My Two Cents: What If Mommies Ran Away From Home?

My Two Cents: What If Mommies Ran Away From Home?

“The natural state of motherhood is unselfishness. When you become a mother, you are no longer the center of your own universe. You relinquish that position to your children.” ~Jessica Lange

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Being a mom is a hard job. And sometimes, you’ve been unselfish for TOO long. You might even feel like just running away.

What would happen if mommies decided to run away from home? 

I mean, what if you open the door and run and don’t look back?

Of course this is something I (and most moms) would never do, but sometimes it feels like to have that option would be great.

Moms have to be strong to put up with all the crap we take from our kids, mates and the world.

Unfair Stereotypes: Mommy and Daddy and Kiddo Make Three

Freaking stereotypes! The world looks at being a mom as a duty, not a loving choice. If the woman decides one day to get up pack a bag and just leave, the world would label her as a bad mom.

If a man decides to pick up and leave, the world might think, “Maybe the wife was mean, or to much to handle. Poor guy, he just needed a break.”

If the kid runs away, they are looked at as a troubled teen, attention-seeking or just plain “bad.” 

How fair it this crap?

Just My Two Cents! Now, let me hear your feelings on this one in the comments section, below!

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Hot Wife Guide: Celebs Offer Relationship Advice for Working Moms

Hot Wife Guide: Celebs Offer Relationship Advice for Working Moms

“When Valentina was not even 1 month old, my aunt [gave me the best advice]: ‘Put her to sleep yourself every night. Sing to her and cradle her in your arms and sit by her side — every night. Because one day you won’t be able to, and it’s going to happen really fast.” ~Selma Hayek 

Salma_Hayek_Cannes_2015_2It’s not easy to balance a successful career and family life. But I’ve got great news for you!

Working moms are usually pretty happy to share their relationship maintenance secrets – even celebrity ones, such as Selma Hayek, pictured left. 

How about that? Can you dig it?

 

Are you a hot wife? Do you wanna be? Learn exactly how to do it, right here. 

Hot Relationship Advice From Hot Celebs

Fox sports reporter Erin Andrews offers the following advice for keeping your marriage hot – and it comes from her own parents.

“…because they’re happily married for a long time: Just listen. Listen to him,” Andrews says. “I’m so independent and driven and stubborn. Just let him talk. It’s about not being so stubborn and having to win every argument. My parents set a great example. They love each other and take care of each other so much.”

“It’s kind of cheesy, but my mama, who you all have seen on the show, says to cook for your man,” says singer Jessie Lewis. “She’s Southern, so when he comes home, be pullin’ a pie out of the oven. That’s always been her advice, and you know what? It works. Your man wants to see you in the kitchen, puttin’ some love into some food; it works for Eric, that’s for sure.”

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Alyson Hannigan’s advice is simple: Don’t ever spend more than three weeks apart,” the How I Met Your Mother alum says. “Two and a half weeks, maybe three, was the longest we ever did.”

Queen Bee QT: How to Keep Your Relationship HOT and Be a Mom at the Same Time

Maintain your romantic and family relationships and your job with these tips from the Queen Bee moms. 

1. Find a reliable planner. What do you use to plan your schedule in advance? A reliable planner is an important part of trying to balance work and family.

  • A planner will help you schedule your work and family time to avoid missing an important event for either one.
  • Use the planner to schedule relationship time, too. Date nights and fun activities with the children are popular options.

2. Cook ahead. Planning and cooking your meals ahead of time will give you the chance to focus on your relationships. Cook multiple meals in advance and stock the freezer.

  • If you have a freezer filled with meals that are ready to be heated, then you can spend more time enjoying your family. Instead of worrying about what they will have for dinner, you can have a meal plan in place for an entire month.

3. Set guidelines at work. Does your career make it difficult to see your family every night? Working mothers can set guidelines at work, so their lives are more balanced.

  • Does work prevent you from seeing your partner and enjoying dinner together? If you can establish overtime rules, then you can try to find a balance between long hours and your relationship.
  • Let your boss know about important family events ahead of time, so your work is aware that family is a priority.

4. Pick up tips from other working mothers. Your friends and coworkers can share valuable advice with you about work and relationships. You shouldn’t be afraid to start a conversation about maintaining your relationship.

5. Find a reliable friend. It’s not easy to balance work and family at the same time, but a reliable friend can help you during difficult situations.

