I’m so excited to share my newest narcissistic abuse recovery coaching program – this one is a personalized, one-on-one Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Coaching Program that I’m calling Clear the Slate.
Not only will it save you $278 total in appointment discounts and services discounts, but it’ll also offer you tons of additional help and content, which you can keep forever to help you as you go forward.
The goal: Clear the Slate and Get Your Feet on Solid Ground: Stop Spinning Your Wheels (A 6-Week Personalized Program to Help You Find Center and Start Living Again)
Are you dealing with narcissistic abuse in a relationship, or have you dealt with it in the past? If so, you might be a candidate for this program.
As you’re going through this recovery and growth process of recognizing and getting through narcissistic abuse, or of getting over a narcissistic relationship (not to mention the mental damage done by it), you might start to feel like you’re not quite connected like you should be – or like you want to be.
Let me ask you: do you ever feel like there’s a sort of barrier or bubble around you that prevents you from actually experiencing life?
Or maybe you can’t quite “feel” the world around you? Or, is it kind of like like you’re looking at people through a fog or screen, or maybe like you just have no emotions at all?
If you’re feeling scattered, forgetting things and generally dissociating from yourself and your life as you work to heal from the abuse you endured during your narcissistic relationship, you’re not alone.
In fact, you might also be feeling a variety of PTSD-related symptoms as you go through this process, and that’s because you’ve been through an emotional hell, or you may still be going through it.
Here’s What’s In It for You
As we work together, you will learn how to stop spinning and put your feet on solid, level ground. By the time we’re finished, you’ll be ready to really start your new life and to begin creating the life and self you truly want and deserve.
This means you’ll learn:
To discover the exact reason and to let go of whatever brought you to this broken place in your life – and exactly how and why you should.
Why and how dissociation and other PTSD-related symptoms have literally saved your sanity and maybe even your life in the past, and why it’s so hard to let go of them.
How you can stop dissociating find center again.
Coping tactics for the weeks and months ahead as you go through your self-rediscovery process and get through the narcissistic abuse aftershocks.
How and why you’ve got to live in the moment.
Self-care affirmations, plans and daily routines to help you learn to love yourself, in a way that you never could before.
Included are the Following Weekly 45-Minute, One-on-One Coaching Sessions, Each Customized to Your Specific Situation and Needs
Week One: Push the ‘Restart Button’ On Your Life
Week Two: Letting Go of Old Baggage
Week Three: Managing Dissociation and PTSD 101
Week Four: How and Why to Start Living in the Moment
Week Five: Something to Anchor You
Week Six: Freedom and Self-Love: Developing Your Personal Passion Plan
And: Weekly Self-Discovery and Personal Development Missions:
Week One: Jumpstart Guide to Your Brand New Life
Week Two: Personal Baggage Inventory Tool: Figuring Out What You Can Leave at the “Station”
Week Three: Coping Tactics & Tools
Week Four: Tools for Development: Mantras for Moving Forward
Week Five: Anchoring Yourself: Your Personal Sign of Self-Actualization
Week Six: Your Passion Plan Building Kit
Plus: Tools to Help You Move Forward and Reclaim Your Life, Including:
Access to Coaching via App During the 6 Weeks and for 2 Weeks Afterward (Learn more at DailyCoach.App)
Daily & Weekly Reminders, Checklists and Related Reading Materials
Daily Affirmations, Journal Prompts, Exercises and Reflections sent to your private coaching inbox during the 6-week program.
Even though I know suffering and pain, I choose to be happy. Even though I have to deal with sadness, I pursue joy.
I realize the most important strategy to achieve happiness is to choose this path.
I make the choice to stay positive during challenges. I choose to focus on the good things despite the negativity around me.
Whatever happens, I am still in control of my emotions.
I get to decide how I feel. I get to select how I react to the words and actions of others. I am responsible for my own happiness.
I know happiness is a conscious decision.
Both my mind and body play a role in the joy I feel. I let go of fear, worry, pain, anxiety, stress, and jealousy. I avoid sorrow and anger. I get rid of resentment before it builds up.
I feed my happy side with positivity.
I pay attention to my judgments, criticisms, or negativity. I notice my moaning and stop it before it affects my happiness. I constantly express gratitude. I see the wonderful things in my life and thank the universe for them. This gratitude increases my joy.
Today, I decide to be happy. I am in control of my emotions and feelings. I choose joy over sadness.
1. How can I stay happy during stressful situations at work, home, or other places,
2. What can I do to maintain my happiness without creating a fake veneer of joy,
3. How can I encourage my family and friends to be more positive,
Before you start today’s meditation, get into a quiet place and take a few deep breaths. Focus only on the words on the screen and the music playing behind them. This will only take a few minutes – and when you’re done, you’ll have an excellent start on your day.
Criticism is Fuel to My Fire:
Daily Affirmation Meditation for Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Coaching
Don’t want to watch a video? That’s okay! Take a moment to read the affirmation meditation to yourself instead. Afterward, take a few minutes to consider the Self-Reflection questions before you start your day!
Criticism pushes me to work more creatively.
I accept that some people have less belief in me than I have in myself. However, their criticism is an important element for self-development. I use it to inspire my creativity.
When I receive a performance evaluation at work, I analyze any unsatisfactory feedback. I identify areas of my performance that have room for improvement and reflect on other ways of doing things.
I accept that there may be alternative methods that produce more fruitful results. My mind is open to changing my approach for more effective outcomes.
It is difficult to swallow harsh criticism when I put my all into my work. But I rely on the expertise of my critics to help me enhance my performance.
The abilities of others around me inspire me to produce a better quality of work. When I see work that is more outstanding than mine, I admire it. I use each chance I get to figure out ways to take my projects to another level.
