Have you ever wondered why you keep attracting narcissists? Are you interested in learning how to stop attracting narcissists? Do you find yourself wondering, “Am I a narcissist magnet?”
“Understanding how a narcissist works is the key to living or working with one,” writes Alexander Burgemeester. “If you can understand his or her behavior, you may be able to accept it as you realize their behavior is NOT a result of anything you did or said despite them emphatically blaming you. If you can accept their behavior and not take the abuse and other actions personally, you can then emotionally distance yourself from the narcissist. If you can emotionally distance yourself, you can either cope with the narcissist or garner the strength to leave.”
What qualities attract narcissists? While there is no single “type” that a narcissist typically goes for, technically – there are no parallels to be drawn among the partners of narcissists as far as height, weight, eye color or any other physical or cultural characteristic. While it’s safe to say many partners of narcissists are codependent, there’s no “ideal” or “standard” mate/friend/spouse for a narcissist, but it turns out that there are certain similarities about the relationships.
For example, the narcissist typically begins a new relationship with a “honeymoon” period, during which everything seems perfect, almost too good to be true. We call that the idealization phase.
Living in a relationship with a narcissist is like an emotional roller coaster ride – the highest of highs and the lowest of lows. And a narcissist cannot exist without someone to adore them. They need a narcissistic supply who is willing to do what they want when they want. To be available at the narcissist’s whim and to be willing to give up on their own needs to satisfy the narcissist.
In fact, the narcissist’s entire identity really depends on it—it’s called narcissistic supply. Watch this video to learn the 4 types of people that attract narcissists. You might be surprised!
In this video, I’m breaking down 4 types of people who attract narcissists. We’ll talk about what type of people the narcissist is most attracted to and why.
Angela Atkinson is a Certified Life Coach and the author of more than 20 books on narcissism, narcissistic abuse recovery and related topics. A recognized expert on narcissism and narcissistic personality disorder who has studied and written extensively on narcissistic relationships since 2006, Atkinson was inspired to begin her work as a result of having survived toxic relationships of her own.
Atkinson offers trauma-informed coaching and has certifications in life coaching, level 2 therapeutic model, CBT coaching, integrative wellness coaching, and NLP. She is a certified trauma support coach and certified family trauma professional. She also has a professional PTSD counseling certification. Her mission is to help those who have experienced the emotional and mental devastation that comes with narcissistic abuse in these incredibly toxic relationships to (re)discover their true selves, stop the gaslighting and manipulation and move forward into their genuine desires – into a life that is exactly what they choose for themselves.
Along with her solution-focused life coaching experience, Atkinson’s previous career in journalism and research helps her to offer both accurate and understandable information for survivors of abuse in a simple-to-understand way that helps to increase awareness in the narcissistic abuse recovery community. Atkinson founded QueenBeeing.com Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Support, the SPANily Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Support Groups and the Life Makeover Academy. In her life coaching practice, Atkinson’s clients enjoy her personalized approach that allows and encourages them to become the best possible versions of themselves and to succeed in doing what they love most. She offers individual and group coaching for victims and survivors of narcissistic abuse at NarcissisticAbuseRecovery.Online and NarcissismSupportCoach.com.