So, you’re looking for movies and TV shows that inspire you to leave a toxic, abusive relationship? Or you’ve already left and you’re working on narcissistic abuse recovery, so you’d like to watch something that makes you feel inspired and ready to move on? Well, my friend, look no further. Here’s a list made by our community of narcissistic abuse survivors of movies and television shows that inspired, entertained, and properly distracted them during their own recovery.
You’re not alone if movies and TV shows help give you a little push toward taking back your life. A lot of narcissistic abuse survivors find that, especially these days, they spend a lot of time alone – whether they’re still with their abusers, or not. And in any case, one convenient way to spend rainy days or extended alone times is to watch movies and TV shows.
And, hey – when you’re dealing with the need to feel empowered or motivated, what better way to multitask than by watching inspiring, empowering, and at times, hilarious movies during the end of a toxic relationship and into your narcissistic abuse recovery, right? So what are the best movies to inspire you to feel strong, empowered, and ready to move forward with your life?
Best Movies to Empower You in Narcissistic Abuse Recovery
I polled The SPANily Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Support Group – and they shared the movies and television shows that help them stay focused on their goals, empowered to take back their lives, and properly distracted as needed
Best Movies to Inspire & Empower You To Leave a Narcissist
“Somehow they really nailed some of the truths of escaping abusive relationships. Like how they made her vulnerable and depressed and disoriented and strong and capable and resilient all at the same time.”
“I felt a lot of that movie on a personal level. It definitely was a solid pick me up.”
“I found Birds of Prey to be strangely inspiring. I mean I took away from it that Harley learned to be independent and strong after her breakup. Not having to rely on anyone else’s protection anymore.”
Clearly, TV shows and movies aren’t going to solve any problems for you. But, if you carefully curate your intake and choose media that empowers, amuses and otherwise supports you in your narcissistic abuse recovery, you’ll thank yourself.
As one survivor noted, “TV and movies can be very triggering for me too sometimes. I never realized how deeply it was affecting my thinking but so much of it is aimed at getting people to measure their worth by romantic relationships. So now I have a list of emotionally ‘safe’ shows and movies and even music that I resort to when I am feeling vulnerable. They are ones that don’t focus on romantic relationships but instead base the female character development on other aspects of their lives.”
Be sure that TV and movies are not the only areas you start curating in this narcissistic abuse recovery process. You want to focus on the people, activities and even the general energy you allow in your space while you’re going through recovery. It’s an ongoing process and if you want to intentionally heal, the first place to begin is by removing toxic influences from your life to make space for more positive ones.
Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Resources
The QueenBeeing SPANily, Official – We consider this to be the best narcissistic abuse recovery support group on the web. Offers several subgroups and features a vigilant, compassionate admin team full of trained coaches and survivors, supporting more than 12k members. SPAN is an acronym created by Angie Atkinson that stands for Support for People Affected by Narcissistic abuse in toxic relationships.
Other Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Support Groups– We also have separate groups for each stage in your narcissistic abuse recovery, as well as some for those who have moved past recovery and are evolving into the next stage of their own life. Survivors have unique and individual needs, even when they’ve moved on – so we’re still here for you.
One-on-One Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Coaching – If you prefer to get more personalized support in your recovery, you might like to schedule a session with one of our coaches to plan and execute your own narcissistic abuse recovery plan.
Find a Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Therapist – If you’re looking for a therapist for narcissistic abuse recovery, either because you cannot afford coaching and want to use your health insurance or because you have additional issues you need to address that do not fall within the realm of coaching, you will want to find the right therapist for you – and as far as we’re concerned, that therapist must understand what you’ve been through. This page offers assistance to help you do exactly that.
Life can be a little challenging sometimes, especially when a narcissist is around.
And who can blame you for feeling discouraged, burnt out and often times, depressed? Dealing with a narcissist in a toxic relationship is hell. And even going through narcissistic abuse recovery is no picnic.
When you’re feeling blue, sometimes all you need to do is change your mind–to change the way you’re looking at the situation.
That’s why I’ve pulled together this list of 158 quotes to inspire you when you’re feeling down. Know of one I missed? Let me know!