  • Who can you turn to for help balancing your career and relationship? Do you have a trustworthy friend who can support you? Instead of trying to control every aspect of life, you can delegate certain activities to a friend.
  • Strong friendships are built on mutual trust and assistance, so be prepared to step in if a friend needs you.
  • Did your babysitter cancel on your date night? This is a good opportunity to turn to friends who can help you maintain your relationship. Your child can have a sleepover at their house while you have date night.

6. Spend five minutes a day alone with your partner. Working mothers rarely have any alone time with their partners. However, just five minutes a day can make a big impact on relationship maintenance. It’s important that you be completely alone with your partner for at least a few minutes a day.

  • You can set aside five minutes in the morning or evening to spend with your partner. Children, friends, and other family members shouldn’t be in the room with you. In addition, put away tech gadgets that distract you.
  • You can set a timer for five minutes and talk or cuddle. The goal is to focus on each other.

Relationships need to be nurtured so they thrive. If you’re a working mother, take advantage of these tips to help you find a balance between your job, sweetheart, and kids.

Babies A-Z: Your Baby’s Life Depends on Your Car Seat

Babies A-Z: Your Baby’s Life Depends on Your Car Seat

Is it really necessary to put your baby in a car seat if you’re only going a block or two? Well, let me ask you something.

Would you skip using a condom because you’re only having a quickie?

Yeah. Let that sink in a minute. Not using a carseat because you are not going very far is the same logic as not using a condom because you are only going to have a quickie.

As a new mom, when you go to pick out your baby’s car seat, you’re bound to have a lot of questions! And for good reason!

 According to SeatCheck.org: 8 Common Car Seat Installation Mistakes

  1. Not using the right child safety seats for a child’s size and age;
  2. Not placing the child safety seat in the correct direction;
  3. Incorrect installation of the child safety seat in relation to the vehicle’s air bags;
  4. Incorrect installation and tightness of the child safety seat to the vehicle seat;
  5. Not securing or tightening the child safety seat’s harness and crotch straps;
  6. Improper use of locking clips for certain vehicle safety belts;
  7. Not making sure the vehicle’s seat belts fit properly across the child when using a booster seat; and
  8. Using a defective or broken child safety seat.

Why should you take the car seat decision so seriously?

baby-617411_640According to the CDC, more than 650 kids under the age of 12 were killed in auto accidents in 2011.

And nearly 150 thousand kids in the same age group were seriously injured in accidents.

Of those who died, a third were unbuckled and not using pr0per car seats.

The CDC’s Recommendations for Risk Reduction for Every Age

Buckling children in age- and size-appropriate car seats, booster seats, and seat belts reduces the risk of serious and fatal injuries:

  • Car seat use reduces the risk for death to infants (aged <1 year) by 71%; and to toddlers (aged 1–4 years) by 54% in passenger vehicles.2
  • Booster seat use reduces the risk for serious injury by 45% for children aged 4–8 years when compared with seat belt use alone.3
  • For older children and adults, seat belt use reduces the risk for death and serious injury by approximately half.4

 

Which car seat is best for your baby? 

There are a ton of different car seats on the market today, with a wide variety of features. Check out this handy infographic from the CDC for the basics.

CDC Car Seat Advice

You need to take this particular decision pretty seriously. Remember that the car seat you choose will be what protects the baby if there was ever a car accident – it can literally be the difference between surviving an accident or not!

Car Seat Recommendations from the CDC: Know the stages

Make sure children are properly buckled up in a car seat, booster seat, or seat belt, whichever is appropriate for their age, height and weight.

Birth up to Age 2: Rear-facing car seat.
For the best possible protection, infants and children should be buckled in a rear-facing car seat, in the back seat, until age 2 or when they reach the upper weight or height limits of their particular seat. Check the seat’s owner’s manual and/or labels on the seat for weight and height limits.

Age 2 up to at least Age 5: Forward-facing car seat.
When children outgrow their rear-facing seats they should be buckled in a forward-facing car seat, in the back seat, until at least age 5 or when they reach the upper weight or height limit of their particular seat. Check the seat’s owner’s manual and/or labels on the seat for weight and height limits.

Age 5 up until seat belts fit properly: Booster seat. 
Once children outgrow their forward-facing seat, (by reaching the upper height or weight limit of their seat), they should be buckled in a belt positioning booster seat until seat belts fit properly. Seat belts fit properly when the lap belt lays across the upper thighs (not the stomach) and the shoulder belt lays across the chest (not the neck). Remember to keep children properly buckled in the back seat for the best possible protection.

Once Seat Belts Fit Properly without a Booster Seat: Seat Belt
Children no longer need to use a booster seat once seat belts fit them properly. Seat belts fit properly when the lap belt lays across the upper thighs (not the stomach) and the shoulder belt lays across the chest (not the neck). The recommended height for proper seat belt fit is 57 inches tall. For the best possible protection keep children properly buckled in the back seat.

