Toxic Parents

Toxic Parents

Toxic Parents Want Free Rent in Your Head Forever: Healing for Adult Children of Narcissists & ACOAs

Does this sound like you? Are you the adult child of a narcissist? If so, you’re not alone. Join our free support group for adult children of narcissistic parents.

What is a narcissist?

A narcissist, in general, is someone who holds an inflated opinion of him/herself. In narcissistic abuse situations, this refers to a toxic, verbally (and sometimes physically) abusive person who may have narcissistic personality disorder. Toxic parents are sometimes narcissists as well.

Are all toxic parents narcissists?

No, not all toxic parents are narcissists. But often, they display narcissistic tendencies and cause similar issues. Certain issues can cause a parent to behave in narcissistic ways, even when they wouldn’t otherwise be that way. For example, active addiction or alcoholism will often present almost identically to toxic narcissism.

Dealing with gaslighting and enmeshment is difficult for any victim of a narcissist, but when you’re the adult child of a narcissist (ACON) – even if you first identified as an ACOA, it’s a lifelong issue that never seems to lose its grip on you – especially if you don’t know about toxic relationships and narcissistic personality disorder.

Read more: Identifying NPD in Toxic Families

How do you know if you are the adult child of a narcissist in a toxic family relationship?

This article will fill you in completely, but basically, if you feel like you’re being emotionally, physically, spiritually or otherwise abused, manipulated or mistreated by any family member on a regular basis, there is an element of toxicity.

Related: 44 Warning Signs You’re Being Emotionally Abused

These family members can include your spouse and other nuclear family members, but also extended family such as parents and in-laws, siblings, aunts and uncles, grandparents and other relations.

Your toxic family member may over-criticize you or openly judge you for your personal choices, or they may be a little sneakier about it by gossiping or telling lies about you (or your choices) behind your back.

Related: Top 10 Warning Signs You’re Being Gaslighted by a Toxic Narcissist

Some family members may take it to a whole other level and actually attempt to wreak havoc in your life or even to control, destroy or alter your nuclear family, domestic situation or other outside relationships.

How do you heal from having a toxic parent?

Read This: How Adult Children of Narcissists Can Begin to Heal

The healing process for an adult child of a narcissistic parent is a long and sometimes difficult one–but it’s worth the effort. Whether you walk away completely or you choose to limit your relationship to only necessary interactions, you would be wise to give yourself the space you’ll need to evolve and grow into the individual you’re meant to be. Read more: Identifying Toxic Family Relationships

As the adult child of a narcissist, you’re bound to have picked up a few (or more) thoughts, feelings, and beliefs that aren’t really your own. So, once you get your space, start there: figure out exactly what you believe, and what you don’t. You might be surprised to find out which beliefs or thoughts you’ve been carrying around for all these years for no reason.

The next step is to begin to embrace the fact that you’re an individual who has value. Your thoughts, feelings and experiences are legitimate and worth hearing about–and you are just as good as anyone else. Read more: 10 Things You Need to Know If You’re In a Toxic Relationship

Related: Going No Contact with a Parent

Need help? You’re not alone. Join our free online support group for adult children of narcissists and toxic parents, right here.

Take the Toxic Parents Test

Still not sure? Take this toxic parents test and find out if you might be dealing with toxic parents.

Inner Transformation and Evolving Group coaching

Inner Transformation and Evolving Group coaching

Join Lise Colucci, certified life coach

Inner Transformation and Evolving group coaching 

Are you ready to thrive and would like some support as you continue to heal after a toxic relationship? Inner Transformation and Evolution group coaching can offer you that support to go beyond overcoming abuse. This coaching group is led by QueenBeeing life coach, Lise Colucci. The group meets weekly for 1 hour in video chat plus there is a messenger chat that Lise checks in with several times per day to help you get the extra support you may need as you go through your week. Topics we cover include boundaries, inner child, restating negative or limiting self-talk, reframing problems and areas that you might feel stuck in your healing, finding your life’s passion, setting goals, dating again, trust, love,triggers, finding your voice and so much more.