Positive Thinking Quotes to Inspire You When You Are Feeling Down
“We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, therefore, is not an act but a habit.” – Aristotle
“All things are difficult before they are easy.” – Thomas Fuller
“All you can change is yourself, but sometimes that changes everything!” – Gary W Goldstein
“An attitude of positive expectation is the mark of the superior personality.”- Brian Tracy
“Be soft. Do not let the world make you hard. Do not let pain make you hate. Do not let the bitterness steal your sweetness. Take pride that even though the rest of the world may disagree, you still believe it to be a beautiful place.” – Kurt Vonnegut
“Believe in yourself! Have faith in your abilities! Without a humble but reasonable confidence in your own powers you cannot be successful or happy.” –Norman Vincent Peale
“Don’t let life discourage you; everyone who got where he is had to begin where he was.” – Richard L. Evans
“Happiness is an attitude. We either make ourselves miserable, or happy and strong. The amount of work is the same.” – Francesca Reigler
“Happiness often sneaks in through a door you didn’t know you left open.” – John Barrymore
“Happiness, like unhappiness, is a proactive choice.” – Stephen Covey
“Hate. It has caused a lot of problems in this world but has not solved one yet.” – Maya Angelou
“Hope is a waking dream.” – Aristotle
“I am the greatest, I said that even before I knew I was.” – Muhammad Ali
“I do believe we’re all connected. I do believe in positive energy. I do believe in the power of prayer. I do believe in putting good out into the world. And I believe in taking care of each other.” – Harvey Fierstein
“I do not believe in taking the right decision, I take a decision and make it right.” ― Muhammad Ali Jinnah
“I may not have gone where I intended to go, but I think I have ended up where I needed to be.” – Douglas Adams
“I’ve had a lot of worries in my life, most of which never happened” – Mark Twain
“I’ve learned that no matter what happens, or how bad it seems today, life does go on, and it will be better tomorrow.” – Maya Angelou
“I’ve missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I’ve lost almost 300 games. 26 times, I’ve been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.” – Michael Jordan
“If opportunity doesn’t knock, build a door.” – Milton Berle
“If someone tells you, “You can’t” they really mean, “I can’t.” – Sean Stephenson
“If we’re growing, we’re always going to be out of our comfort zone.” – John C Maxwell
“If you can change your mind, you can change your life.” – William James
“If you can dream it, then you can achieve it. You will get all you want in life if you help enough other people get what they want.” – Zig Ziglar
“If you look the right way, you can see that the whole world is a garden.” ― Frances Hodgson Burnett, The Secret Garden
“If you think you can do a thing or think you can’t do a thing, you’re right.” – Henry Ford
“If you want light to come into your life, you need to stand where it is shining.” – Guy Finley
“In three words I can sum up everything I’ve learned about life: It goes on.” – Robert Frost
“Keep your face always toward the sunshine – and shadows will fall behind you.” ― Walt Whitman
“Learning is a gift. Even when pain is your teacher.” – Maya Watson
“Life has many ways of testing a person’s will, either by having nothing happen at all or by having everything happen all at once.” – Paulo Coelho
“Life is a bowl of cherries. Some cherries are rotten while others are good; its your job to throw out the rotten ones and forget about them while you enjoy eating the ones that are good! There are two kinds of people: those who choose to throw out the good cherries and wallow in all the rotten ones, and those who choose to throw out all the rotten ones and savor all the good ones.” ― C. JoyBell C.
“Life is a gift, and it offers us the privilege, opportunity, and responsibility to give something back by becoming more.” – Tony Robbins
“No matter what the situation, remind yourself “I have a choice.” – Deepak Chopra
“Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time.” – Thomas Edison
“Success consists of going from failure to failure without loss of enthusiasm.” – Winston Churchill
“Success is falling nine times and getting up ten.” – Jon Bon Jovi
“Success is not to be measured by the position someone has reached in life, but the obstacles he has overcome while trying to succeed.” – Booker T. Washington
“Take chances, make mistakes. That’s how you grow. Pain nourishes your courage. You have to fail in order to practice being brave.” – Mary Tyler Moore
“The art of being wise is the art of knowing what to overlook.” – William James
“The best way to gain self-confidence is to do what you are afraid to do.” – Unknown
“The difference between stumbling blocks and stepping stones is how you use them.” – Unknown
“The difference in winning and losing is most often…not quitting.” – Walt Disney
“The next time you feel slightly uncomfortable with the pressure in your life, remember no pressure, no diamonds. Pressure is a part of success.” – Eric Thomas
“The only place where your dream becomes impossible is in your own thinking.” – Robert H Schuller
“The past has no power over the present moment.” – Eckhart Tolle
“The will to win, the desire to succeed, the urge to reach your full potential… these are the keys that will unlock the door to personal excellence.” – Confucius
“There are two ways of spreading light: to be the candle, or the mirror that reflects it.” – Edith Wharton
