You may think that someone who is constantly sharing selfies is a narcissist. You may think that is the only sign that someone could be a narcissist if they always put up flawless filtered selfies all over their social media channels only to get plenty of likes.
In some cases, that could be a sign. But not always – taking selfies does not make one a TOXIC narcissist.
In any case, that is not the only sign and not the most concerning sign that someone is a narcissist. Let’s look at five examples of narcissistic behavior.
1. Being Extremely Charming…Sometimes
People want to make a nice impression that they are kind and often put on an act when they hook up with a new date for the first while. That is normal.
And over time, you will see their true personalities.
But putting on an act of being nice and kind is not the same as someone so charming to the point that you know they must be hiding something.
They are hiding something with that charm, but it shows up once it wears off. And behind closed doors? They are a completely different person.
Unless they want something from you.
2. Having A Sense Of Importance Which Is Extremely Inflated
Those with narcissistic behaviors think they are the only ones whose needs and wants count.
They will think it is just fine, for instance, to cut in front of lines because they are more deserving of getting something than anyone else.
Others will be mad when they see the narcissist cutting in line, but the narcissist will not care.
Another example of this behavior is when the narcissist has been put on hold while being on the phone with customer service.
As soon as the narcissist is served, he or she will scream at the customer service rep for making him or her wait on the phone for so long because their needs are more important than anyone else’s.
3. No Empathy Whatsoever
A narcissist is not empathetic. They do not care if someone is suffering and do not want to hear about it.
If someone is having a hard time and they try talking to the narcissist, then the narcissist will not just ignore them but tell them to be quiet and get over it. At worst, he or she may even laugh.
According to one study, narcissists can be taught empathy, but there’s a catch.
4. A Strong Need To Be Admired Excessively
A narcissist will brag about their accomplishments because they have this strong need to be admired, and they need attention.
They will also make it known if they were ‘heroic’ somehow to someone, such as opening the door for an elderly couple at the mall.
Not that the narcissist cares about that elderly couple since they are not empathetic. They just did it so they have something to brag about, as they did a ‘good deed’.
And this is exactly why narcissists tend to have their very own little “harem” – which is described in this video.
5. Having One Troubled Relationship After Another (Because It Is Always The Ex’s Fault)
If someone displays these traits and talks about so many exs, always blaming them for ruining their relationships, that is a red flag right there.
Of course, it is never the narcissist’s fault for having so many failed relationships.
That also shows how narcissists blame others for everything; they will never take responsibility for what they do. Not only that, but they have a toxic relationship cycle that goes on in each relationship (and repeats throughout their relationships in their lifetime).
Any of this sound familiar to you?