We all have times when we don’t feel particularly comfortable with ourselves. Sometimes, you might wonder whether others actually like you.
It doesn’t make you a weirdo or a loser–we’ve all been there. It’s a normal part of being human. But good news–you can rid yourself of these worries, and it’s probably a lot easier than you think.
So what does fear of rejection look like, anyway?
You might feel scared about meeting new people or getting together with old friends. You think that people might reject you for one of a number of reasons. Maybe you think you’re having a bad hair day or those extra pounds you’ve put on have dampened your self-confidence. All these things can be part of fear of rejection.
Tips to Stop Feeling Rejected by Others
Figure out what really scares you.
Do you fear the opposite sex will be turned off by your looks or the clothes you wear?
Maybe you think that others believe you have a big nose or that you have nothing interesting to say. Are you afraid that you’ll say something silly and embarrass yourself?
The point is that you must know exactly what it is that you fear before you try to tackle it.
Dispute your fear with facts.
Let’s say your fear is that you aren’t as smart as others. When was the last time you were graded on something?
Chances are probably pretty good that you didn’t fail every time.
Acknowledge that there are times when you performed well. Write them down. Stick with reality when it comes to disputing your fears.
Stop worrying so much about what other people think.
If someone doesn’t accept you, that’s their choice. Really, it’s okay if someone doesn’t think you’re smart. You know the truth.
No one gets 100% acceptance 100% of the time. Admit that you can function just fine, live well, and excel, even if someone rejects you.
Even if 5 people reject you today, your life is still going to go on however you’ve planned from this point.
Before going to a party, acknowledge you might encounter someone whom you believe doesn’t like you. You’ll also meet some people who do like you. Also, recognize that you probably won’t know for sure one way or the other whether someone you just met likes you or not.
Exude the qualities you love in others
What makes you attracted to other people? Maybe you like people who show humor or smile a lot. Perhaps you gravitate toward those who are helpful to the host of the party.
Why not try displaying some of those pleasant characteristics that draw you to others? If you demonstrate the qualities that attract you to others, others will most likely be drawn to you as well.
Feel the fear and do it anyway. The best way to get rid of a fear is to repeat the behavior that brings on the fear until you become comfortable and are no longer paralyzed by that fear.
Follow through with attending parties, making the acquaintance of people, and facing your concerns. This is the single best way to learn that your fear is just a human emotion that you can overcome.
It’s time to stop feeling rejected. Banishing your fears of rejection is within your reach. Use what you know about what makes you like other people and let go of how others respond to you. Since fears are just emotions, you can face your worries and apprehensions. Doing so will bring you lasting confidence and satisfaction. Give it a shot!
What do you think? Can you get over the fear of rejection? Share your thoughts in the comments section, below!