people underestimate how much they eat. This system will make any discrepancies obvious. If you run out of food before the end of the week, you may need to re-evaluate your diet.

2. Read the package labels. It’s easy to assume that convenience foods would be packaged in single servings. Check the label to be sure. A single bottle of juice often contains 2 or more servings, so find out how many calories you’re really consuming.

3. Learn to eyeball. A three-ounce portion of grilled fish is about the size of a deck of playing cards. A cup of breakfast cereal looks about as big as a tennis ball. You may want to measure and weigh your favorite foods while you’re learning to visually estimate portions.

4. Count your bites. Counting each bite is another temporary method that can help. Notice how many bites you’re eating. By eating more mindfully, you may find that your taste buds are satisfied with just a few spoonfuls of ice cream.

5. Divvy up your plate. As you learn to visually estimate portions, you’ll discover about how much of your plate they typically cover. Keep this in mind when you dish up your food. Health experts recommend that most adults get about 2 to 3 cups of vegetables daily, so get used to giving them the most room.

6. Use smaller dishes. Smaller plates and bowls will make servings look more generous. Keep big platters off the table to remove the temptation to help yourself to more. When snacking, put just a few chips in your bowl at a time. Force yourself to walk back to the kitchen again if you want more.

7. Package or freeze leftovers. You can save time by baking big batches of lasagna. Just put the leftovers in the freezer right away so that you don’t succumb to the temptation to have just a little more.

Tips for Dining Out:

1. Set aside leftovers immediately. The same strategy works when you’re eating out. Cut your hamburger in half and push the remainder to the side. If your powers of resistance need a little support, ask ahead for half of your meal to be packed to go.

2. Ask for sauces on the side. Sauces and dressings can add a lot of calories to otherwise healthy dishes. Request that condiments be served on the side so you can control how much you use.

3. Order the smallest size. You can minimize the damage at fast food places by ordering the smallest size on the menu. Hot French fries taste better so you can actually have a more satisfying experience by eating less.

4. Share a meal with a friend. Splitting a meal is often more fun than having leftovers. Ask your server to divide it or just bring two spoons if you’re very close friends.

5. Ask questions. Some items are obviously dangerous to your diet, but others may require clarification. Ask what’s in the salad or how big the seafood platter is. You may want to leave out the bacon or decide that the appetizer has enough calories for a whole meal.

These new eating habits are effective and easy to learn. By reducing your portions sizes, you can manage your weight while enjoying a wide variety of delicious and healthy foods.

What are your best tips for eating what you want and still losing weight? Share your thoughts in the comments section, below, or join the discussion  on our Facebook page.

Queen Bee QT: Increase Persistence With This 30-Second Trick

Queen Bee QT: Increase Persistence With This 30-Second Trick

Phoebe_in_front_of_the_Wikipedia_globe,_arms_crossed,_2010-06-15Been feeling a little overwhelmed lately? Too much on your plate and you don’t know where to begin? Maybe you just feel like giving up.

Here’s a quick hit way you can easily change your flow and get back on track – a simple move that will help you increase your persistence and start getting things done again.

Queen Bee QT: A Simple 30-Second Trick to Increase Persistence

A 2007 study in the European Journal of Social Psychology found that the simple act of crossing your arms for 30 seconds will increase your resolve to figure out a problem or stick with something until it’s finished.

So, the next time you feel like you just can’t do something or you’re having trouble figuring something out, cross your arms for 30 seconds and give it another go!

Here’s the science behind this trick.

Researchers did two experiments based on their hypothesis that arm crossing can serve as a “proprioceptive cue for perseverance within achievement settings.”

According to their documentation, experiment 1 found that “inducing participants to cross their arms led to greater persistence on an unsolvable anagram,” while experiment 2 revealed that “arm crossing led to better performance on solvable anagrams, and that this effect was mediated by greater persistence.”

No differences in comfort, instruction adherence, or mood were observed between the arms crossed and control conditions, and participants appeared to be unaware of the effect of arm crossing on their behavior.  (See the full study here)

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