Twin Flame Vs. Narcissist: What’s the Difference?

Twin Flame Vs. Narcissist: What’s the Difference?

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So you’re wondering what the difference is between a twin flame and a narcissist? That’s understandable. A narcissist can masquerade as a twin flame, so it makes sense that you’d be wondering who you might be dealing with – especially when you’ve dealt with narcissistic abuse in a toxic relationship.

My name is Sydney V. Smith, and I’m a lightworker and a twin-flame expert. That’s how I can confidently tell you that if you are dealing with what seems like an overly-controlling partner, you aren’t dating someone who could be your twin flame. Check out the video below for an understanding of the difference between a narcissist and a twin flame.

 

What is a narcissist?

A narcissist is someone with a very specific personality disorder (NPD) that leads to an inflated sense of self-esteem and a diminished capacity for empathy and compassion. Narcissists are often manipulative and controlling, as well as emotionally abusive.

What is a twin flame?

Your twin flame is your true spiritual partner, the one you have been waiting for your entire life. A twin flame is an incredibly intense soul connection. When a soul is created, it is split into two parts. Mirrors of each other, constantly yearning to connect. Even when you least expect it, this can result in an instant, powerful connection when you meet your twin flame. There’s little scientific evidence for twin flame relationships, although some psychologists argue the phenomenon is real.

The purpose of a twin flame relationship is to awaken you to your untapped potential and ignite a fire deep inside you. This relationship pushes you to do and be better. Opening up a world of possibilities you never even dreamed of.

Please keep in mind that finding a twin flame isn’t easy. Some never even find their twin within this lifetime! With that being said, it’s really easy to label a new partner as a “twin flame,” just when you think things are going well. Before all the problems start showing.

Are twin flames the same as soulmates and twin souls?

Twin flames are often confused with “soul mates” and “twin souls.” These terms do not mean the same thing as “twin flame.” A soul mate might be someone that you have had many lifetimes with, but that does not mean you were meant to be together romantically in this lifetime. In fact, the majority of soul mates do not experience an intimate relationship together in this lifetime.

What’s the difference between soul mates and twin flames?

Unlike soul mates, twin flames are not necessarily romantic partners. They may be our parents or children, or they may be so young that we don’t yet recognize the relationship.

Twins are intense teachers, showing us what we need to work on in ourselves. You can bet that your twin flame will challenge you like no one else ever has!

The most important lesson twin flames teach us is unconditional love. Twins show us how to grow beyond our ego-based selves and into our higher selves. They’re here to help us remember who we are as spiritual beings having human experiences.

What is a true twin flame relationship like?

Twin flame relationships are intense, and it’s not unusual for them to start with a sudden and powerful connection. They’re also highly emotional, thanks to the deep spiritual connection between twins.

While twin flames can have close emotional bonds, they can also be quite distant from each other. Some of these relationships never become physical, and some end in heartbreak or betrayal. Twin flames don’t need words to communicate — their spirits are connected.

What are the signs of a twin flame relationship?

When things seem too good to be true they often are, but in this case, they’re not. However, a true twin flame relationship is not a relationship that is all roses and rainbows 24/7. It is a higher calling, and for it to work, both the twins need to be willing to do the inner work. The challenge is not with the other person but with oneself. Here are the defining traits of a true twin flame relationship:

The twin flame relationship is all-consuming.

The twin flame connection is instant and so strong that it can be overwhelming at times.  It is an instant, instinctive and undeniable soul connection that transcends the physical.

  • It starts with a sudden connection.
  • You feel like you have known them before
  • You feel like you can communicate without having to speak
  • This can be a tumultuous relationship at times but it will bring extreme joy and happiness as well.
  • A strong sense of spiritual connection is present from the start.

The twin flame mirrors you.

They mirror your own personality and issues back to you (which is why many people run from their true twin flame. They don’t want to face their own reflection!) Your soul starts awakening as soon as you meet your twin flame even if you never make contact with them in this lifetime.

  • You feel like you can see into each other’s souls
  • A deep, telepathic knowing of one another.
  • Intense emotions come with the territory.
  • The feeling that you’ve known each other for many lifetimes.
  • You have an intense desire to help each other evolve and grow spiritually.

The relationship feels like a homecoming.

There’s an instant feeling of familiarity. Twin flames complete each other on a soul level, which is why the relationship feels so comfortable and familiar, even though you may have never met before.

