I don’t know about you, but personally, I prefer to wear a little makeup when I’m out in the world, and while I tend to minimize it in the summertime, I still want to offer Mother Nature a hand sometimes. (more…)
Angela Atkinson is a certified trauma counselor and the author of more than 20 books on narcissism, narcissistic abuse recovery, and related topics. A recognized expert on narcissism and narcissistic personality disorder who has studied and written extensively on narcissistic personality disorder and narcissistic abuse in toxic relationships since 2006, she has a popular narcissistic abuse recovery YouTube channel. Atkinson was inspired to begin her work as a result of having survived toxic relationships of her own.
Atkinson offers trauma-informed narcissistic abuse recovery coaching and has certifications in trauma counseling, life coaching, level 2 therapeutic model, CBT coaching, integrative wellness coaching, and NLP. She is a certified trauma support coach and certified family trauma professional. She also has a professional PTSD counseling certification. Her mission is to help those who have experienced the emotional and mental devastation that comes with narcissistic abuse in these incredibly toxic relationships to (re)discover their true selves, stop the gaslighting and manipulation, and move forward into their genuine desires – into a life that is exactly what they choose for themselves.
Along with her solution-focused life coaching experience, Atkinson’s previous career in journalism and research helps her to offer both accurate and understandable information for survivors of abuse in a simple-to-understand way that helps to increase awareness in the narcissistic abuse recovery community. Atkinson founded QueenBeeing.com Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Support, the SPANily Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Support Groups and the Life Makeover Academy.
It’s so significant that you can hardly be exposed to an episode of Who’s that Girl without hearing it mentioned at least once.
In fact, those eyes get the blame for the fact that Zooey’s character gets away will what she does as the quirky roommate in an otherwise all male household.
The good news is that you too can create such a look, even if you don’t really get away with anything quirky because of it. A lady can try, can’t she?
Step Out of the 80’s
I’ve been saying this for years and I am happy to have a chance to say it again: Keep the eyeliner out of your eyes!
This isn’t the 80’s anymore. Eyeliner that can touch your eye went out with the big hair, so if you’re still doing the big hair, stop that too!
Shading is Everything
The key to the wide-eyed look is shading. Most of you already now that lighter colors make things look bigger while darker colors make things look smaller, hence the fact that we are all searching for the perfect little black dress and not the perfect little white dress. Sometimes, as is the case with eyeliner and eyeshadow, you need a contrast in order to make the lighter colors stand out.
When you put that eyeliner on the top of your bottom lid instead of the outside of it, I cringe and your eye actually looks smaller than it did.
Applying the Eyeliner
The darkest, thickest part of your eyeliner should be at the corner of the outside of your eyelids, where the top and bottom meet. When you apply the eyeliner to your bottom lid, apply it on the outside, underneath the eyelashes. This causes a sort of illusion.
The top of your bottom lid blends with your eye so that your eyes actually look larger. The eyeliner provides the contrast to set off the lighter colors.
By keeping the eyeliner thinner along the majority of your lids and thicker in the corners, you provide another illusion.
The eyeliner in the corner creates a sort of shade so it looks like your eyes stand out more than they actually do. You can enhance the effect even more by applying your eye shadow correctly, but that’s for another article.
If you have any doubts about this method, just take a look at the way Zooey’s eyeliner is applied in an effort to enhance her trademark look.
It’s easy to make your lips look fuller if you have the right cosmetics to do it. The concepts you use are the same ones you learned in art class all those years ago. Contrary to what some women might think, less is more when it comes to your lips.
You’ll need lip liner, foundation or lip base, and lipstick that is a shade lighter than your lip liner.
Create the Full Lip Look
There are cosmetics that really do make your lips fuller, but they can still look small if you don’t apply your lipstick correctly. Those cosmetics contain allergens so that your lips essentially have an allergic reaction and swell a bit. They may even tingle. Feel free to use that type of lipstick if you like, but by applying the technique here you can make your lips look even fuller, though not like you just cam out of a bitched cosmetic surgery job.
Begin by applying the base. Whether you use foundation or a lip base, this is an important step to make your lipstick last longer. It can also help prevent the bleeding of lipstick into the lines around your mouth.
Once the base has been applied, it’s time to work on the lip liner. Think of your lip liner the same way you thought of the crayon or marker you used top use to outline pictures. You’re going to do the same thing with your lips. Outline your mouth at the very edge of your lips.
*Tip: Unless you are going to be on television, never take your lip liner or lipstick outside of your lip line. They can get away with it on television and in pictures because those are 2D images. In 3D (the way we see real life) it just looks like a small child put your makeup on for you.
Take your lip liner to the corner of your lips, where the top and bottom meet. Fill in about a 1/2″ on either side, on both the top and bottom, using your lip liner. You are really just filling in the thinner parts almost to the point where your lips begin to get a bit fuller. Always work toward you lips and mouth rather than toward the outside of your lips.