Install and Use Car & Booster Seats Properly
Install and use car seats and booster seats according to the seat’s owner’s manual or get help installing them from a certified Child Passenger Safety Technician.

Find a child passenger safety technician.

Don’t Seat Children in Front of an Airbag
Buckle all children aged 12 and under in the back seat. Airbags can kill young children riding in the front seat. Never place a rear-facing car seat in front of an air bag.

Seat Children in the Middle of the Back Seat
Buckle children in the middle of the back seat when possible, because it is the safest spot in the vehicle.13

Use Proper Restraints Every Trip
Buckle children in car seats, booster seats, or seat belts on every trip, no matter how short.

Always Wear a Seat Belt
Set a good example by always using a seat belt themselves.

Sometimes the car seat is even sentimental to the mom because it is the item that is going to carry baby home for the first time from the hospital.

So when picking out a car seat ALWAYS ask questions! No question is a dumb question when it comes to your child’s safety!

Now comes the fun part! All car seats come in different colors and designs! Get creative! Make your baby’s “second home” unique and comfortable!

Tell me how your experience of going and purchasing your baby’s car seat went, in the comments below!

Additional Resources for Car Seat Safety and Selection from the CDC

QB Body Talk: Your Complete Guide to Personalized Weight Loss

QB Body Talk: Your Complete Guide to Personalized Weight Loss

Body envy. I am not going to lie to you. It used to be a HUUUUUUUGE issue for me. Pun entirely intended. In fact, my research tells me I’m not alone. Luckily, I’ve found the cure and I’m happy to share it with you. 

Perfect Pictures Predicate Pouty People

It happens every single time when those infomercials featuring perfectly proportioned models pop onto the television screen promising an enviable body weight if you’ll just fork over enough cash to make you skinny forever.

weight loss motahyahEven though you know there’s no magic pill that guarantees overnight success, sometimes it’s tempting to dole out the money.

It’s enticing because losing weight is a struggle, and a vicious uphill battle that’s not always so easily fought.

The appeal to find a quick fix hits you every now and then – especially when you’ve worked hard to lose a little bit of weight and then you fall off the diet wagon and gain it all back (and then some).

We have all had the daunting thought, “There has to be an easier way to lose weight!”

Have you purchased every weight loss book ever published, forced down the diet bars, consumed the shakes, and attended the weight loss meetings so many times you could have paid for the entire building by the time you quit?

Have you done all of this and yet you still haven’t seen the long-term results that you crave more than food itself?

Are you sick and tired of trying, but you still know you need to lose weight so that you can have a healthier life?  Or maybe you only need to lose a few pounds to fit into that new outfit or look good for an upcoming class reunion.

 You know you want to lose weight, but you don’t want a gimmick and you certainly don’t want to keep going down a road that leads nowhere.

You just want to find a plan that really works for you without all of the empty promises. There’s something you might not know about the battle of the bulge – something that can help you gain the victory once and for all without having to resort to any costly plans or fancy gimmicks.

Best of all, the way you can lose weight can be found in your own refrigerator, in your pantry or at your grocery store. By the way, this little known method of losing weight won’t break your wallet. I guarantee it.  

Understanding the Basics of Weight Loss

To understand how weight loss works, you have to first understand how calories work. A calorie is energy given in the foods you eat. Your body uses this energy as fuel. Think of it as wood for a fireplace. If you put in too much wood, the fire gets too hot and there’s too much heat produced.

In the same manner, too much consumption of calories, especially those foods with empty calories, equals an overabundance of fuel. The same way you would store wood in stacked piles for your fireplace, the body stacks an overabundance of calories as fat.

It then takes that fat and adds it to the places you don’t want it put. Then you see results like a tummy that laps over the top of your jeans – often called a muffin top – or you discover the results are flabby thighs or a double chin.

To make the battle of weight loss even more discouraging, that fat, and its cellulite, can give you a lumpy, bumpy look.

Cellulite are pockets of that stored fat beneath the surface of your skin.  In other words, it’s the chocolate cake or donuts or the second helping of carbohydrates if those calories aren’t burned.  

Now, all of that’s the bad news. But the good news is, you don’t have to accept being overweight as your fate (no matter how many times you’ve fallen off the diet wagon in the past).

Because this weight loss technique is easy and inexpensive, so you can stick with it forever. Not only can you stay on the plan, but you’ll find you actually enjoy it!