There is an unspoken understanding of one another on the deepest level that only your souls can truly describe. You’re able to be completely honest with each other and share anything without fear of judgment or being misunderstood.

Romantic twin flames are friends first and lovers second.

Twin flames have a strong sense of purpose to their lives individually and together, so they often have other priorities besides just being “the one” for each other romantically.

There is a camaraderie and friendship that builds over time as you go through life together as companions, partners in crime, best friends, and loves.

The relationship has ups and downs, but you’re always drawn back to each other.

You can’t stop thinking about them or missing them when they’re not around, even if it’s only been a few hours since you last saw each other, this is especially true of the twin flame runner dynamic where one person will run from the relationship due to the intensity of the connection and the need for personal growth before he/she can be with his/her twin in union (twin flames unite on a soul level first before they unite in a physical incarnation).

You feel an overwhelming sense of spiritual oneness with each other, as if your souls were merging together when you’re together and when you’re apart, you can still sense each other’s energy and presence in a way that feels both familiar and deeply nurturing to your soul.

What is a false twin flame?

There is something called a “false twin flame,” which is sadly more common than a true twin flame. These fake twin flame relationships can often be found in toxic narcissistic relationships.

In these cases, the narcissist will pretend to be your soulmate and they will project a false persona. They will pretend to be everything you’ve ever wanted in order to get what they want from you, which is typically status, sex, or money – also known as narcissistic supply.

Sometimes the narcissist won’t even realize that they’re doing this, as they may have been taught to act this way by their parents who were also toxic.

The narcissist will lure you in with compliments and love-bombing, but eventually, you’ll see that it was all an act. They want you to think they are your twin flame which is the very definition of the term.

How can you tell the difference between a twin flame and a malignant narcissist in a relationship?

The beginning of both twin flame and narcissist relationships can be beautiful. This is why it’s important to know the difference. A narcissist pretending to be your twin flame will say anything to keep you believing them. They’ll say they are exactly the person you are looking for, but you’ll notice their actions say otherwise.

While it is true that narcissism exists on the same spectrum of unhealthy attachments to spirit – and is often confused for a twin flame connection – it is not the same thing.

The Narcissist

The malignant narcissist is someone whose ego has become so inflated that they see their own reflection in everything around them, and everyone else as an inferior extension of themselves. They are constantly seeking validation from others and are unable to give it to themselves. They have boundless energy when they connect with someone they feel they can feed off, but they also have almost no empathy for others. As a result, they cannot form real connections with others because they are not bonding with another person, but instead are trying to fill up their own empty space by projecting themselves onto other people and getting what they want from them. A narcissist is someone who has a deep sense of insecurity and low self-esteem that uses grandiosity to cover their pain. Narcissists have a hard time empathizing with others, but even then their needs come first. They struggle to form real relationships and live in a fantasy world where they are above everyone else.

The Twin Flame

On the other hand, a twin flame partner reflects your greatest light back to you – but not in an egotistical way. A twin flame relationship can be intense because it forces us to look at ourselves and our patterns more deeply than we ever have before. It makes us feel vulnerable and exposed but also gives us the opportunity to heal.

A true twin flame will have no problem committing to you. Once you’ve reached the union phase of the twin flame journey. You’ll know exactly where you stand with them. With no game playing or confusion! A narcissist on the other hand will never fully commit to just one person.

A twin flame is someone who comes into our lives to help us evolve spiritually. With them, we experience deep love, passion, intimacy, companionship, unconditional love, and true friendship. They encourage us to become the best versions of ourselves and mirror our deepest desires.

What are the similarities between twin flame love and narcissistic love?

There are lots of similarities between twin flame love and narcissistic love, including the following.

  • The instant connection of a twin flame can feel similar to the euphoric love feeling of a narcissistic relationship feels during the love bomb phases. This is why it’s important to not ignore these red flags and know the difference – so that you don’t end up falling into the abusive cycle of a narcissist, thinking they are your twin flame. 
  • In both relationships, there will be moments when you feel more deeply connected than ever before.
  • There will also be times when you question your sanity.
  • Both relationships will lead you to incredible levels of personal development, in very different ways. 

How do you find your true twin flame?

If you are looking to draw in your true twin flame the best way is through inner work and self-love. After all, no union can be achieved unless the work is done first.

