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By Angela Atkinson

Dear Angela,

I don’t know how to deal with people who think they’re better than me.

You know the kind I mean? They are the ones who brag about every little thing, and really, none of it is impressive to me.

I might be impressed if I thought they had better intentions, but I really think they are just insecure.

Why do I feel like they are trying to make me jealous or belittle me?

How should I handle those types of people? What if you have to deal with them on an everyday basis?



Dear Anonymous,

I think you hit the nail on the head. People who act that way are doing it because they feel insecure about themselves in some way.

Many insecure people believe somewhere inside themselves that they need to put other people down in order to feel better about themselves.

Sadly, this is often directed at people of whom the insecure person is jealous for some reason.

It could be that you’re more comfortable in your skin than they are, that you have a more successful career, happier relationships or just that you have something they want–a family, friends, a nice home or car–the list goes on and on.

One way that I make insecure people comfortable around me is to give compliments liberally. Anytime you can offer a little boost to someone’s self esteem, it helps.

You can compliment on a person’s physical appearance, clothing or accessories, home, car, family, personality–nearly anything will do, and you might be surprised at how often (and how well)  it actually works.

Still, some people won’t be satisfied. They are constantly creating negativity in their own lives, and they seem driven to spread it to others.

Handling negativity from the people in your life can be tough, in whatever form it takes, and most especially from those you love. Still, you can do it (and stay positive) by protecting yourself emotionally.

First, don’t allow anyone to make you feel bad about yourself. Whether the person is underestimating you or just being plain rude, you get to decide how you feel about the situation.

So, stop caring what negative people think. You have the right and the ability to do just that–check out this post for more details on how you can do it (without looking like a huge jerk, even.)

Finally, remember that it’s not your problem. The problem lies within the insecure person who is trying to bring you down–so remember that you are good enough, and never let that feeling waver, no matter what (or who) life brings your way.



What advice would you offer this reader? Tell me in the comments!

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