Now, fill in your lips with the lipstick. Work from the outside to the inside instead of going all the way across your lips. Once the lipstick is applied, blend the line from the lip liner, pushing toward the inside of your lips. When you get done, the outside of your lips should be a shade darker than the inside, but should not be showing a line.
Eyes have been called the windows of the soul because of how much they communicate. Eyes give your face energy and individuality. They do not have to be a certain size or shape to be considered pretty – all eyes have their own unique beauty.
When makeup is applied to look natural it will bring out the eye’s true color and enhance the eye’s beauty. When you feel good about your makeup you will be more confident and will have one less thing to worry about.
A subtle application of eyeliner, shadows and mascara work together to create magic and make your eyes look their best. Here’s how to do it.
Eye shadow is meant to highlight and define the eyes. Eye shadow is used to create depth to bring out the beauty of the eyes. A dark color used on the lid will make the eye appear smaller, while a lighter color will make it appear larger. That is what eye shadow is about creating illusions.
These are the basic techniques for the following eye shapes:
Small eyes: Don’t use too much shadow or liner – it will make you eyes look smaller. Apply a light color on eyelid, use a darker color in the crease and use a highlighter under the brow.
Large eyes: Wear darker shadow on the lid and extend it to the crease. Use a flat color under the brow to highlight.
Deep-set eyes: Use light colors on the eyelid and under the brow. Use a medium color in the crease. Emphasize the outer corners with shadow.
Wide-set eyes: Use darker colors on the inner corners of the eye.
Hooded eyes: Apply light colors on the lid. Use darker colors from the center of the eyelid to the outer corners and blend.
Round eyes: Make round eyes longer by using color all around and extending toward the outer corners.
Asian eyes: Apply highlighter under the brow. Use light shadow on the inner half of the lid and a darker color on the outer half.
Tips to Remember
Light colors cause the eyes to open, dark colors will cause the eyes to recede
If you have very light skin avoid dark shades
Be careful with shimmer – they will bring attention to imperfections and wrinkles.
The eye area is the first to show age; don’t tug on the skin.
Eyeliners are meant to define the eyes so they should do just that, not be the focal point of your makeup. Eyeliners come in various colors and forms liquid, pencil etc.
Keep the eyeliner natural. Pencils are available in many colors (for the best look stick to black or brown) and can be sharpened for a fine line.
For a smudged effect use a sponge tip shadow applicator or an eye shadow brush. When your pencils are too soft refrigerate them. When they are too hard soften them by holding them between your fingers.
To line the eye, start on the lower lid, just beneath the lashes.
When you are finished always smudge the line with your sponge. Stay as close to the lash line as possible.
On the upper lid, draw a line form the inner corner to the outer corner, thickening the line toward the outer corner.
After the age of 40 keep the line in between the lashes.
Mascara and the creation of beautiful lashes:
Mascara frames your eyes and can make your face come alive. Mascara softly accentuates the eye while thickening and darkening the lashes; it is the finishing touch for eyes.
There are several different types to choose from, thickening, and waterproof to smudge proof. Waterproof will need a special remover and smudge proof will wash off easily. It is not a good idea to wear waterproof mascara for extended periods of time since it has a tendency to dry the lashes.
Select a shade of mascara that complements your coloring. Dark shades on pale eyes with brown lashes will darken them and will look harsh. Stay away from blues and other colors since they will ruin your look.
Lashes that are hard to curl may need the help of an eyelash curler. Curl your lashes before you apply mascara – hold for ten to twenty seconds.
To apply mascara look straight into your mirror with your chin slightly lifted so you can see your lashes. Insert the wand only once and twist, don’t pump. Pumping can break the brush bristles and distribute the mascara unevenly and will dry out the mascara faster.
Start by rolling the wand from root to tip in an upward motion. Reinsert the brush and apply again. If your eyelashes are thick and long they may clunk together. If this happens let them dry and then separate them with the corner of an eyebrow brush.
Men and women both use cosmetics. Women use more makeup, in general, but men use many after shave lotions, moisturizers, creams and lotions on their face as well.
Skin Cosmetics and Potential Complications for Your Face
We all want to look amazing, but some of the ingredients in some skincare products may cause skin problems that may take a long time to disappear after treatment.
Skin Cosmetics And Allergies
Skin cosmetics may cause two types of allergies – Irritant Contact Dermatitis or Allergic Contact dermatitis. With irritant contact dermatitis, the inflammation of the skin develops because of contact with any ingredient. Suppose you touch an alkali, you will damage your skin. That is irritant contact dermatitis. No cosmetic contains such harmful ingredients, but even a most neutral material such as water can cause it in many people if they are in touch with it for long. With allergic contact dermatitis, you get an allergic flare up as soon as you come in contact with an ingredient. Why you develop that allergy and your friends do not is not known. There is another issue here, that of phototoxic materials. You are all right if you apply something and don’t move out in the sun. As soon as you move out the material causes phototoxic reaction on the skin. Most of the pure and natural essential oils of the lime family cause that.
