Challenge Your Conditioning & Take Back Your Life!

Challenge Your Conditioning & Take Back Your Life!

Challenge Your Conditioning (Change Your Thoughts, Change Your Life) -Are you ready to take back your life after a toxic relationship? Learn how to challenge your conditioning so you can change your thoughts and change your life!

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The Narcissist Was Wrong About You!

The Narcissist Was Wrong About You!

“You deserve to be happy. You deserve to live a life that lights you up. Don’t ever forget that.” ~Coco Calla

You deserve good things!

You may think (or have previously thought) that you don’t deserve “good things” in your life. And, chances are, you came to believe this because of the narcissists (and other toxic people in your life) who told you that you weren’t good enough in so many different ways.

But thankfully, that’s not the truth. Those people were WRONG.  In this video, I’ll explain why you DO deserve to have the things, people and situations you want in your life you want and how you can go about realizing that you are good enough.

Toxic relationships can make you feel like you don’t deserve anything good. Your parents, teachers, school bullies, friends and other people in your childhood may have made you feel this way with the way they treated you.  The beliefs that these people taught us (about both ourselves and the world around us) can be deep-rooted and hard to let go – but with a little intention and focus, it’s entirely possible.

So how do you stop thinking this way?

Start with unconditional self-acceptance – accept yourself without judgment, flaws and all.

Things that can help you feel better about yourself and your life

  1. Try a daily gratitude practice – Think of 3 things you love about yourself and 10 things you’re grateful for every single day. And use Intentional vibration management
  2. Take care of your body. Don’t forget to include the following components of healing.

Each of these is covered in detail in this video. Plus a replay of the live Q&A at the end of the content.

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Be sure to visit Shine.Buzz for more positively-focused content!

If you’re tired of hearing about narcissists, this is for you.

If you’re tired of hearing about narcissists, this is for you.

In this video, I’m introducing the brand new Shine Buzz Daily Show on YouTube.

Tired of Binge-Watching Narcissist Videos? Watch this. Life hasn’t always been a bed of roses for you as a narcissistic abuse survivor.

But you’ve learned your lessons, and you’ve done a lot of the work of healing. These days, you’re starting to feel like it’s time to get on with it.

Maybe you feel like you’re kind of “over it” when it comes to learning about narcissists and their psychology.

You feel like you’re ready to be done with the hard part. You’re finished (or close to being done with) healing. You’re ready to start actually living and becoming the person you want to be – and creating the life you deserve. Well, my friend. You have come to the right place.

Introducing Shine.Buzz Daily! So much of what we see in the media today is negative. And the unfortunate fact is that it negatively affects our entire lives in bigger ways than we realize. When our vibration is low, we attract more negativity into our lives. But SHINE.Buzz is here to change all that.

It’s all about positive, inspirational, funny and/or helpful stuff intended to help give you that daily “SHINE Buzz” you need to lift your vibration and begin to attract more positivity into your life every day.

Cards Used in the Show:
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How to Not Let Others’ Negativity Affect Your Mood and Experiences

How to Not Let Others’ Negativity Affect Your Mood and Experiences

“Stop letting people who do so little for you control so much of your mind, feelings and emotions.” ~Will Smith

When you’re dealing with a negative person, whether they’re a toxic narcissist or not, they might have a way of dumping their emotional garbage on your doorstep. This leaves them feeling relieved and leaves you feeling sad and miserable – and you’re left to deal with all of those emotions.

In this video, I’ll explain exactly what you can do to learn how to control your mind so that you don’t let others’ negativity affect you. In learning how to control your mind and your emotions, you become more powerful.

Once You’ve Watched the Video, How To Control Your Mind (How to Not Let Others’ Negativity Affect You), Read the Following.

Despite what you may have thought during and after being involved in a toxic relationship with a narcissist, you are NOT anyone’s emotional dumpster! But if you think about it, most narcissists use their primary source of supply as exactly that – at least some of the time.

As you move through your recovery, how do you feel inside when you allow others to dump their negativity – their complaints, their anger, their self-centeredness and sense of entitlement onto you? If you really look inside instead of pushing your own feelings into a closet, you will discover that you feel really lonely with these people. There is no mutual support, no sharing of love, no mutual giving and receiving. You give and they take, and you end up feeling drained and lonely. Yet you hang in there for fear of being alone with no friends or no partner.

If you are really honest with yourself, you will find that it’s not worth it – that you deserve better than to be an emotional dumpster for others’ negativity.