Twin flame love is all about self-improvement.

So if you need help with that, I suggest meditation, self-reflection, self-love, and manifestation tools.

With Valentine’s Day around the corner…some are looking for love and some already have it. Don’t be too discouraged If you don’t have a Valentine this year. It’s the perfect time to work on things like self-love, which is the most important kind of love. Also, a powerful tool that helps you to draw in more love. For a new partner or a twin flame. A term that’s picked up momentum the past few years. Different from a soul mate.

A useful tool I have for this is a twin flame candle I designed for drawing in your twin flame. Infused with special crystals to help you manifest more powerfully. With rose quartz crystals for friendship and love, along with Carnelian and red jasper for sexual energy and excitement. The way to use this candle is to set your intentions each time you use it. Recharging it each time. Even comes with a prayer for invoking and drawing in your twin flame. Candles in general are a very useful tool for manifesting.

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She Had an Affair With a Married Narcissist

She Had an Affair With a Married Narcissist

*Editor’s Note: This story was submitted by a fellow survivor of narcissistic abuse. Read more stories right here, and submit your own here

50 Shades of G: My Affair With a Narcissist

My narcissist is an ex-married lover. We met when he was my boss working with him for two years before he moved away.

With this narcissist, everything we did, whether it be physical or when we were just fantasizing via email, was totally pedophile-ish and totally disgusting but I will say this: Looking back 16 years later, I now see the signs and wish I could’ve told myself, “Stop! Don’t do it! He’s an a-hole!”

And everyone I worked with warned me that my boss wasn’t a good guy. I was young, dumb and so in love with that man.

Now 16 years later, he’s married to the girl he didn’t want to marry (he told everyone he worked with he’d never get married). He had cheated on his wife before and after they were married – with me when I was single and during my first relationship with another narcissist.

How the Narcissist Reeled Me In

In 2009, my ex narcissist boyfriend had left the picture leaving my soon-to-be first ex narcissistic husband in the picture but we were just friends. Granted, he didn’t like HIM one bit. But I didn’t care.

He was smart enough to know that HE was a narcissist and was just using me for sex and didn’t really care about me.

HE never really complained about his wife that much when he stayed at my place. The only thing HE did say was that when they did have sex he had to be on top because she was fat and would’ve been crushed. This is true, she is a large woman, she’s got some thyroid condition.

I’ve seen what she looks like. He’s telling the truth.

Also, my second husband’s narcissist ex-wife is a morbidly obese woman weighing over 300lbs and he told me himself that he too had to be on top, (drunk of course) because otherwise he, himself, would’ve been crushed by her weight.

Other than that HE complained that they argued a lot about her dragging him to places instead of staying home. I asked him one time if his wife was the love of his life and he said “No.”

I asked him who was and he said some girl in high school. I asked him if his wife was his soul mate and again he said, “No.”

I asked him who it was and he said some girl named Christine. To this day, I’m really not sure if he was talking about the car or an actual girl – but nonetheless, it was an interesting conversation.

Seeing the Red Flags of a Narcissist in Hindsight

I do recognize the signs of a narcissist now that I think about it. I remember the first time he loved bombed me.

I was singing a song to myself and he said, “You look pretty with your hair down.”

Going back to my original point, even now, 16 years, later, HE still sees me as the girl who got away. I saw him two years ago. We reengaged our fiery email exchanges after our hookup, but this time, I’d finally got smart and knew how to defend myself.

Then in 2010 things started slowing down some with HIM. He and I hadn’t seen each other since July of 2010.

2011 rolls out. Here’s when HE devalued me and discarded me….or so I thought. I hadn’t seen HIM since that past November. I’d since become bored and tired of waiting but become interested in someone else. Not my soon-to-be-ex narcissist first husband. Even he fits this to a T but more on him later.

So I told Him when he could figure out a time and place to come up to let me know. He wrote back, “Since I haven’t figured out a time or place, HENCE no return email.”

Well, that’s when I had had it. I told him I was getting back together with my ex narcissist boyfriend who gotten out of jail for something he did which was downloading child porn onto my computer and “accidentally” forgetting to tell me about it before the police and FBI showed up back in 2009.

Choices I’d Regret

Anyway, to further complicate things, my future ex narcissist first husband didn’t like me seeing HIM because he wanted me to like him the way I adored HIM forced me to do something. What did he force me to do?

