Accepting that you are 30
I cried on my 25th birthday. That’s not a bad age to be but I was devastated. I never wanted to get older. I hated September 4th of every year because it marked that I was officially growing older. Another year under my belt. Another grey hair. Another wrinkle.
I would tell myself that I cannot grow another year older. I refused to have birthdays and told my kids to always refer to me as 26 every year no matter how old I was.
I hid my birthday from my friends and when my mother decided to throw me a surprise birthday party for my 30th I was not happy to say the least.
I enjoyed my friends and family but I did not enjoy having everyone reminded how old I was.
Now that I am half way through my 30s and some of my friends are starting to enter their 40s I am finally realizing that growing older isn’t so bad.
1. Financial Security –Something that I didn’t have throughout my 20s was financial security. Having time to go to college and start a career has paid off well into our 30s.
2. Kids – It’s pretty hard to keep trying to be young when your kids are growing up right in front of you. No more hiding the fact that I’m over 29 when I’m standing next to my 19 year old son. All that does is make me look silly. I am happily watching my children become young adults. I enjoy watching my children put to use the things I have been teaching them throughout their childhood.
3. Self-confidence – I have never looked better than right now. That is because I have never felt better or had more self-confidence. This comes from years of learning to love myself. I spent my 20s finding who I was and becoming okay with what god gave me.
4. Family and friends – Understanding that our family and friends are some of the most important things in our lives. Having people who will always be there for you speaks volumes. Find them, keep them, and treasure them. Those people will be the ones we call when life gets to be too much and who we make memories with.
If someone asked me today would I rather be 25 or 35 I would totally choose 35. 10 years ago I would have never answered that question the same way. However, reflecting on my life I have enjoyed the things that come with age. I would not change how old I am. Even if that means more wrinkles and grey hairs. I love being in my 30s and I am excited for my birthday because that means another year of adventure and new memories to add to my pile of already great ones.