Skin Cosmetics: Which Ones Should You Use?
Anytime you buy a cosmetic, read the list of ingredients carefully to check for potential allergy triggers. Always perform a small test by sing a new product first on the wrist and watch for reactions for twenty-four hours. Always buy hypoallergenic and anti comedogenic products if you’re sensitive. Identify all those ingredients that you are worried about and avoid any product that contains them. Save yourself from skin inflammations and colored patches and blisters.
Disclaimer: Always check with your doctor before taking this or any other health advice on the internet.
Thirty-five is when you finally get your head together and your body starts falling apart. ~Caryn Leschen
Humans are, by nature, a bit obsessed with beauty.
Part of it has nothing to do with our personal beliefs or convictions–some of our obsession is coded into our DNA, an evolutionary urge to create with and be with beautiful people.
That’s because beauty is an evolutionary cue that a person is healthy.
But what happens when beauty begins to fade as we get older?
The truth is we begin the aging process just as soon as we pop out of the womb. Every day of our lives our bodies slough off and regenerate new cells. The speed at which that process takes place when we are children is vastly different as we get older.
Every day you are bombarded daily with commercial messages and beauty tips that attempt to lure you into believing that the most recent miracle drug is just what you need to fight off the ravages of Mother Nature.
And these days, humans are, on average, living longer. Of course, that can be a curse or a blessing, depending on your perspective.
So what’s the best way to stay younger and healthier looking? Start with prevention.
The best route to natural beauty and healthy skin is to take care of what you have. Sounds simple, doesn’t it? The truth is that your skin takes a beating from the environment every single day. Here are some of our favorite beauty tips for keeping your skin fresh and healthy:
1: Stay hydrated and do it with plenty of water! That does not mean soda, caffeine or any other type of liquid, even if it is low cal. Soda (even diet soda) has a high concentration of sodium. Sodium retains fluids. You need fluid that will hydrate and flush your body free of toxins. Make sure you are drinking at least 8 glasses a day!
2: Protect your skin from harmful ultra violet (UV) rays. We all love the sun. We love being in it and we love having a beautiful tan. The truth is you can poison yourself with too much sunshine. UV rays cause skin cancer and if that isn’t bad enough it causes your skin to age faster than it should, contributing to unsightly wrinkles. If you must play in the sun, make certain you are using an adequate sun screen. Don’t leave home without it!
3: Keep your skin clean. Use a soft warm cloth. Skin does not require scrubbing. You will do more harm than good if you do.
4: The best cure for wrinkles is to never have them in the first place! If you are like most of us, you didn’t listen to your Mom when she tried to tell you to stay in the shade, stand up straight and stop squinting!
5: Eat healthy. Knowing how and what to eat, can make a huge difference in how you feel. Improper eating habits can cause depression, weight gain, illness and an overall lethargy.
Weight gain causes your skin to stretch. As you get older, it loses it’s elasticity and you’re left with sagging skin.
The best solution to this is to maintain a proper weight.
A rule of thumb for eating habits are…don’t eat more calories than you consume. Don’t go one single day without doing something extra and physical for at least 30 minutes per day. This can be three ten minute walks. Or 30 minutes of vigorous aerobics, or 12 minutes of weight lifting and 18 minutes of walking.
6: Don’t worry, be happy. A happy outlook appears to trigger the release of endorphins. Endorphins relax the cardiovascular system and cytokines which alert the immune system to pay attention in detecting abnormalities like cancer cells. Listen carefully to yourself. If you have put yourself down since childhood, over a lifetime, negative subliminal messages can take their toll by turning you into a pessimist. Spend one week writing down the phrases you use in your “self talk.” Chances are you will find that you repeat a dozen or so phrases over and over again that reinforce that negative image. If you know about them, you can change them. Outer beauty and inner joy go hand in hand.
Here are a few quick tips for increasing joy, hope and optimism that will work no matter what your age:
Make a list of at least 50 great things that happen to you every day.
Laugh a lot. You’ll heal your body and your mind.
Discover a new challenge each month.
Try meditating for just five minutes each day.
7: Sex After 50 – Ha! How many of you jumped ahead to this section?
Ok, so I’m not quite 40, let alone 50, yet. But the importance of physical intimacy as a relationship matures actually depends on the couple. An alarming number of men used to give up on sex after 60 and many women used to feel that their sex life ended with menopause. Thankfully, that is no longer the case.
Sex at middle age can actually become better and more satisfying than ever before. Maturity gives a couple more experience in lovemaking. The children are usually grown and left home. The pressures of building a career and day to day life are usually less stressful than in younger years.
Is beauty really skin deep?
The answer is yes and no. It’s a paradox, isn’t it? True beauty begins from the inside out. Don’t you wish there was some way to “wriggle your nose” and regain that soft skin you had as a child? Well, until someone comes up with the true “Fountain of Youth” we are stuck with what we have.
Just remember that getting older doesn’t have to mean getting old. What are your best beauty tips for looking younger?