Tell G’s wife, of course, purely for his own selfish, narcissistic benefit. SHE knew all along so it wasn’t a shock. SHE called me and left me a voicemail calling me a whore and to stay away from her man.) Yet the jerk still continued to see me that summer in 2010!

He told me what to write and I did and then I received a message from Him that night. He asked me why I would do this and reminded me I was never that kind of person. I said I have stuff I could send her and he begged me, literally, “Please don’t. Even if she asks.”

Then the last thing he said was, “Are you going to try and destroy my marriage by sending her stuff, or are you going to let it drop?”

Running Into the Narcissist After Going No Contact

3 years later: 2014.

Still NO Contact. But THEY do their smear campaign. SHE sends me a letter from a lawyer threatening legal action if I ever step foot on their lawn. Like every other victim, I wanted answers so I emailed him in search of said answers and never got them. SHE also filed a police report.

Then one day I get the chance to see him again to get my so-called answers because I knew the wife was out of town. I have my soon-to-be-ex narcissist first husband drive me to where they live and I’m sitting at the place and as soon as he saw me.

Not surprisingly, he made a face – a sort of “holy sh*t” look. With this, he turned around and walked out the back before coming through the front.

He walked up to me and said, “What are you doing here?”

I said, “Eating. What does it look like?”

Then I said, “I came here to talk to you. I need to know why.”

By then all the people for the meetup he was hosting had shown up, so he had to conduct it. I turned my back and continued eating. He made small talk in between not to show that he knew me or anything.

At one point before the stupid thing started, I had to pee. So I had asked the very nice bartender to watch my stuff.

As soon I came out, HE came out at the same time and just stared at me for a minute, then went back to play the good host. The whole meetup was over within half an hour because not too many people showed.

Then it was just HE and I. I had a little bit of knowledge of how narcissists acted and behaved but not nearly enough as I do now so you could say I was still in the early developmental stage.

I know how we got started on the subject of rekindling our affair because I apologized for hurting him and I missed him. I told him I missed what we had and I wanted him to forgive me. Long story short we ended hooking up again and then the whole smear campaign started again.

His wife found out because one of the girls asked about me being at the last meetup and she put two and two together. But this time what she’s said and everything she’s always said to me has sounded like she’s talking in the third person which I find hilarious.

But this time around, at the time she wrote the email in 2014, I was very unhappy in my first marriage to a plushopheliac narcissist*, and I took what she said to heart and believed it.

*Editor’s Note: Plushophilia (from “plushie” and “-philia”) is a paraphilia involving stuffed animals.

I actually contemplated suicide.

I eventually divorced my first husband and found my second husband. I finally got therapy for all the issues I needed help with. Even HIM.
But HE hasn’t been fully discussed as he should be.

I’m suffering from dissociative amnesia from this man and all my exes. I do look so young for my age, I’m 37, but look 19 or 21, it’s exactly why he preyed upon me. He also bought me a coloring book and a small stuffed Spongebob toy to match for Christmas one year. What did HE get? Sex.

Three years ago was the last time I saw HIM. They came down to where I lived for vacation. He controlled EVERYTHING and I mean EVERYTHING. By this time I’d grown strong, wiser, and knew a proficient amount of knowledge on how to handle him. My husband and I stayed at the same hotel they did to get away for the night but mainly because I wanted to see/talk to him.

My husband and I lost our twin babies four years ago and I haven’t sought grief counseling and I made the mistake of opening the door after we moved down to where we live (which is where this all started.)

Anyway, after we got to the hotel we hung out at the pool, then a little while later they arrived. Poor guy, his wife made him use the luggage cart to lug their bags while she went inside to confirm their reservations.

He saw me and looked so sad.

His Wife Called Him a Psychopath

I went out with a co-worker of mine and HE constantly kept texting me and complaining about how slow the service is down here in the south. Then when I got back, I started reading my book in between emailing him.

I told him I was tired but he kept telling me just to wait. My husband was getting suspicious and I kept telling him I was reading my book.
My Adderall kept me up so I reminded him to go to bed because he had to be at work in the morning.

Finally at 2 am, HE strolls out and nudged his head toward the doors and I followed him. I asked him what took him so long and he said they had a fight. I asked what they fought about and he just made a funny face.