I avoid allowing critiques to get me down. Instead of hiding in a shell, I take it with a smile then immediately start to spread my wings.
Today, I embrace criticism because it serves to elevate my performance. My output today eclipses that of previous days because I learn from feedback from others.
Now it’s time to think about yourself for a bit. Take a moment to consider the following Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Self-Reflection Questions:
1. How do I handle harsh criticism that I feel is unwarranted and deliberate?
2. What strategies can I use to assess my work to ensure that it is my best?
3. What sources do I use to provide inspiration for more creative output?
I take part in activities that keep my spirit alive and make me feel good about myself. I focus on maintaining positive energy. As a result, it is easy for me to let go of my insecurities.
I surround myself with those who are nurturing and supportive. My friends and family members often tell me good things about me. Outside perspectives reassure me that I am radiating goodness. Such positive energy coming from my loved ones helps me to develop confidence.
I spend a lot of time helping others, which leaves little time to think about trivial matters. There is true fulfillment from being a beacon of light for someone in need.
Sharing my time and money brings me true joy. My spirit is renewed each time I am able to lend a helping hand. Taking part in charity gives me a passion for life that outweighs any self-doubt I have.
I use examples of true happiness around me to build up my own happiness. When I see examples of unconditional self-love, I am inspired to treat myself kindly.
Each day is an opportunity for me to love myself. I use the joy that resonates within me to bring about a positive self-image.
Today, my insecurities are a thing of the past. My radiant spirit allows me to do away with doubt. I love the person I am because I know that beauty emanates from deep within my soul.
Ask Yourself: Time for Self-Reflection
1. How difficult is it for me to feel confident when others express doubt in my abilities?
2. What activities can I participate in that can elevate my mood?
3. How do I differentiate between insecurities and opportunities for self-improvement?
Every now and then, someone forwards me this email about life and how it relates to a jar. Even though I often skim email forwards, especially those of a political or otherwise controversial nature, I always happen to read this one.
I think that it’s a great explanation on how life works, and each time I read it, I get a little something else from it.
As you read it, take a moment to think about your priorities. My challenge to you today is to think about what fills up your jar. Which things in life are your golf balls and marbles? How about your sand and coffee? (Untitled to my knowledge, Author Unknown to me)
On the first day of class, a university professor stood in front of his philosophy class with an empty jar.
Without saying a word to his students, he removed the lid of the jar and filled it with golf balls. When no more golf bars fit he closed the jar with its lid. He then asked his class, “Would you say that the jar is now full?” His students observed the jar and concluded that the jar was indeed full.
The professor then proceeded to open the jar up and started inserting marbles into the jar. The marbles started to fill the gaps between the golf balls. After sealing the jar, he asked his class once again if they thought the jar was now full. The class concluded that the jar was indeed now full.
The professor opened the jar a third time and started pouring in sand. Obviously, the sand started filling the gaps between the golf balls and the marbles. He then sealed the jar and asked his class a third time if the jar was full. His class chuckled and replied in unison, “Yes, it is now full!”
The professor opened the jar and emptied two small cups of coffee in the jar. The liquid had completely filled the gap between the golf balls, the marbles, and the grains of sand. He then began his lecture.
“I hope you realize that life is very much like this jar. The golf balls represent the important things in life, like God, family, loved ones, health, things that you care intimately about. If we lost everything else in life, our lives would still be ‘full’. The marbles are the other things in our lives that are important, but our happiness shouldn’t depend on them. Things like our work, our house, our car, etc. Finally, the sand represents everything else; the small stuff.
“If we were to have filled our jar up with sand first, there we wouldn’t have had enough room for the marbles or the golf balls. If we use all our life and energy on the small stuff, we won’t have any room for the important things.”
After a brief moment of silence one of the students asked, “Professor, what does the coffee represent?”
“Ah, I’m glad you asked,” replied the professor. “It means that no matter how full your life is, there is always room for a cup of coffee with a friend.”
What I Think
I think that the jar represents you (me), and the way we choose to fill it represents our life choices. Sometimes, when I read it, I recognize that maybe I’ve given golf ball space to something that should be marble or sand sized. At any rate, it always gives me something to think about.
What do you think? What are your golf-ball sized priorities? Share your thoughts in the comments section below.
“If you give your life as a wholehearted response to love, then love will wholeheartedly respond to you.” ~Marianne Williamson
Although it looks a lot like a poem, the brief prose I’m sharing from author and lecturer Marianne Williamson today (below) offers us a chance to take a hard look at ourselves and our perceptions.
And maybe, it will help us to find new ways to feel more confident and secure in ourselves–to learn to shine our own lights as we encourage others to shine their own.
Our Deepest Fear
By Marianne Williamson
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.
Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. Your playing small does not serve the world.
There is nothing enlightened about shrinking So that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We were all meant to shine, as children do. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone.
And as we let our own light shine, We unconsciously give other people permission to do the same As we are liberated from our own fear, Our presence automatically liberates others.”
What I Think
As I see it, it’s not about being “full of ourselves” or “arrogant”–it’s about being confident and secure.
I believe that self-confidence and arrogance are two very different things.
True self-confidence gives you the ability to feel good about yourself, while still genuinely encouraging others to shine their brightest and celebrating their accomplishments and general awesomeness as you celebrate your own.
Arrogance, on the other hand, is based in insecurity, an often secret fear of not being good enough (or maybe, as Williamson believes, a fear of success). In either case, that fear makes you want to push others down in order to lift yourself up–and in the long run, you might find a little bit of superficial success, but you might end up feeling so empty or unfulfilled that you can’t really enjoy it.
That’s just my take, of course.
How do you see it? Please share your thoughts and feelings in the comments section, below. I’d love to know what you think!