This is the third group in the Regaining Self series of group coaching packages. All three are repeated each month and may be joined as many times as you need.

Times and cost:

  • 4 weeks begin 11/7 or 11/9
  • Wednesdays at 6 pm or Fridays at 11 am Pacific
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Here is the link to sign up. Once signed up, you will be contacted by Lise about your choice in time.

If you have any questions you can contact Lise at [email protected] or for information on individual coaching click here.

 

11 Examples of Narcissists in TV Shows & Movies

11 Examples of Narcissists in TV Shows & Movies

If you’re looking for some good examples of narcissists and narcissistic behavior, look no further than Hollywood. Narcissists are often represented often in movies and television shows – and it can be very validating to identify and watch them for survivors of narcissistic abuse.

What is a narcissist?

In general, a narcissist is someone with a high opinion of him/herself. But it goes much deeper than that – in narcissistic abuse situations, the word narcissist refers to a toxic, verbally (and sometimes physically) abusive person who has a marked lack of empathy and may also have narcissistic personality disorder.

Here are 11 examples of narcissists in movies and tv shows.

Narcissists in the Movies

  1. Devil Wears Prada – Miranda Priestly thrives on keeping her employees and everyone else in the fashion industry in fear of her narcissistic rage. Only briefly do you ever see any glimpse of humanity of her in the movie, and it’s quickly remedied when you realize she has thrown one of her most loyal employees under the bus (by giving her would-be replacement the promotion that should’ve been his) in order to protect her own interests and keep her job at the magazine.
  2. Mean Girls – The Plastics, all of them, could be classified as narcissistic in one way or another, though the two “followers” may be more codependent than anything. But their leader, Regina George, is clearly a raging narcissist who not only makes her followers tell her how skinny and beautiful she is, but she also has no problem using them to get what she wants. There’s no doubt that she’s certain she is better than everyone else, even her enabling mother.
  3. Snow White – The Wicked Queen literally orders the death of her younger, more attractive stepdaughter for being – well, younger and more attractive. Looks to me like a histrionic narcissist if I’ve ever seen one.
  4. Mommy Dearest – This true story about actress Joan Crawford offers a classic example of a toxic, abusive and blatantly narcissistic mother who abuses her two adopted children emotionally, psychologically, mentally, physically and otherwise.
  5. Dead Poet’s Society – Puck’s father was a bullying, controlling narcissist who ultimately goes too far with his toxic abuse and loses his son to suicide. And if we’re being honest, the headmaster of the school could probably also be called narcissistic since he controls the students through threats and intimidation.

Narcissists On Television

  1. Will & Grace – Karen Walker – rich, beautiful and blatantly narcissistic. Rarely shows empathy, but the writers seem to show enough of her human side that you don’t quite hate her.
  2. House – Dr. Greg House – amazing doctor but he talks down to his patients, other doctors and his bosses, and except for a few peeks into a slightly human self, Houe seems to clearly lack empathy.
  3. Breaking Bad – Walter White is clearly a self-focused narcissist who initially seemed to mean well, but ultimately got so wrapped up in the toxic meth business that he (apparently) ends up dead. More intriguing, though, is the character Gus Fring, who runs a chains of chicken restaurants (among other businesses), which act as a cover for a multi-million dollar drug ring.
  4. Two and a Half Men: Charlie Harper, Alan Harper and their mother Evelyn Harper. Each Harper brother is self-focused and entitled in their own ways, and it’s clear that their narcissistic mother drove their personality development.
  5. Gilmore Girls: Lorelai Gilmore may be more of a covert narcissist, but she was raised by an obviously toxic mother and she often appears to show no empathy for anyone outside of herself and her daughter, who, perhaps not surprisingly, she named after herself.
  6. The Sopranos: Tony Soprano seems to have some serious narcissistic traits, despite certain apparent empathy he displays now and then. In fact, his therapist even noted during one episode, “I thought we were making progress with your narcissism, Tony.” Olivia Soprano also seems to be on the narcissism spectrum.
How to Overcome Your Post-Narcissistic-Abuse Existential Crisis

How to Overcome Your Post-Narcissistic-Abuse Existential Crisis

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Dear Survivor,

Ever feel like you’re having an existential crisis?