He said she called him a psychopath.

I said, “It’s because you’re a narcissist.”
He whined, ”Why does everyone keep calling me that?”
I said, ”Maybe it’s because you are.”.

He said stopped talking and handed me a drink. Don’t know what was in it but I drank some. He put my stuff down on the ground.

THE GROUND.

Date Raped by a Narcissist

This is where I know it was rape because I told him in an earlier email that we didn’t have to do this if he didn’t want to – meaning I really don’t want to cheat on my husband because I really love him and I don’t want to hurt him. He even asked when I was leaving the room why I was wearing a jacket and no shirt.

Saying YES DOESN’T ALWAYS MEAN YES.

Anyway, HE yanked my sweats down above my knee and unzipped my jacket halfway, and started to feel me up as he horribly went down on me. I just looked up at the sky, my eyes brimmed with tears.

I looked back down at him and I started to talk about something then he pushed me on my knees and handed me a chalice (came with dinner and a show) filled with Mountain Dew overpowered by something else.

So I drink it then looked at him and he said all the way so I finished it. Then it hit me and I go down on him and then in one swift move I’m on all fours and I’m not really enjoying it. I’m crying through the experience and I kept saying ow and I know he didn’t hear me.

Then when it’s over, we talked, I foolishly told him I loved him, he said so does she, and then he said really loudly (as if he were talking about his own marriage, that’s how I perceived it), he said, “I CAN’T do this anymore.”

And then he left.

I left and found my husband waiting for me. We went inside and I cried and ended up having a seizure and a big ole bruise on my head. The next morning I emailed him telling him what happened.

He asked if I was ok.

I just said, “Please, no more alcohol.”

HE said it wouldn’t be a late night. I said ok.

The Narcissist’s Final Discard

I knew I’d never see him again. I told my husband I wanted to leave the next morning early morning, we only lived right up the road so we did.
I told HIM I’d be leaving and he said ok, for me to try and be happy, and goodbye. (Again he sounded like he was trying to convince himself that he would not wish me well.)

We continued to email each other up until two years ago when his wife found the pictures I had sent so she sent them to my husband and by then it was killing me inside. I held that secret in for 9 months. I cried the same day we returned from the hotel not because he was gone but because I had hurt the father of my children. We eventually moved past it.

HE said we can’t be friends and need to go back to our spouses. I have tried to call a truce and called him out on him to admit that he needs me in his life, no matter how many times he pushes me away, that he needs me more than I need him, and could we ever try to be friends civilly.

This was his response.

1. No, I am not mad at you.
2. You are not wrong.
3, No we can’t.

But when I questioned G on his crap and why he let her do this his answer was “I can’t control her any more than I can control you.”

Then the wife had the nerve to say to me via email that I could have him and we deserved each other. I responded that I didn’t wish to be with him and I called G out on everything.

I emailed him to see if we could be friends but calling him out on his crap and he said, “No I don’t want to be in your life and you to be into mine. We had our fun but it’s over now. Please respect that.”

He told me once that I was more his type, which is the girl next door type, and he agreed with me on things I have said about our relationship (although he never said what those things were). This means he too much of a coward to admit that I am right that he wouldn’t know what love is if it slapped him in the face. Then he had the nerve to say he wasn’t a narcissist. HAHA!!

They don’t miss people, they miss the things people provide—affection, admiration, attention, money, food, shelter, access, or the illusion of a “normal life.”

The above is referring to those with NPD, not those who are higher on the narcissist scale than others, but who are not malignant narcissists.
If they ‘miss’ anyone or ‘think about them when they are gone, they are really missing what they could have provided, or think about what you have that they don’t. Think about what you provided them, even if it was attention, entertainment, affection, sex, money, access, or the illusion of normal life (if you were a spouse).

That’s what they miss. It’s things, not people. They don’t need people and they don’t want people, really. All of their defense mechanisms are enough for them, there is no need for actual ‘people’, just what ‘people’ can provide.

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An Original Poem

Life isn’t the same, Your mask has been removed,
And I know your game.
You’ve manipulated my life,
Given me a bad name & turned it into strife.

You’ve turned my family & friends against me,
all for your own glory.
May the truth be revealed,
that you are only an imitation of love & empathy.

