(This is partially because, according to the entertainment industry, I’m at least eight inches too short and probably don’t have enough boobs.)
Love the One You’re With
And since we all know that all the diet changes and exercise in the world can’t make us taller (at least not after we’ve reached our full height potential) or grow us more boobs (at least not without surgical intervention), well…it’s a good thing there are lots of different kinds of beauty.
Your kind of beautiful is probably different than mine and everyone else’s–because really, everyone is different.
And that, my friends, is a very good thing.
So, hey, love your body–right now. Not tomorrow, not next week, not when you lose the weight. Love it RIGHT NOW. It’s the only one you’ve got!
Your Brand of Beauty
“For, happily, there exists more than one kind of beauty. There is the beauty of infancy, the beauty of youth, the beauty of maturity, and, believe me, ladies and gentlemen, the beauty of age, if you do not spoil it by your own want of judgment. At any age, a woman may be becomingly and pleasingly dressed.” ~Household Words.
Contrary to what society tries to tell us, every body has its own perfect shape, and not every body’s perfect shape looks like a rail-thin porn star with big fake boobs (or whatever body type is in this week). That does not, however, mean that every body can’t be beautiful.
Bodies have different shapes. There are apples, pears and banana shapes. There are endomorphs, ectomorphs and mesomorphs–and any number of other ways to classify different body types.
Real-Life Example: Same Size Jeans, Two Different Bodies
So, for example, take my friend and I. In this photo, we are wearing the same size jeans.
As you can see, we are shaped completely differently (and we’re both wearing jeans styles that work best for our bodies–two totally different looks.)
The differences between us?
She’s about 5 inches taller (I was wearing platform shoes in the photo) and has longer, thinner legs–while I’ve got a smaller waist but a fuller butt and shorter legs.
Plus, she weighs approximately 15 pounds less than I do.
The point is that the numbers don’t really matter when it comes down to it. What matters is how you look and feel.
What do you think? What is your kind of beautiful? Share your thoughts in the comments section, below!
Angela Atkinson is a Certified Life Coach and the author of more than 20 books on narcissism, narcissistic abuse recovery and related topics. A recognized expert on narcissism and narcissistic personality disorder who has studied and written extensively on narcissistic relationships since 2006, Atkinson was inspired to begin her work as a result of having survived toxic relationships of her own.
Atkinson offers trauma-informed coaching and has certifications in life coaching, level 2 therapeutic model, CBT coaching, integrative wellness coaching, and NLP. She is a certified trauma support coach and certified family trauma professional. She also has a professional PTSD counseling certification. Her mission is to help those who have experienced the emotional and mental devastation that comes with narcissistic abuse in these incredibly toxic relationships to (re)discover their true selves, stop the gaslighting and manipulation and move forward into their genuine desires – into a life that is exactly what they choose for themselves.
Along with her solution-focused life coaching experience, Atkinson’s previous career in journalism and research helps her to offer both accurate and understandable information for survivors of abuse in a simple-to-understand way that helps to increase awareness in the narcissistic abuse recovery community. Atkinson founded QueenBeeing.com Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Support, the SPANily Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Support Groups and the Life Makeover Academy. In her life coaching practice, Atkinson’s clients enjoy her personalized approach that allows and encourages them to become the best possible versions of themselves and to succeed in doing what they love most. She offers individual and group coaching for victims and survivors of narcissistic abuse at NarcissisticAbuseRecovery.Online and NarcissismSupportCoach.com.