1. You’ve started to like yourself a little. And maybe even respect yourself – and dare I say it? Love yourself! You understand that you have value outside of being a narcissistic supply and you have begun to develop standards for yourself and the people you associate with each day.
2. You are becoming an expert boundary-setter and enforcer. You’re no longer allowing other people to dictate your boundaries and you certainly don’t allow anyone to step over the line and remain part of your inner circle anymore. Now, you live your life for you and you focus on what matters to you first.
3. You are moving past the pain and anger and starting to develop a strong sense of self. You know who you are and you’re embracing the REAL YOU!
4. You have figured out what your passion is – or you’re well on your way to it – and you’re starting to spend time doing something you love on a regular basis.
5. You have released your anger and sadness regarding the narcissist in your life, or you’re ready to do that. You don’t forget, but you do let go and keep the lessons learned in mind as you go forward.
6. You have forgiven yourself (or you’re ready to forgive yourself) for being involved with the narcissist, or for not discovering that this person had NPD sooner. Or for whatever it was that you consider your fault in the relationship.
7. You’re learning to trust yourself and your intuition again. This is hard for survivors of narcissistic abuse because we are taught NOT to trust our own eyes, thoughts and beliefs during the gaslighting part of our abuse.
8. You are starting to learn to trust people again – and also how to know who you can’t trust. You’re aware but not paranoid when you meet someone new.
9. You are starting to find some kind of new level of understanding (or even some meaning) in the experience – a silver lining if you will. If you can’t see it that way, you’re at least willing to see that you’re stronger than most people you know in real life. Certainly, you still wish it never happened, but you also see that you have become a more complete and better version of yourself during your healing.
If you’re looking to improve your ability to stay calm and collected under pressure, then there are numerous different techniques you can use. One of the most potent is to learn to control your breathing, which can immediately help you to feel calmer and avoid being pushed over into the stress response.
Narcissistic relationships are hard! But whether you’re currently in codependency recovery or you’re looking for ways to deal with the toxic narcissist in your life, these easy exercises for reducing stress and anxiety will help you get through the hard times faster and with less physical effects. Use neuroplasticity to your advantage in recovery from narcissistic abuse. These deep breathing exercises and power poses can help – plus, learn how to get yourself into the flow state via NLP.
Did you know that narcissistic abuse causes your brain to literally change structure? Some people would say that means it causes brain damage. But there’s good news. You can change it back, thanks to a recently-discovered concept called neuroplasticity. By using this simple sort of “brain training,” you can overcome the effects of abuse – including panic attacks, stress, depression, fear, and more. This is science-based recovery from narcissistic abuse.
If you’re not already familiar with the concept of neuroplasticity, you’ll want to learn as much as you can about it, because these days, it just might be offering hope for survivors of narcissistic abuse in their healing.
Here is a quick introduction to neuroplasticity that can help you understand more about how this works.
What is neuroplasticity?
Neuroplasticity, according to a 2017 report, is “the remarkable ability of the brain to reorganize itself in response to various sensory experiences.” In layman’s terms, it means that our brains can sort of “rewire themselves” by forming new neural connections throughout life. This means that the neurons (nerve cells) in the brain can compensate for injury and disease and to adjust their activities in response to new situations or to changes in their environment.
Do adults still have neuroplastic brains?
The general belief used to be that after a certain age, the brain was pretty much sort of “set” in its ways. But relatively recent research seems to confirm that adults are also known to have neuroplastic brains, and researchers say this is good news for anyone who wants to create change in their lives. This article offers a thorough explanation of this concept and the science behind it.
If you want to dig into the science a little deeper, check out these resources too.
Tapping Into Your Bran’s Neuroplasticity for Narcissistic Abuse Recovery
What does neuroplasticity have to do with narcissistic abuse recovery?
For the purposes of recovering from narcissistic abuse, adult neuroplasticity offers us something kind of amazing. Because we can intentionally control this process if we choose to do so, we can intentionally choose exactly what we want to change, at least up to a point, and we can do so at will. Oh yes! In other words, if you want to change the way your brain is working after the trauma of a toxic relationship, you can. You just have to tap into your brain’s natural ability to change – its neuroplasticity.
Mindfulness Helps Create Positive Change in Narcissistic Abuse Recovery
One point that I cannot stress enough here is that through the intentional practice of simple mindfulness techniques, you can begin to create actual change in your life.
What is Mindfulness?
Mindfulness is often used in both narcissistic abuse recovery as well as every day life, For the purposes of recovery, we use mindfulness to help us to intentionally focus on what is happening in any given moment. Even better, there are no special skills required – in fact, anyone can develop and use mindfulness to their advantage through the practice of meditation and through other training, such as the Intentional Vibration Management technique I teach.
What is Intentional Vibration Management?
Intentional vibration management is similar to mindfulness but it involves constantly being aware of your thoughts and emotions and choosing to intentionally form and experience both. In my experience, it can be used as part of a larger narcissistic abuse recovery program as a healthy way for survivors to take back control of their emotions, minds, experiences, and lives.
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Other Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Support Groups– We also have separate groups for each stage in your narcissistic abuse recovery, as well as some for those who have moved past recovery and are evolving into the next stage of their own life. Survivors have unique and individual needs, even when they’ve moved on – so we’re still here for you.
One-on-One Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Coaching – If you prefer to get more personalized support in your recovery, you might like to schedule a session with one of our coaches to plan and execute your own narcissistic abuse recovery plan.
Find a Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Therapist – If you’re looking for a therapist for narcissistic abuse recovery, either because you cannot afford coaching and want to use your health insurance or because you have additional issues you need to address that do not fall within the realm of coaching, you will want to find the right therapist for you – and as far as we’re concerned, that therapist must understand what you’ve been through. This page offers assistance to help you do exactly that.