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angI used to weigh more than 100 pounds more than I do today. When you’re as overweight as I used to be, people don’t always look you in the eyes. They make assumptions about you that probably aren’t true, including that you’re lazy and unintelligent.

People who haven’t struggled to get or stay slim don’t understand how it feels, but they are always congratulatory when they find out I’ve lost that much weight, which is nice.

Yeah, life’s definitely different than it used to be.

People are nicer.

Like I said, overweight often equals overlooked. Since I’ve lost the weight, I notice that people people in general are nicer to me. They’re more likely to offer me a hand or to smile at me in the aisle at the grocery store. I’m even more likely to get special discounts and other little goodies the world offers to petite blonde women. Imagine.

Truth? It makes me a little mad. But whatever.

Men are more aggressive.

Not that I’m complaining, mind you, but since I’ve lost the weight, not only do I get hit on more often, but the men (and a few women) have been a LOT more aggressive with their flirtation and attempts to gain my attention. This is mostly flattering but had been annoying/offensive and otherwise displeasing on a few occasions.

My feet are smaller.

I’d always been a size 7w in shoes, but after my second child was born, I found myself in a size 8w. I told myself it was related to the pregnancy, but interestingly, after I lost the weight, my feet quickly returned to their original size. (Score! An excuse to go shoe shopping!)

I can feel my bones.

Not like I’m super skinny, but for years, I didn’t even know I had hip bones. Now, I can feel them. A weird thing to note (if you’ve never been overweight!)

I’m not perfect.

A lot of us think crazy stuff like, “if I could just lose 100 pounds, I’d be almost perfect! My weight is the bane of my existence!”

Truth? You’re going to be just as messed up when you’re done losing the weight–on the inside. So, in my case, I’m still evolving, and my guess is that I’m not alone. So I’m OK with not being perfect. Instead I work on being a perfect (read: best possible) version of myself in any given moment.

Sitting is better. So is standing. And everything else.

Not only can I pretzel myself into nearly any position, but I can sit comfortably almost anywhere–including on my husband’s lap. And I can do just about anything I want with my body–I dig that. A lot.

I love my husband more, because I know he loves me for REAL.

See, when married me, I was 100 pounds heavier than I am now. And he still loved me and wanted to be with me.

No one else in the world can ever take his place, because I know for sure he loved me through some of the most unattractive years of my life. That is a beautiful trait to find in a man, no?

FASHION!  Yep.

Listen, there are some really great designers out there who make out plus sized sisters look amazing. Unfortunately for me, being only 5′ tall was working against me.

Some women can totally rock the plus size look, but for me? I wasn’t pulling it off. So after losing the weight, my ability to wear and buy what I want has made life way more fun. And since I can now wear the day, s and m sizes depending on the outfit, I can get some really great deals on the clearance racks. ( Around here, there are always leftovers in the little sizes).

I also shop the juniors section for some stuff. It’s cheaper and for trendy items, works well with some pieces.

I still have to watch what I eat and pay attention to my body.

It’s not a freaking cakewalk, people. IF you have been overweight, then you may once again go there if you’re not careful. It’s a matter of monitoring yourself closely and of CHANGING YOUR HABITS. That means it can’t just be a “temp” fix–you’ve got to be in this thing for the long haul. So go ahead and have a little chocolate if you need it–but don’t be crazy about it! Keep your serving size reasonable and make up the calories elsewhere.

 
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4 Responses to 9 Shocking Life Changes to Expect When You Lose 100 Pounds

  1. Angie – I love your writing and your perspective (as always). I’m not quite in your league when it comes to losing weight, but I went from 183 to 123. It’s been 9 years now – and holding :-). I hope that qualifies me to say this.

    There’s ALL kinds of “invisible” people, or people who get overlooked, labeled lazy or treated as stupid. People with physical handicaps. The elderly. Youngsters (with opinions). People from cultures that are quieter than the typical American. Introverts. Ambiverts. People coping with illness, physical and mental. Parents who have to hold down two or more jobs and support several kids. People who work fast food. People who use food support debit cards. Kids who need school lunches. Anyone with an accent other than British.

    The list is long. The point is: we are not in high school and no one is with the cool kids. Everyone goes home to their own concerns – and most people are alone with them. Even the happy, well-treated, slim, strong and beautiful people.

  2. You’re absolutely right, Nance, and for the record, 50 pounds is HUGE!! And you look gorgeous.

    But back to the high school thing, I couldn’t agree more. I think that as I evolve, I feel so much stronger in myself…and thankfully, the proverbial high school I was stuck in for so long has been left in my dust. 🙂

    And I totally agree that it’s not just overweight people who deal with these prejudices. I can think of situations I’ve personally witnessed to match almost all of the examples you mentioned. In the spirit of one person being able to start a wave of intention, I hope everyone reading this will take a moment to see someone who is typically unseen…I believe that awareness and individual action is the start to what I hope will ultimately change the world.

  3. Thank you for sharing this, Angela, and for reminding us that everyone deserves to be looked in the eye, not overlooked. – Fawn

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