“There is little difference in people, but that little difference makes a big difference. The little difference is attitude. The big difference is whether it is positive or negative.” – W. Clement Stone
“To avoid criticism do nothing, say nothing, be nothing.” – Elbert Hubbard
“Today is a new beginning, a chance to turn your failures into achievements & your sorrows into so goods. No room for excuses.” – Joel Brown
“We are all here for some special reason. Stop being a prisoner of your past. Become the architect of your future.” – Robin Sharma
“We are responsible for what we are, and whatever we wish ourselves to be, we have the power to make ourselves.” – Swami Vivekananda
“We don’t see things as they are, we see them as we are.” – Anais Nin
“Whatever you want to do, do it now. There are only so many tomorrows.” – Michael Landon
“When I do good, I feel good. When I do bad, I feel bad. That’s my religion.” – Abraham Lincoln
“When I hear somebody sigh, ‘Life is hard,’ I am always tempted to ask, ‘Compared to what?’” – Sydney Harris
“When the world pushes you to your knees, you’re in the perfect position to pray.” – Rumi
“When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves.” – Viktor Frankl
“With everything that has happened to you, you can either feel sorry for yourself or treat what has happened as a gift. Everything is either an opportunity to grow or an obstacle to keep you from growing. You get to choose.” – Dr. Wayne W Dyer
“You are never too old to set another goal or dream a new dream.” – C.S Lewis
“You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you stop to look fear in the face.” – Eleanor Roosevelt
“You must make a decision that you are going to move on. It wont happen automatically. You will have to rise up and say, ‘I don’t care how hard this is, I don’t care how disappointed I am, I’m not going to let this get the best of me. I’m moving on with my life.” – Joel Osteen
“You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.” – Buddha
”Act or accept.” – Anonymous
”Talent is formed in solitude, character in the bustle of the world.” – Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
”You are what you think about all day long.” — Dr. Robert Schuller, Adversity introduces a man to himself.- Author Unknown
A happy person is not a person in a certain set of circumstances, but rather a person with a certain set of attitudes.- Hugh Downs
Accept Change & Survive
Age is an issue of mind over matter. If you don’t mind, it doesn’t matter. – Mark Twain
An idea can turn to dust or magic, depending on the talent that rubs against it. – Bill Bernbach
An obstacle is often a stepping stone. – Prescott
Anyone can do something when they WANT to do it. Really successful people do things when they don’t want to do it. – Dr. Phil
Attitudes are contagious. Make yours worth catching. – Unknown
Being defeated is only a temporary condition; giving up is what makes it permanent. – Marilyn vos Savant, Author and Advice Columnist
By working faithfully eight hours a day you may eventually get to be boss and work twelve hours a day. – Robert Frost
Defeat is not bitter unless you swallow it. – Joe Clark
Desire is the starting point of all achievement, not a hope, not a wish, but a keen pulsating desire which transcends everything. – Napoleon Hill
Do first things first, and second things not at all. – Peter Drucker.
Do not let what you cannot do interfere with what you can do. – John Wooden
Do not wait to strike till the iron is hot; but make it hot by striking. – William B. Sprague
Enduring habits I hate…. Yes, at the very bottom of my soul I feel grateful to all my misery and bouts of sickness and everything about me that is imperfect, because this sort of thing leaves me with a hundred backdoors through which I can escape from enduring habits. – Friedrich Nietzsche, The Gay Science, 1882
Ever tried. Ever failed. No matter. Try Again. Fail again. Fail better. – Samuel Beckett
Experience is what you get when you don’t get what you want. – Dan Stanford
Failure is the condiment that gives success its flavor. – Truman Capote
Fall down seven times, get up eight. – Japanese Proverb
Flops are a part of life’s menu and I’ve never been a girl to miss out on any of the courses. – Rosalind Russell
Great spirits have always encountered violent opposition from mediocre minds. – Albert Einstein
Have the passion, take the action & magic will happen. – Bar Rafaeli
He who has a why to live can bear almost anyhow. – Friedrich Nietzsche
I am an optimist. It does not seem too much use being anything else. – Winston Churchill
I can’t understand why people are frightened by new ideas. I’m frightened by old ones. – John Cage
I know for sure that what we dwell on is who we become. – Oprah Winfrey
I think and think for months and years. Ninety-nine times, the conclusion is false. The hundredth time I am right. – Albert Einstein
If you keep saying things are going to be bad, you have a chance of being a prophet. – Isaac B. Singer
If you want to make your dreams come true, the first thing you have to do is wake up. – J.M. Power
If you want to test your memory, try to recall what you were worrying about one year ago today. – E. Joseph Cossman
If you worry about yesterday’s failures, then today’s successes will be few. – Anonymous
If you’re going through hell, keep going. – Winston Churchill
If you’re going to be able to look back on something and laugh about it, you might as well laugh about it now. – Marie Osmond
