In my life coaching practice, I don’t give people advice, but I help them to discover the answers within themselves. One of the most important tools a coach uses is the ability to ask good questions.
Questions are a valuable tool that coaches and therapists often use to get their clients to the next level and to encourage them to pull the answers from their own heads.
But good news – you don’t need to be a pro to make this work – and you can even use it on yourself! This technique is so easy that anyone, even you, can use it to literally change your life.
By asking yourself questions, you can change your focus and the direction of your life. The proper question can open you up to new possibilities and ideas. Take the time to examine your life and ensure you’re on the best possible path.
15 Life-Changing Questions to Ask Yourself Every Single Day
Ask yourself these questions on a regular basis:
1. Have I seen enough to have an accurate view of the world? It’s surprising how many people have never crossed their state line. The northeastern part of the United States is very different from the South, Midwest, or other parts of the country. Europe is very different from Africa.
You’re missing out on a lot if you don’t explore other places and cultures. What are the odds that you were born in the precise place that fits you the best?
2. Will my finances be able to support my retirement? It’s important to start asking this question immediately, even if you’re only in your 20s. Focusing on the short-term at the expense of the long-term is a common error. You only have so many tomorrows to prepare for the latter parts of your life.
3. Where will I end up in five years if I live this day repeatedly? You might not have a time machine at your disposal, but you can probably predict the future better than you think. Our daily activities determine our future. Ask yourself these questions and project your answers over the next five years. What’s the logical outcome?
4. What did I eat today? Whether we realize it or not, the food we eat directly affects how our bodies feel and react to the world around us. So take a minute and make sure you’re on the right track here.
5. What did I do to earn money today? While it’s certainly not all about money, we all need money to survive. So do something most days to earn money – and ideally, make it something you love.
6. What social activities did I engage in today? People need connections with other people, and you’re no different. So even if you’re a work at home mom, get out there and do some networking! Engaging with other people can benefit our lives in so many ways – just do it!
8. If today were my last day to live, what would I do? You probably wouldn’t spend your day in front of the TV or spend your time worrying about silly things. Whatever answer you receive is a good indication of how you should be spending more of your time each day.
9. Am I happy with my career choice or would I rather do something else? Having multiple careers is much more common than it used to be. If you’re in a career you don’t enjoy, you have other options. Spending 40 years in a career that doesn’t excite you is a hard way to go through life.
10. What are my goals? If you don’t have any goals, how do you know where you’ll end up? Without goals, we’re relegated to choosing the best options that randomly pass through our lives. It’s much more effective to decide what you want and make it happen. Leave luck out of the equation.
11. Which parts of my life are making me unhappy? Becoming happier isn’t just about adding all the right components. It’s also about getting rid of the stuff that makes you miserable. The low-rated parts of your life make you unhappy. It’s not the fact that you don’t have a Ferrari in your driveway. Take out the trash before adding to your life.
12. Am I living my life in a way that supports my health? Young bodies can take a surprising amount of wear and tear without showing any signs of abuse. That doesn’t last. Taking care of yourself today improves the odds of enjoying good health down the road. Eat and sleep well. See your doctor on a regular basis.
13. Am I enjoying my life as much as I could? Are you too busy with work to notice all the good things in your life? Are you too worried to enjoy time spent with your children? You can experience many simple enjoyments every day.
14. What am I grateful for today? Every day, count your blessings. Remember: what you focus on, you get more of – so focus on what you want and what you love, not the other stuff.
15. What can I do better tomorrow? Now that you’ve evaluated your day, take a few minutes to plan your next move – what are you going to do better tomorrow? Write down your goals and consider the answers you’d like to give tomorrow night when you answer these questions again.
It’s easy to get caught up in your old routine and never take the time to look around. By the time you lift your head, you realize you’re not where you want to be.
Questions are one way to evaluate your life and create change. Be aware of your life and make conscious choices.
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What questions do you ask yourself every day? What would you add to this list? What are your thoughts on this process? Share your ideas with me (and the QB community) in the comments, below.
Angela Atkinson is a certified trauma counselor and the author of more than 20 books on narcissism, narcissistic abuse recovery, and related topics. A recognized expert on narcissism and narcissistic personality disorder who has studied and written extensively on narcissistic personality disorder and narcissistic abuse in toxic relationships since 2006, she has a popular narcissistic abuse recovery YouTube channel. Atkinson was inspired to begin her work as a result of having survived toxic relationships of her own.
Atkinson offers trauma-informed narcissistic abuse recovery coaching and has certifications in trauma counseling, life coaching, level 2 therapeutic model, CBT coaching, integrative wellness coaching, and NLP. She is a certified trauma support coach and certified family trauma professional. She also has a professional PTSD counseling certification. Her mission is to help those who have experienced the emotional and mental devastation that comes with narcissistic abuse in these incredibly toxic relationships to (re)discover their true selves, stop the gaslighting and manipulation, and move forward into their genuine desires – into a life that is exactly what they choose for themselves.
Along with her solution-focused life coaching experience, Atkinson’s previous career in journalism and research helps her to offer both accurate and understandable information for survivors of abuse in a simple-to-understand way that helps to increase awareness in the narcissistic abuse recovery community. Atkinson founded QueenBeeing.com Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Support, the SPANily Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Support Groups and the Life Makeover Academy.
She offers individual and group coaching for victims and survivors of narcissistic abuse here at QueenBeeing.com and at NarcissisticAbuseRecovery.Online.