They will come to find your connection with them hollow, I
& your heartlessness hard to swallow.
They will be sorry it was you they chose to follow,
& sad that they gave up on someone who would of been there for them tomorrow.

Your sources of supply, only need empathy & love & support & encouragement, to acquire your reply.
It’s all abt., you & how others will fluff your feathers, soon away will they all fly, without a goodbye!!
Your projection of heartlessness onto others, soon becomes towards you their rejection.
Upon introspect, they soon realize of whose false affections they must reject.

Inverted jealousy, you thrive on, twisting the blame.
Gaslighting one too many a flame.
Narcissism has an end, when many eyes become opened.
Alone you will be, inflicted with your own pain.

A heartless game played by the NarcNessMonster within,
everything done to tie me into your sin.
You brought it upon yourself, strife will eternally be your life.
You played this game in stride, soon you’ll have to dwell alone with the beast inside.

-By Cynthia Lyn Woods
An Original Poem Written September 23, 2018

How To Empower Your Employees When They’re Working With A Difficult Person

How To Empower Your Employees When They’re Working With A Difficult Person

 

Having a harmonious relationship in the workplace is essential to make your company more efficient and productive. However, since there are a lot of people that you’ll be working with, sometimes you’ll encounter an individual that is difficult to handle, especially if your employees are complaining about him. This can have a negative impact on your employees’ performance.

As a manager, you have to address this issue. Here are some tips on how you can empower your employees, especially if they have a colleague that is difficult to handle:

  1. Be open for consultation

If you want to resolve this workplace issue, you have to know first the concerns of your employees with this particular person. This is essential so that you’ll determine the best strategies you can employ to keep your employees performing better and prevent them from being distracted.

Letting your employees know that you are open to listen to their problems, complaints, and concerns will help them become empowered. Moreover, you have to give them comforting words and proper advice so that they can handle the situation properly, especially if they need to work with the problematic person involved closely.

  1. Give your employees recognition

One effective strategy when you want your employees to feel empowered is to recognize their efforts, even the smallest one.

Employee recognition should not be limited to brilliant ideas raised in the meeting or a great achievement that helped the company reached its goal. It can also be as simple as a slight improvement in his performance and even making an effort to reach out or resolve an issue involved with the individual he’s having trouble working with.

Giving your employees recognition even in the form of a small gesture will create a significant impact on them. It will keep them motivated, and therefore, they will do better in accomplishing their respective job responsibilities. It will also boost their morale as a valued employee of your company./ This will give a positive effect on their overall well-being.

  1. Give them a little reward from time to time

Reward system is an effective approach to empower your employees. This will make them feel that the management appreciates their continuous efforts for the company. And the best form of reward is food. You can organize a small gathering during lunchtime, or coffee breaks, and treat them with small meals. You can order using HeyYou since it’s hassle-free and the food will be delivered right at your office door.

You can also give them time off as a reward. Employees that are awarded a vacation break or even a day off tend to be more empowered and motivated after they report back to work. Taking a break is vital to every employee, and giving them off from work will also show that you’re concerned as an employer.

  1. Establish camaraderie and team-building efforts

The best way to empower your employees, especially if they have to handle a situation that they need to work with their colleagues they like the least, is to improve their professional relationship. It’s not your responsibility to establish friendships among your employees, but your objective is to kill the tension between the problematic person and the one who’s complaining.

You can do this by conducting team activities that will make them involved, and there will be no choice but to interact. A successful team building tasks, even when done in the workplace, can remove the tension between coworkers. Sometimes the problem between employees may stem from a lack of communication or just a slight misunderstanding.

Building camaraderie and engaging your employees to work together will not just empower them as an individual but as a whole team. Also, giving your employees an opportunity to work together and making actual interactions can break negative impressions and tension.

  1. Be a friend and not just an employer

The best strategy to empower your employees is to establish trust and friendship. Sometimes, your employees will tend to build a wall between the two of you because of the work hierarchy. Try eliminating that perception and establish that they can see you as a friend, not just their manager/boss. Sometimes, when two individual is having difficulty working together, all they need is a friend that will bridge their gap to resolve the issue between them.

Final thoughts:

If you want to empower your employees, an essential factor you have to consider is improving their social relationships with their coworkers.

Having a conflict with their colleagues can hinder their professional growth and productivity.

Follow these tips to resolve this kind of issue in the workplace so that your employees are always motivated and empowered. This will reflect on the company’s productivity.

