NLP History

NLP Benefits

Here are some specific ways that NLP (neuro-linguistic programming) can help you:

1. Career. NLP can help you be more effective in your career. It can build your teamwork, personal development, coaching, leadership, sales, and productivity. No matter what it is, if there’s a potential for growth and human interaction is present, NLP can help.

2. Goal Achievement. You can use NLP to help you set and achieve goals as long as those goals are intelligent, measurable, meaningful, and achievable.

* For example, no program can guarantee you earn three million dollars in a month unless you have the logical means to draw this income.

However, this method could be the one you use to strengthen your skills and interactions with others successfully. It can change how you think and speak and motivate you to take appropriate actions to achieve your goals.

3. Mental Health. NLP can help you overcome mental and emotional disorders and phobias.

4. NLP can bring you a happier and more fulfilling life.

If you’re interested in learning how to change your life, NLP could be the tool you’ve been looking for. NLP involves studying successful people and the steps they take to achieve such success. This success can come from any part of your life.

Overcoming phobias, learning how to speak confidently in front of large groups, and learning how to have a loving personal relationship are all issues that NLP techniques can help with NLP techniques. So investigate your options with NLP; you’ll be surprised by the difference it can make in your life!

 

 

The developers of NLP

The theories and applications of NLP were co-created by two men in the 1970s. One is a linguist, John Grinder, and his partner Richard Bandler. The initial focus of their experiments in NLP was to discover what gave three psychotherapists the advantage in successfully treating their clients. These three psychotherapists, gestalt therapist Fritz Perls, family therapist Virginia Satir and founding president of the American Society for Clinical Hypnosis Milton H. Erickson, were more successful in treatment than their peers.

Timeline of NLP

1970: Founding and early development
1972: Research of Fritz Perls, Virginia Satir, and Milton H. Erickson begins.
1975: Subsequently, Structure of Magic Series published
1976-77: Patterns of the Hypnotic Techniques of Milton H. Erickson published
1979: Frogs into Princes: Neuro-Linguistic Programming published
1980: Neuro-Linguistic Programming: Volume I published
1980: Bandler and Grinder go their separate ways
1981: The first of many intellectual property lawsuits begin. NLP Training courses are to be developed by many individuals. Given the diversity of developers and trainers, there is no single definitive system of NLP.
1982-87: Grinder and Judith DeLozier collaborated to develop the New Code of NLP.
1984-87: Research reviews in experimental counseling psychology by the United States National Research Council gave NLP an overall negative assessment marking a decrease in NLP research interest
1988-89: Bandler develops Design Human Engineering and later Neuro-Hypnotic Repatterning
1990s: In the UK and other countries, certification of NLP courses and providers begins
1996-97: Bandler files suit against Grinder, claiming trademark infringement and intellectual property ownership of NLP.

Where the co-creators are now

The end of 2000 achieved a settlement between Bandler and Grinder when they agreed, and they would be the co-creators and co-founders of the technology of Neuro-linguistic Programming.
Richard Bandler is currently with The Society of Neuro-Linguistic Programming, and John Grinder can be found at The International Trainers Academy of Neuro-Linguistic Programming.

NLP Today

NLP continues to be an open field of training with different trainers and practitioners developing their own methods and concepts. One common thread in NLP is the emphasis on teaching various communication and persuasion skills and using self-hypnosis to motivate and change oneself. With numerous NLP practitioners advertising on the Internet today, many of their standards and the quality of courses may differ. When performing a search for NLP Training courses, make certain to choose an organization with a good reputation.

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What is NLP (Neurolinguistic Programming)?

What is NLP (Neurolinguistic Programming)?

If you’re struggling to recover from narcissistic abuse, you might be interested in learning about Neuro-Linguistic Programming or NLP. 

It’s a surprisingly simple yet highly effective treatment for symptoms of complex post-traumatic stress disorder (C-PTSD) related to narcissistic abuse.

Even better, you can implement the strategies at home, on your own – and it’ll help your healing in ways you might not expect. 

On a very basic level, NLP is just a way to manage your head – it helps with communication, processes, and procedures to help improve your life. Here’s what it is and how it works.

What is Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP)?

Neuro-linguistic programming (NLP) is a practical and effective way to create change by modeling successful people’s language structure and behavior. NLP can help you change your behavior, way of thinking, and communication with yourself and others. NLP has also been used to treat various problems—from phobias to schizophrenia.

And, of course, survivors of narcissistic abuse can use it to recalibrate after abuse and change their lives for the better.

Basic NLP Principles

The two biggest principles of NLP are that the map is not the territory and that life and mind are systemic processes. Any technique you learn in NLP is built on these principles, which allow us to understand better how the brain works—and thus change undesirable behaviors into more desirable ones.

1. The map is not the territory.

  • The map-territory metaphor illustrates how our mental constructs differ from the reality they attempt to describe.
  • For a map to be useful, it must contain enough detail that we can use it even when traveling through unfamiliar territory.
  • This means that, as people, we have no way to understand reality. Instead, we understand our perceptions of that reality, and those perceptions may be flawed.
  • We use our senses to map what we believe is there.
  • These maps are what determine our behavior, not reality itself.
  • So, if your map is skewed, you’ll behave in kind.