In any situation, the best thing you can do is the right thing; the next best thing you can do is the wrong thing; the worst thing you can do is nothing. – Theodore Roosevelt
In matters of style, swim with the current; in matters of principle, stand like a rock. – Thomas Jefferson
Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great make you feel that you, too, can become great. – Mark Twain
Keep on going and the chances are you will stumble on something, perhaps when you are least expecting it. I have never heard of anyone stumbling on something sitting down. – Charles F. Kettering, Engineer and Inventor
Knowing is not enough; we must apply. Willing is not enough; we must do. -Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
Life is “trying things to see if they work” – Ray Bradbury
Life is 10% what happens to us and 90% how we react to it. – Dennis P. Kimbro
Life is a shipwreck but we must not forget to sing in the lifeboats. – Voltaire
Losers visualize the penalties of failure. Winners visualize the rewards of success. – Unknown
Many great ideas go unexecuted, and many great executioners are without ideas. One without the other is worthless. – Tim Blixseth
Motivation is a fire from within. If someone else tries to light that fire under you, chances are it will burn very briefly. – Stephen R. Covey
People become really quite remarkable when they start thinking that they can do things. When they believe in themselves they have the first secret of success. – Norman Vincent Peale
People seem not to see that their opinion of the world is also a confession of character. – Ralph Waldo Emerson
Positive anything is better than negative thinking. – Elbert Hubbard, Ray Norda, Chairman, Novell
Remember that happiness is a way of travel, not a destination.- Roy Goodman
Resist Change & Die
Setting an example is not the main means of influencing others; it is the only means.- Albert Einstein
Some succeed because they are destined. Some succeed because they are determined. – Unknown
Sometimes even to live is an act of courage. – Seneca
Sometimes you just got to give yourself what you wish someone else would give you. – Dr Phil
Sooner or later, those who win are those who think they can. – Richard Bach
Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indomitable will. – Mahatma Gandhi
Success consists of doing the common things of life uncommonly well. – Unknown
Success is a state of mind. If you want success, start thinking of yourself as a success. – Dr. Joyce Brothers
Success is the ability to go from failure to failure without losing your enthusiasm. – Sir Winston Churchill
Success seems to be connected with action. Successful people keep moving. They make mistakes but don’t quit. – Conrad Hilton
Take the first step in faith. You don’t have to see the whole staircase, just take the first step.” – Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.
The best way out is always through.- Robert Frost
The best way to cheer yourself up is to try to cheer somebody else up. – Mark Twain
The best way to predict the future is to create it. – Unknown
The difference between ordinary and extraordinary is that little extra. – Unknown
The only people who find what they are looking for in life are the fault finders. – Foster’s Law
The secret to life is meaningless unless you discover it yourself. – W. Somerset Maugham
The sun shines and warms and lights us and we have no curiosity to know why this is so; but we ask the reason of all evil, of pain, and hunger, and mosquitoes and silly people. – Ralph Waldo Emerson
The surest way not to fail is to determine to succeed.- Richard B. Sheridan
The world is more malleable than you think and it’s waiting for you to hammer it into shape. – Bono
There are only two rules for being successful. One, figure out exactly what you want to do, and two, do it. – Mario Cuomo
There are two primary choices in life: to accept conditions as they exist, or accept the responsibility for changing them. – Dr. Denis Waitley
There is no education like adversity. – Disraeli
Those who wish to sing, always find a song. – Swedish Proverb
Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover. – Mark Twain
Vision doesn’t usually come as a lightening bolt. Rather it comes as a slow crystallization of life challenges that we one day recognize as a beautiful diamond with great value to ourselves and others. – Dr. Michael Norwood
Vision without action is daydream. Action without vision is nightmare. – Japanese Proverb
We are all inventors, each sailing out on a voyage of discovery, guided each by a private chart, of which there is no duplicate. The world is all gates, all opportunities. – Ralph Waldo Emerson
We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, therefore, is not an act but a habit.- Aristotle
We judge of man’s wisdom by his hope. – Ralph Waldo Emerson
What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us. – Ralph Waldo Emerson
What you do speaks so loudly that I cannot hear what you say” — Ralph Waldo Emerson”
What you get by achieving your goals is not as important as what you become by achieving your goals. – Goethe
Whatever you do will be insignificant, but it is very important that you do it. – Mahatma Gandhi
Whenever you find whole world against you just turn around and lead the world. – Anonymous
Whenever you find yourself on the side of the majority, it’s time to pause and reflect. – Mark Twain
Where the willingness is great, the difficulties cannot be great. – Machiavelli.