Angie Atkinson – Featured Speaker – How To Survive And Thrive After Narcissistic Abuse Seminar

Angie Atkinson – Featured Speaker – How To Survive And Thrive After Narcissistic Abuse Seminar

Angie Atkinson will be a featured speaker at the upcoming “How To Survive And Thrive After Narcissistic Abuse” event in the UK. Want to know more? Here’s the information you need.

HOW TO SURVIVE AND THRIVE AFTER NARCISSISTIC ABUSE

1-day Seminar for Women

Saturday, May 11, 2019, Newcastle – UK. 10.15am – 4.45pm

Tickets £38.50

Buy Tickets Now – www.overcomingnarcissism.com

Facebook Page – https://www.facebook.com/surviveandthrivenarcabuse

KEYNOTE SPEAKERS ON NARCISSISM: A day of key industry expert speakers on Narcissism who will advise on how to overcome and combat abuse

ANGIE ATKINSON – USA Expert & author of 6 books on Narcissism
DIANE GENDERS – Solicitor with experience in Abuse
KAREN HEPBURN – Therapist in Narcissistic Personality Disorder

 

TOPICS INCLUDE

  • How a Narcissist’s mind works
  • Recovery and survival techniques
  • How to survive when the Narcissist is believed rather than the victim
  • How to talk to a Narcissist
  • How to stop Narcissist contact
  • What legal protection is available
  • How to prepare for a court case
  • Coercive Control and the Law
  • Narcissistic traits covered such as Gaslighting, The Smear Campaign, Grey Rock, Flying Monkies and much more
  • What therapies there are available that can have a huge impact to help survive and thrive this type of abuse to finally break free and feel happy again

There will also be other survivors talking about their recovery and how they have managed to overcome and walk away from the ex Narcissist. You will have the opportunity to take part in a question and answer session, talk to other victims and to meet other like-minded women who have gone through the same traumatic experiences!

It’s a day run by women…supporting women …. educating women!

Seats are strictly limited so please book early

Buy Tickets Now – www.overcomingnarcissism.com

 

41 Insults & Manipulative Things My Narcissist Said to Me

41 Insults & Manipulative Things My Narcissist Said to Me

*Editor’s Note: Dear SPANily, this list of horrible insults and manipulative phrases was submitted by a fellow narcissistic abuse survivor, Anna, who tells her story in this post. I’m publishing it here because I agree with Anna that it may help one of our fellow survivors recognize their own abuse. Love, Angie

By Anna

I started keeping a list of his abusive phrases months ago, mostly because I needed to see them in writing to believe they were real. I cannot fathom why I’ve allowed him to say these things to me. I am sharing them with you (sorry for some of the language), so you can share them if you like. Maybe they will help another victim to know there is hope and that there are people who understand.

Here is the list. 

  1. I am late because of you.
  2. I have to take care of you.
  3. This is what I have to do everyday-work for you and those f***ing cats
  4. Do you know how much you eat?
  5. You’re a pig
  6. Everything will be ok if you just shut the **** up
  7. All women are w****s
  8. Do you know how good you got it?
  9. Get the **** out of the truck, b***h
  10. You’re ****ing stupid
  11. You know I love you, right?
  12. Don’t touch me
  13. Get away from me
  14. Here I bought you this
  15. Has anyone else ever done this much for you?
  16. Women don’t have friends
  17. It’s because you’re stupid
  18. Fix me something to eat, bitch
  19. I am going to bust you in your teeth
  20. You are so f***ing stupid
  21. That’s how you do
  22. Think about it, how good you got it
  23. You can’t even take care of yourself
  24. If you show up with a black eye, you better tell them everything is ok
  25. Why are you so mean to me?
  26. I knew you had something going on; you planned this
  27. I don’t need you; I don’t care if you are here or not
  28. You’re nasty
  29. Do you know what you did wrong?
  30. I don’t give a ****
  31. Do you know how much it cost me?
  32. Get your s**t and get out; never come back to this house!
  33. I will pay for it, and then I will own me
  34. See what you did to me?
  35. I cannot be happy because I am with you
  36. It’s about time to beat your a**
  37. You are almost well enough to be hit
  38. I have to deal with everything
  39. Do you understand me?
  40. Is there anything else?
  41. I am going to break this phone.

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