2. Life and mind are systemic processes.

  • This means that the things going on inside your mind and body, and between you and your environment, are connected and can’t be isolated. Trying to do so won’t result in success.
  • In other words, your mind and life are interconnected, so you can’t separate the mental from the physical, social, or emotional aspects. How people treat you and your environment influences your feelings about a situation.

How does NLP work for a survivor of narcissistic abuse?

  • As a survivor of narcissistic abuse, NLP can help you change your life and offers highly effective personal development and growth tools.
  • It’s also highly effective for survivors of narcissistic abuse in toxic relationships during their healing and beyond.
  • NLP techniques focus on feelings and emotions, which are core aspects of narcissistic abuse. This is why NLP works so well for survivors of such relationships—its emphasis on these concepts makes dealing with trauma possible.
  • NLP applies to all aspects of life, from representing information and making decisions to interacting with others.

Why should you try NLP in narcissistic abuse recovery?

Sometimes it’s hard to know what’s best for us when we can’t see a way out. It may seem impossible to get away from the toxic person, but you can use NLP to change your life. (And then plan your escape!)

NLP offers healing for the trauma of narcissistic abuse in a way that can help you move forward with your life with confidence and clarity.

It can give you insight into your unconscious mind and tap into your deep-seated emotions, which can help you develop the power, confidence, and self-esteem narcissists often damage in their partners.

So, by using an anchoring technique to set off powerful feelings in yourself when you think about past experiences with your abuser, you can learn to control your reactions—and stop yourself from feeling bad about what happened.

Basic NLP Technique for Narcissistic Abuse Recovery: Anchoring

By applying an anchoring technique, you can learn to set off positive feelings in yourself and others at will—and eliminate negative emotions associated with past experiences.

Anchoring allows you to associate a feeling with a device, an object, a certain color, or even a specific type of music. When you experience the object again, it triggers the same feelings.

This can be helpful for survivors of narcissistic abuse because it allows them to create positive associations in their minds around the things they love and eliminate negative feelings associated with past experiences.

How to Quickly Create an NLP Anchor in 4 Easy Steps

1. Choose a goal.

  • Decide what problem you want to solve. For example, maybe you want to feel more confident to set better boundaries with the toxic people in your life.
  • Imagine how it will feel to achieve the goal you have set for yourself. (So, maybe you’ll feel stronger, happier, more sure of yourself, and more confident overall.)
  • Remember when you felt close to how you want to feel when you achieve that goal. It might just be an ordinary moment when you felt good about yourself or a more significant moment in your life.

3. Choose and configure your anchor device.

  • For instance, you can touch your thumb and forefinger together or make a fist to help keep yourself in the present.
  • Put yourself back in that moment. Take all the time you need to remember all the details of what you saw, heard, smelled, and felt when it happened.
  • Allow yourself to relive the experience as if you were there—don’t think about it objectively. You won’t feel better if you ignore your feelings.
  • Repeat the memory until you can vividly recall it.

4. Activate your anchor.

  • In this step, you link your anchor from Step 3 with the feeling created here to make a new association as strong and vivid as possible.
  • For example, touch your thumb and forefinger together as the confident feeling increases.
  • Release your thumb and forefinger when the feeling begins to subside.
  • If you’ve done this well, the anchor has been activated, and you’re ready for the next step.

5. Test your anchor.

  • For example, touch your thumb and forefinger together as you did while activating your anchor.
  • This time, pay attention to how you feel.
  • You should notice a change in your feeling.
  • If you don’t, repeat the process until you do.
  • If you’ve been successful, it should feel like the anchor has been activated and is ready to use whenever necessary.

And, if you used the example I gave, you can now trigger your confidence by touching your thumb and forefinger together anytime you like.

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Psychopathy Linked to Gambling Addiction – And It Only Gets Worse

Psychopathy Linked to Gambling Addiction – And It Only Gets Worse

Summary

Researchers say that people who lie, cheat and act without empathy are more likely to get into gambling problems. And because they also tend not to use strategies that would keep them safe from such problems, those issues are made worse.

All of that makes them more likely to ruin their own lives and the lives of anyone unfortunate enough to be close to them, including their closest sources of narcissistic supply

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Points of Note

  • Psychological researchers have found a link between gambling and psychopathy.
  • The psychology of psychopaths is so complicated to understand that many scientists have made careers studying them.
  • Researchers have found that psychopaths process language differently from other people, likely due both to genetic factors and early exposure.
  • Problem gamblers tend to lack empathy for others and are more likely than other people to become untrustworthy.
  • The combination of these traits often leads narcissists to make choices that ruin their own lives and hurt those around them.

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How Psychopathic Gambling Addicts WILL Ruin Your Life

How Psychopathic Gambling Addicts WILL Ruin Your Life

Do you know a psychopath who has ruined their life and/or someone else’s life thanks to a serious gambling addiction? If so, you aren’t alone.

