Disappointments are a part of life and losses are inevitable. However, negative experiences make the positive ones even more worthwhile. Plus, I strive to turn every loss into a win. I might win something other than what I expected, but it’s a win nevertheless.
Sure, I know what it feels like to lose. I admit to feeling down and disappointed when something I work hard to achieve slips out of reach. But I also know what it feels like to win, so I gain knowledge from each disappointment that can help me win more often.
Whenever something works out unfavorably, I analyze the sequence of events and look for a probable cause of the disappointing result.
I can usually find the culprit in a weakness here or choice there. What I learn is enlightening and most rewarding!
Experiencing a loss makes future victories and successes that much sweeter. I feel more pleased when I win something after suffering a loss in the past. I believe my losses make me better equipped to succeed and look forward in anticipation to future victories.
Today, I vow to enjoy my rewards, even if they are something other than victory. I know that there is a shining moment out there for me, and I commit to making myself ready to seize that moment when it comes.
Self-Reflection Questions:
1. How can I teach my kids to learn the lesson even after a disappointing loss?
2. What positive attributes have I gained as a result of experiencing disappointments?
3. Am I better equipped for future battles after a loss?
Angela Atkinson is a certified trauma counselor and the author of more than 20 books on narcissism, narcissistic abuse recovery, and related topics. A recognized expert on narcissism and narcissistic personality disorder who has studied and written extensively on narcissistic personality disorder and narcissistic abuse in toxic relationships since 2006, she has a popular narcissistic abuse recovery YouTube channel. Atkinson was inspired to begin her work as a result of having survived toxic relationships of her own.
Atkinson offers trauma-informed narcissistic abuse recovery coaching and has certifications in trauma counseling, life coaching, level 2 therapeutic model, CBT coaching, integrative wellness coaching, and NLP. She is a certified trauma support coach and certified family trauma professional. She also has a professional PTSD counseling certification. Her mission is to help those who have experienced the emotional and mental devastation that comes with narcissistic abuse in these incredibly toxic relationships to (re)discover their true selves, stop the gaslighting and manipulation, and move forward into their genuine desires – into a life that is exactly what they choose for themselves.
Along with her solution-focused life coaching experience, Atkinson’s previous career in journalism and research helps her to offer both accurate and understandable information for survivors of abuse in a simple-to-understand way that helps to increase awareness in the narcissistic abuse recovery community. Atkinson founded QueenBeeing.com Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Support, the SPANily Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Support Groups and the Life Makeover Academy.
She offers individual and group coaching for victims and survivors of narcissistic abuse here at QueenBeeing.com and at NarcissisticAbuseRecovery.Online.
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I win even in the midst of a loss.