Your Body’s Secret Workout

When you watch a movie, what you see is the finished product. All of the actors and actresses stand where they’re supposed to. They say their lines like a pro and they look good doing it.

What you don’t see happening is the chapped hands and runny noses from filming outside in below zero weather or the nights filming lasted until two in the morning. You didn’t see what went on behind the show.

Many people sit down to eat a meal or a snack and never give a second’s thought to what goes on behind the scenes once the food is finished.

Everyone knows how you gain weight and most of us are pros at the gaining. We gain by eating too much of the wrong kinds of food.

But what if I told you something about your own body that could help you lose weight?

Do you have more than 100 pounds to lose? You might need a bit of help – learn how to be unbreakable and succeed at weight loss, right here. 

Your body has to work to digest each bite of food you put into your mouth. What does that have to do with anything? 

It’s simple: Because your body is expending energy to digest the food, it’s actually sort of performing a silent workout.

Sounds great, right? Your body is working out without you having to lift a finger.

Picture this: your body is burning energy to digest the food while you watch television, while you talk on the phone, drive to work and even while you sleep. It sounds like a fantastic win-win situation doesn’t it?

If it’s so fantastic, then why are some people still overweight? Because you’re not eating the right kinds of foods. You’re still stuck measuring portions and counting carbs and assigning foods as good or bad.

Truth? There is no such thing. Food is simply fuel. All of it is. But how (and at what rate) the fuel is burned depends on the foods you eat because it correlates to how it makes your body work. Still follow me?

Negative Calorie Foods – Your Body’s Secret Weapon

What if you discovered you could lose weight simply with the foods you choose to eat?  Foods that help you work off calories simply by eating them. It sounds too good to be true, doesn’t it?

But it’s not.

There are foods that make your digestive system use more energy to consume them than the calories contained in the foods themselves.

When you use more energy to digest a food than the caloric value of a food, then those foods are called negative calorie foods. By eating these negative calorie foods, you will burn calories and you will lose weight effortlessly.before-and-after-weight-loss

See how I lost 100 pounds. 

This is a rough example of how it work:

Let’s say you have a slice of chocolate cheesecake from the store bakery and you consume roughly 350 calories (or more depending on the type of ingredients used). Once you’ve eaten that slice of cheesecake, your body goes to work breaking it down and beginning the digestion process.

Let’s say your body burns 150 calories digesting that cake (and that’s probably figuring the amount burned on the high end). You’re still left with a gain of 200 calories.

These calories will turn into unwanted fat and weight gain if not used as energy by the body. Now remember, the amount of calories you burn by eating negative calorie food will depend on the type of food it is.

Instead of the chocolate cheesecake, let’s say for example that you chose an apple instead. A medium sized apple has approximately 80 calories. You eat the apple and then the digestion process begins.

Because an apple is a negative calorie food, your body works harder to digest it than you gain in calories by eating it.

The difference in negative calorie foods is comparable to the difference between walking and running.

When you go for a low key walk, you don’t expend the same amount of energy you would if you were running.

Let’s Do the Math

Math was never my favorite subject in school, but this kind of math is the kind I love. So let’s go back to the foods.

If you eat that apple, you’ve ingested around 80 calories. Your body begins the digestion workout and without you having to do anything, burns calories.

Let’s say as an example, that your body burns around 100 to 110 calories. We’ll split that and say the body burned 105 calories. To eat that 80 calorie apple, you would have burned an extra 25 calories.

If you had the slice of chocolate cheesecake, but felt the urge to eat the apple afterward, you would then be 25 calories to the good on the cheesecake.

Feel me?

Boiled down, it means that 350 calorie cheesecake minus the 25 extra calories you burned by eating the apple leaves you with 175 calories charged against your caloric intake for the cheesecake rather than the entire calorie count for the cheesecake.

However, unlike math, there is no simple formula that can subtract months or years of eating the wrong way. But with a little addition of the right kind of foods – negative calorie ones, you can erase those pounds and keep them off.

There are a few things to keep in mind with any type of diet. The more involved a diet is, the less success most people achieve in the long run.

Studies have shown that the more elaborate a weight loss plan is, the less likely the person is to stick with it to the end because we like things basic and to the point.

None of us has the time to waste filling out complex charts and recording every single morsel we put into our mouths (but the truth is that it doesn’t hurt – and I personally recommend you do it for at least six months if you’re trying to really change your life!).

That’s why negative calorie foods are an ideal weight loss plan for people who want to lose weight, want to get healthy and want a simple method but need a little something extra working in their favor.  

Your own digestive system can give you that boost you need to keep going until you’ve reached your goal weight. By using your body’s own digestive system, you can actually change the equation.