It takes faith and courage to speak up for yourself. It takes courage to say to your friend who is dumping her negativity onto you, “This doesn’t feel good. Whenever we are together all you do is complain or talk on and on about yourself. You are never interested in me at all, and this is no longer okay with me. Either this needs to change or I don’t want to spend time with you. It’s not fun for me and I just end up feeling used and drained.”

When you become willing to speak up for yourself, you will discover who really are your friends and who was just using you. Some people – those who are relatively emotionally healthy, anyway – may say, “I’m so grateful you told me this. I didn’t realize I was doing this. I want to stop, and I would appreciate your pointing it out to me next time I do it.”

Others, including many narcissists, will go into denial and say, “That’s not true. I listen to you all the time.” This may continue until the narcissists just get angry and/or go away (or discard you) at least temporarily.

Here’s more helpful information for you.

6 Soul-Destroying Toxic Relationship Moves That Most People Overlook

6 Soul-Destroying Toxic Relationship Moves That Most People Overlook

“That’s when I finally got it. I finally understood. It wasn’t the thought that counted. It was the actual execution that mattered, the showing up for somebody. The intent behind it wasn’t enough. Not for me. Not anymore. It wasn’t enough to know that deep down, he loved me. You had to actually say it to somebody, show them you cared. And he just didn’t. Not enough.” ~ Jenny Han

Relationships are hard sometimes, and this is especially true when they’re toxic. And many of us didn’t grow up with a great example.

So, unless your parents had a great relationship and made a point of teaching you the tricks of the trade, you’ve had to go it alone – and you might not have had the best luck in relationships up until now.

If you’re anything like me, you’ve learned the hard way that just “winging it” isn’t always the most effective way to learn something as important and potentially life-changing as relationship skills.

Toxic people are known to use several techniques for dealing with relationship conflict that can appear to be effective, but are in fact the opposite.

These techniques ultimately serve the purpose of making us feel better in the short-term at the expense of the long-term prospects of the relationship.

If your relationship involves the following behaviors, you might love a toxic person.

Common Toxic Relationship Moves

  1. ­Using gifts to fix everything. Get caught having an affair? Take your partner on a tropical vacation. Are they mad at you for allowing your mother to move in without a discussion? Let them get that sports car they’ve always wanted. Covering up relationship issues with money and exciting diversions doesn’t last. The same problem comes back, only a little stronger next time.
  2. Relying on hints as an effective form of communication. Sometimes, your partner won’t get the message. Other times, they get the message but resent that you’re dropping hints instead of stating your desires directly and when they’re toxic, they’ll often pretend not to “get it” or blatantly ignore the truth when it’s convenient for them. In a healthy relationship, both partners should take responsibility for their wants and needs and state them clearly. If you feel afraid to do this, you might be dealing with an abusive narcissist.
  3. Threatening the relationship. Only the most insecure people would tolerate this tactic for long. When someone threatens to end the relationship as a way of getting what they want, they destabilize the relationship. It puts the other person on notice that they can’t do anything wrong without the possibility of being abandoned. Using drama to get your way increases the intensity and frequency of drama in the overall relationship. Sure, this behavior might help your partner get what they want in the short-term, but there is a huge price to pay – and it’s you who will be paying it. Don’t tolerate this!
  4. Passive-aggressive behavior. This is another way your partner might be dropping hints in order to manipulate you, only the hint is less clear, and you’re being punished in the process. Rather than telling you what they want or need from you, they choose to punish you and make you guess what’s wrong. It’s unhealthy and it puts your partner in a position of unearned power and entitlement. It pushes you into a place of almost servitude.
  5. Tit for tat. You’re familiar with this one. You screwed up by not attending your partner’s last softball game, so they use this as an excuse to skip out on the barbecue with your family. Whenever someone is using past negative events (or even exaggerating and embellishing on not-so-negative events) as an excuse to behave poorly or to in some way manipulate you, you will resent them. And on the other side of this coin, your partner might be keeping track of their so-called good deeds and refusing to do anything else for you until you’ve somehow evened the score. Clearly, this doesn’t create an environment that fosters genuinely healthy relationship growth.
  6. Failing to take responsibility for their own happiness. Does your partner blame you for their own unhappiness or discontent? Do they blame you for their own negative emotions? If you go out with your friends for a night on the town, does your partner pout and blame you for making them feel bad? This is a good example of codependence. You are not responsible for managing your partner’s emotions. Supporting your partner emotionally is entirely different than being blamed for their feelings.

If you’re dealing with these issues in your relationship, you might be dealing with a toxic relationship with a narcissist.  Not sure?

Click here to take our toxic relationship test right now and find out. 

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