SHOCKING (?) Research Proves Psychopath Gambling Addicts Ruin Lives.

This isn’t shocking news if you’re a survivor of narcissistic abuse.

Apparently, not only are psychopaths and malignant narcissists the most likely people to develop a gambling problem, but they’re also more likely to take gambling to a dangerous, life-destroying level. 

Study links gambling addiction to psychopathy. 

In a recent study, researchers linked gambling addiction to psychopathy.

Study authors, including Matthew P. Kramer, Roselyn Peterson, Angelina V. Leary, Dexter D. Wilborn, Tatiana Magri, and Robert D. Dvorak, published their findings in their recent paper entitled Psychopathy and Occurrence of Gambling Problems: The Role of Gambling Protective Strategies and Urgency.

What makes psychopaths so different from other people?

The study suggests that psychopaths may process language differently from other people, likely due to both genetic factors and early exposure.

Psychopaths often have trouble understanding sarcasm and metaphors, which suggests that they may have difficulty with language processing.

The study authors point out previous research that leads them to believe this may explain why psychopaths differ from others. They also speculate that this could be a reason for the high number of psychopaths in prisons, where gambling games are common.

Psychopathic traits that lead to addiction to gambling

The traits most commonly associated with psychopathy that also lead to addiction to gambling include an inability to feel guilt or remorse and a tendency toward impulsive behavior.

The psychopath’s lack of empathy is confusing for many people since they can appear to understand how you feel.

But that’s because psychopaths experience only cognitive empathy, in which they can deduce logically what you might be feeling.

However, psychopaths do not have emotional or compassionate empathy like others do.

That means they can logically understand what you’re saying, but they don’t care and aren’t moved to help or stop hurting you. 

How are psychopathy and gambling addiction issues connected?

While we know that psychopathy has been linked to many negative outcomes, the authors say they’ve found a new direct link between psychopathy and pathological gambling.

Researchers examined the relationship between primary psychopathy, secondary psychopathy, and problem gambling.

Primary psychopathy vs. secondary psychopathy (FYI)

  • Primary psychopaths tend to be more socially adept, whereas secondary ones are usually aggressive and impulsive.
  • Psychopaths who were high in urgency also used fewer harm-reduction strategies.
  • Primary psychopathy is thought to result from genetics, while secondary psychopathy—which results from trauma and their environment—can appear to manifest as high anxiety, the study authors said. 

Study Conditions

  • In the study, college students who gambled were asked how they would deal with situations in which their gambling might cause problems and what protective behavior strategies they used to prevent such things from happening.
  • They also answered questions to detect whether they might be prone to psychopathic behavior.
  • The assessment included questions about financial problems for the household and mental health issues such as stress or anxiety caused by gambling.
  • Researchers considered whether a person suffered from gambling addiction and the extent of such addiction.

Study Findings: Psychopaths are more likely to ruin their lives with gambling addiction.

Ultimately, they determined that people more likely to gamble away their money also tended to score higher on a psychopathy test and were more likely than other gamblers to have financial problems for their household and mental health issues caused by gambling.

And people with higher levels of primary psychopathy are less likely to stop or protect themselves when gambling, making their addiction worse.

The Recent Increase in Psychopathy Research Leads to New Insights

Because psychopaths are so difficult to deal with and tend not to form meaningful relationships, we’ve always been fascinated by their behavior.  

But perhaps due to the increased awareness around psychopathic, sociopathic and narcissistic abuse, recent years have seen more and more research into cluster B personality disorders, which include psychopathy

This study sheds new light on the relationship between psychopathy and gambling addiction-related problems by identifying certain personality traits that may lead to addiction.

Takeaway: Psychopathy and Gambling Addiction

Simply put, people who lie, cheat and act without empathy are more likely to get into gambling problems. And because they also tend not to use strategies that would keep them safe from such problems, those issues are made worse.

All of that makes them more likely to ruin their own lives and the lives of anyone unfortunate enough to be close to them, including their closest sources of narcissistic supply

Do you know a psychpath with a gambling addiction? Here's how they will ruin your life, according to research.

Reference:

Kramer, M. P., Peterson, R., Leary, A. V., Wilborn, D. D., Magri, T., & Dvorak, R. D. (2021). Psychopathy and Occurrence of Gambling Problems: The Role of Gambling Protective Strategies and Urgency. Psychological Reports. https://doi.org/10.1177/00332941211022998

Related:

Video: Dark Core of Personality Defined: New Study Exposes the D Factor in Dark Triad Qualities – Psychologists define ‘the dark core of personality’ – D-FACTOR Egoism, Machiavellianism, narcissism, psychopathy, sadism, spitefulness, and others are among the traits that stand for the malevolent dark sides of human personality.

As results from a recently published German-Danish research project show, these traits share a common ‘dark core.’ So, if you have one of these tendencies, you are also likely to have one or more of the others. Read the full study.

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