Whether you think you can or think you can’t, you’re right. – Henry Ford
Winners lose much more often than losers. So if you keep losing but you’re still trying, keep it up! You’re right on track. – Matthew Keith Groves
You can get everything in life you want if you will just help enough other people get what they want. – Zig Ziglar
You must be the change you want to see in the world. – Mahatma Gandhi
“When you wake up every day, you have two choices. You can either be positive or negative; an optimist or a pessimist. I choose to be an optimist. It’s all a matter of perspective.” ~Harvey Mackay
I don’t know about you, but I almost always find that when things are feeling especially difficult in my life, a simple change of perspective can be all it takes to get back on the upswing.
It’s easy to get bogged down with all the available self-help information. You might be surprised at how much you can benefit from asking yourself just a couple of questions! Your answers will help you determine if you’re on track to reaching your goals and enable you to make an action plan that will get you there in record time.
Ask yourself these two questions:
1. “If an invisible person followed you around all day, what would they see?” Would they see you wasting a lot of time? Would they see you working at your goals? Would they see someone that is just going through the motions?
Our lives are largely the result of the actions that we take each day. Are you taking actions that move you forward to the future you desire or are you engaged in time-wasting, worthless activity?
What would that invisible person logically conclude about you, your life, and your future?
2. “If you lived that average day, every day, for the next 5 years, what is the logical outcome?” So if you kept living your average day over and over, where is your life likely to end up? Now compare that logical conclusion with the life you’d like to have. How close are they?
Are you likely to end up where you want to be financially? Are you currently taking consistent action to have the financial life you desire?
Are you likely to have the body that you want? Are you eating nutritiously and exercising regularly? Or are you waiting to start tomorrow, or Monday, or the first of the month, or the first of the year? Getting the body you want will take a certain number of days, so you might as well start today.
Are you likely to be enjoying the type of relationships you desire? If you want to meet your dream wife, how many new women have you spoken to in the last week? How many have you asked out?
Are you likely to be advancing in the career you seek? For example, based on your performance over the last year, do you think it’s probable that you’ll get that plant manager position anytime soon? Are you any closer to having that small business running profitably?
Now you can make some reasonable plans and create some good habits. What do you need to do on a consistent basis to achieve the life you hope for? If you want to lose 10 inches off your waist and weigh 75 lbs less, then your daily actions need to reflect that.
People largely fail to end up where they wish to be for two reasons:
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2. They don’t do the things each day that will create the life they want. In spite of what many gurus seem to claim, you can’t wish your way to success. Success is the result of making positive decisions and taking actions that reflect those decisions.
Ask yourself the two questions above. You might be shocked when you really look at your average day and realize where you’re likely to end up as a result of doing those same things every day. It doesn’t take a lot to be very successful, but it does take consistency.
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Did you know breastfeeding isn’t for everyone? Well, believe it or not breastfeeding is not as easy as it looks! And this new mom could really use some help from some of you more experienced ones out there.
My Crazy Breastfeeding Attempts, Tongue Tie and ‘Helpful’ Nurses
While I was pregnant, I was so excited to breastfeed and have that bonding experience with my son.
Well as it turns out, in the hospital my son was having trouble latching on to my breast.
No one even mentioned that there was such a thing as a tongue tie.
And it kind of pisses me off, because if they had, I could have had them clip it in order to have that bonding experience with my son.
Instead the nurses told me to start supplementing, because he was losing to much weight. And being kinda new to this whole mother thing – I did what they said.
Ever since I have been trying to get my supply up. By pumping pumping pumping.
In fact I even purchased three different pumps in order to find the best one for my breast.
I was also eating lactation cookies, staying away from caffeine. The whole nine yards. None of it was working. I was devastated that I was only able to feed my baby formula.
That’s when I decided to…
Stop concerning my self so much about it, and to try to believe that it might just come naturally, And instead of pumping, to actually put him to the breast to feed. And just see where that got me.
So as of now, I’m working hard to get my supply up and still having that skin to skin mouth to breast time, regardless if he is getting any milk or not. So far, so good.
I could really use some advice – can anyone help me out? Have you had to try to re-lactate before? How’d you do it? What tips can you offer? Thanks in advance.
#3. Sleeping with the Enemy
Girls Trip
, Author and Advice Columnist
While I was pregnant, I was so excited to breastfeed and have that bonding experience with my son.