Do you feel like you’re on the verge of huge personal change but you can’t quite put your finger on your next move?

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  • Do you feel like you’re on the verge of huge personal change but you can’t quite put your finger on your next move?
  • Do you want to change something about yourself and your life?
  • Do you sometimes feel like you’re not really living, or like the things you want are out of your reach?
  • Do you find yourself longing for more?
  • Can you relate to the idea of having an existential crisis?

Being in a relationship with a toxic narcissist destroys your identity in so many ways. Often, when you finally get out, you’re left spinning – wondering who you are and where you go from here.

But here’s some good news: you aren’t permanently stuck in this so-called “limbo” – you can create exactly the life (and the self) that you want.

So let me ask you this:

Do you know who you want to be and do you know how to get there? Human beings are amazing, we have much more control over our destinies and ourselves than we realize – especially those of us who have survived a toxic relationship. We all know that we must change – it’s inevitable! But too often, we find ourselves just waiting to see what happens next.

The bad news? When you wait for change to happen rather than taking control and directing that change, you may not like the new reality you are facing.

The truth is that if you have ever made an effort to make yourself or your life better in any way, you have what it takes inside you to realize a new and improved you.

This is powerful information, because it explains that simply by “wanting” personal growth and improvement in some area of your life, you are subconsciously beginning to choose to take the required action to get you where you want to be.

Of course, you are not alone in your desire to discover all that you can be.

Many survivors of narcissistic abuse share your personal development goals…

  • Confidence * Self-Respect * Eliminate Self-Sabotaging Behavior * Change Bad Habits
  • Erase Limiting Beliefs * Increasing Productivity * Time Management
  • Dealing With Adversity* Self-Reliance* Emotional Intelligence
  • Self-awareness/Self-knowledge * Self-Care * Motivation
  • Communication * Self-Understanding * Optimism/Positivity/Happiness
  • Organization/Efficiency * Assertiveness* Fulfillment
  • Life Purpose * Life Balance* Enjoy a better relationship with self and others

Make more money, become financially independent and career goals

Can you identify with any of those self-improvement goals?

Maybe you have some entirely different personal development achievement in mind.

No matter what area of your life you would like to improve, why haven’t you been able to in the past?

Hint: YOU ARE NOT lazy or incapable of change! The truth is that you just haven’t been given the proper tools. But all of that is about to change!

Instead of cookie-cutter, one-size-fits-all personal development advice from a self-proclaimed, self-help guru, you need a plan that works for you, specifically. And this program was developed for you by a certified life coach and fellow survivor of narcissistic abuse.

As a survivor yourself, it’s so important to consider your personal needs and to arm yourself with the proper knowledge and tools to experience powerful and profound personal growth.

You need to understand exactly where you are now, how to get where you want to go, and how to handle setbacks on your way to your dream reality.

You need….

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  • Proven methods for identifying your current level of growth
  • Goal setting that works
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Even so, your plan must be customizable and it must work for YOUR life, because there is no one exactly like you. You need the tools that show you exactly where you are now, how to get where you want to go, and how to handle setbacks on your way to your dream reality.

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How to Write and Release Your Toxic Relationship Story, and Rewrite Your New Future Story

Have you been mentally and emotionally abused and manipulated by a toxic narcissist? Have you had enough of the gaslighting, the flying monkeys, the love-bombing and the hoovering?

Are you tired of accepting the “you” that the narcissist has defined?

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This course offers you the solution you need, and it’s been created specifically for you by a certified life coach, author and survivor of narcissistic abuse.

Inside, you’ll find several reports, worksheets and downloadable tools that will help you to take the steps necessary to get your story down, release it and write your new story.

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