Stealing From the Store

If you’re a junk food junkie, you probably have more than your share of fat stored – fat you would love to see disappear.

Remember the apple math?

If you have fat stored from junk food and you start eating negative calorie foods, what’s going to happen is those negative calorie foods are going to begin stealing from you.

These foods are going to take the fat your body put in store and they’re going to begin using it. Why? Because it took more energy to consume that negative food than the negative food had to give.

That energy deficit had to be made up somehow and your body knows just where to get it.

When you eat negative calorie foods, your body works hard enough to pull the nutrients and energy from the foods to the point that the food calories don’t count.

If there’s not enough energy in the foods your body digests to perform the job, like a car putting in more gas, your body will pull up to the pump – in this case the fat stores – and get whatever it needs to finish the task.

I know what you’re thinking!

“This is one thief I wouldn’t mind having around!”

But Are These Negative Calorie Foods Good For You?

Are you thinking there must be a catch? That negative calorie foods are some type of exotic food with names you can’t pronounce?  With all the benefits we’ve talked about that come from eating negative calorie foods, they can’t possibly be good for you, right?

Wrong!

In fact, negative calorie foods are exactly the kinds of foods doctors not only recommend that you eat, but also encourage patients to do so for weight loss and disease prevention.

What are these mystery foods? They’re certain fruits and vegetables. Since experts agree that more fruits and vegetables are a good thing for everyone, negative calorie foods are a great weight loss plan.

A Brief List of Negative-Calorie Foods

This isn’t a complete list, but for an easy reference, I’ll mention some of those foods for you.

  • Veggies: turnips, cucumbers, lettuce, asparagus, broccoli, radishes, cabbage, celery, spinach, carrots, leeks and cauliflower.
  • Fruits: watermelon, apricot, tomato, apple, blackberry, tangerine, cranberry, cantaloupe, peaches, lime, grapefruit, lemon, papaya, honeydew melon, strawberries, pineapple, plums, mandarin orange, raspberry, rhubarb and honeydew melon.

There’s nothing odd about that list of vegetables or fruits. They’re just ordinary foods with the power to create negative calories upon consumption.  

Now don’t get confused thinking that the phrase ‘negative calorie foods’ means that the foods don’t have any calories, because that isn’t the case at all.

The food you eat does contain calories – your body just has to work so hard to digest them that you wind up with a caloric deficit once it’s all said and done.

Is it safe to eat negative calorie foods?

Yes, it’s safe. You can’t overdose on negative calorie foods. Unlike heavily advertised pills and gimmicks, there are no ill effects to eating negative calorie foods because they’re healthy for your body – working to keep it naturally lean and strong enough to produce the energy you need throughout the day.

 

Estate Planning: You MUST Do These Things Before Getting Old

Estate Planning: You MUST Do These Things Before Getting Old

Estate Planning – You MUST Do These Things Before Getting Old!!!

Before you get too old. Do your kids a big big big favor and tell them elderly-couple-holding-handsa few simple things that will make life easier for them and yourself.  Don’t wait until it is too late to take care of your finances.  Start now!  

After spending the last few weeks trying to help my husband sort through his elderly parent’s finances I have come to realize that we must take care of this stuff before we get old and not after.  Countless calls to a lawyer and many grey hairs later I am ready to share with you my list of things that you should do before getting old.    

Estate Planning

~ Where your money is – What bank? Do you have more than one bank? Put their name on your accounts. (Yes, all of them!)
~ Who to contact for life insurance – Also, how much is the policy worth? Does it have a cash value in case you have medical expenses and your kids can draw against it?
~If you have long term care and who it is through – How much does the policy pay per day? Who do you contact in order to get it started? How long is the grace period?
~ Where your annuities are located – Put your kids name on the annunities and your IRA.
~ If you have CDs at the bank – How much are they worth and what bank.
~ Where your investments are and who to call to access them – Do you have more than one investment? Maybe stocks and bonds?
~ Where the car titles are and where the deed to the house is kept – Put your kid’s names on the title to the home as well as the car, boat, motorcycle, and that piece of land you bought and never got around to building on.
~ Write up your will and decide on a power of attorney and give a copy to the bank, your doctor, and lawyer.
~ Give your kids copies of your insurance cards along with doctor information.
~ Have a living will? You should!

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Don’t leave your family to spend night after night trying to decipher what’s what in your life and where to go next for answers. You might not realize how much of a hassle all this can be but save your family the trouble. They are already going through you being sick or dead don’t let them do all this stuff too!!!!

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