I thought life was all about finding yourself. Making a future, getting a job, having a family, and finding someone to share it all with. Not specifically in that order of course, in any order actually, just doing those things is what life was about. I have since been taught different. My life is still dedicated to that don’t get me wrong but now I know those things are not the reason why I exist. I exist to learn, to love, and to help others do the same. After my husband died he told me what I needed to do.
Her what? Did what? Didn’t she just say after he DIED? Why yes, I did. 3 days after his death to be exact. I thought I was going crazy trust me. Unconscious thoughts were going through my head that I knew we’re not mine. I physically felt him around me. I would cry and feel him laying next to me in bed holding me. But what really made me take notice was this steady stream of “thoughts” going through my head that I knew we’re not mine. You know your subconscious thoughts how they don’t really come across as words but an image or strong instant emotion. Stuff like that was going on. I heard exact words as well though, words that we’re being repeated over and over to me. This started happening instantly after his death and within the first few days I felt I had to do something. I knew the things that we’re happening to me we’re so extraordinary that they either had to be validated or I was going to take myself to the hospital and get help because I was completely crazy. Still today months later I feel a little crazy embracing this all so completely.
So, what does any logical mother and wife do upon losing her husband and having strange things happen, she goes to the internet and sees what other people in my same situation are doing. I quickly decided to see a Medium even though up until that point I did not believe in those things. The things other mothers, fathers, sisters, brothers, daughters, sons, aunts, uncles, and loved ones are doing were pretty consistent for my situation so I was off to find a legimite Medium in my area. I lied to my friends and family about what I was doing because I was afraid of what they’d say and my mother and I went to see a woman who’s words have since changed my life.
I was hesitant. I was a nonbeliever up to that point. Until she opened her mouth and spoke. I had researched this woman. When I found her it was like my dead husband was directing me to her. I was excited and hopeful. She told me many things about my husband and my life with him. She talked about my kids and about myself.
One of the most important things she said was that my husband wanted me to know that I was here on earth to learn 5 life lessons and I hadn’t learned a single one. That if I didn’t focus on learning my lessons they would be harder to learn and take longer after I died.
Now, I have a mission in life and that is to figure out what my lessons are and to help others believe in life after death and that there is a purpose to this thing we call “life”. I’m just starting the journey to discover my 5 life lessons. Join me?
We all have life lessons we are supposed to learn in this lifetime. Lessons that we either chose or where chosen for us. This is my journey to my 5 lessons.
As George Bernard Shaw once said, life isn’t about finding yourself–it’s about creating yourself.
After my late husband’s passing this last January I went and saw a Medium. The things she said astounded me.
Even today, months later, things she said are making more sense and stuff she said would happen are happening or have happened already.
With this being said one of the messages my husband gave me was that I have 5 lessons to learn while I am on this Earth and I haven’t learned a single one. If I do not learn these lessons here they will take a lot longer to learn later. So I am on a mission to make myself a better person, learn the lessons I have taken on in this life, and embrace myself fully as a person.
Let me start with a little history lesson about myself. I did not believe in God. I 100% believed that when we die that was it. Nothing was after that.
Death meant death meant death and you were dead. No “spirit”. No “soul”. No nothing. Then January 27, 2014 happened and it was like being shot through a cannon towards the unknown and landing right in the middle of something I never believed in and still (honestly) to this day sometimes think I am a little crazy to embrace so fully now. Anywho, with that said I now believe in life after death. I am a total supporter of this and will answer any questions and share my experiences as openly as I can with others.
So, when I went and saw this Medium 3 days after his passing I already knew life after death existed because he showed me in multiple ways since he died. I just needed her to validate these “unconscious thoughts” that were going through my head that I attributed to my dead husband. Also, if she did not validate these things I would have went directly to the mental ward myself trust me. Not only did she tell me the thoughts inside my head in such detail she did so withoutme ever opening my mouth and speaking a word. She spoke my dead husbands words that I had been hearing over and over and over in my head for the past three days. Words I never posted on social media. Words that were special to me and him and no one else in the entire world would have known.
My late husband also had other things he wanted to tell me. The most important one to me right now are my lessons in life. I have to figure out what these lessons are and how to learn them. I watch now. I listen now. I pay attention to people and things. I am more attuned to mysurroundings. I am no longer afraid of making mistakes in life, only of not making enough before I die so I can finally get it right down here on Earth.
My search has just begun. My lessons are still unlearned.
For the month of September, I am eating Paleo (as much as I can stand) and running a minimum of 1 mile a day (I mean who doesn’t have time to run/jog a 9-14 minute mile once a day).
So far I have seen a 7 lb weight drop in 18 days which is remarkable for me.
What is the Paleo Diet Plan?
The Paleo diet is actually pretty straightforward in that you only eat the best quality of foods and mostly cutting out starches and sugars completely. You might have heard this referred to as the Caveman Diet.
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This diet was to be my next challenge! Off I went to Whole Foods and Trader Joe’s to stock up on chicken, fish, fresh fruits and veggies, along with distilled bottled water. (I do not eat red meat or pork, haven’t in a long time. Also, why I only drink distilled water is another post.)
The Paleo Diet Plan, My Way
I had already decided that I was going to cheat a little with my sauces but I did make healthy decisions choosing these items.
Just because I wanted taste didn’t mean it had to come at the cost of being high calories or loaded with sugar.
I also grabbed some white rice and white potatoes. These are a grey area with Paleo some say it is okay to eat them others disagree.
I know I will want something to fill me up and I am afraid that just eating some vegetables and 5oz of meat each night will leave me starving. Rice and potatoes were on the top of my list.
The Paleo Diet Plan: Results and Lessons So Far
The first few days went okay. I think I ate too much fruit.
Reading suggested Paleo daily menus, 1/2 cup of fruit per day was mentioned. I may not have looked close enough or deeply enough through the billions of recipes but I saw this 1/2 cup fruit thing starting to trend.
So I cut back my fruit intake and quickly found out I was craving sweets. I am guessing that the fruit was giving me my sugar “fix” and after I stopped eating it (I went from 1-2 cups with each meal down to a couple pieces of fruit as a snack).
I caved and had a cinnamon roll about 3 days later visiting the mall. However, I am a firm believer that you are allowed to cheat every once in a while.
So the next day I was right back at my diet and rewarded with a 5lb weight loss the next time I stood on my scale. I was smiling from ear to ear!
The Paleo Diet Plan: Sample menu (my way!)
Breakfast: 2 eggs (anyway I want to eat them) and a handful of almonds
Lunch: Salad with 1 tbs dressing (of my choice) and some fresh veggies (grape tomatoes, carrots,…)
Dinner: Baked salmon on white rice with baked broccoli, peppers, carrots, mushrooms
The Paleo Diet Plan: Tips That Work for Me
I pretty much keep breakfast and lunch the same every day mixing up my greens and veggies at lunch and always choosing French style salad dressing dipping my fork in the dressing and then forking my salad (I am strange like that.
I get the taste of the dressing without the dressing calories.) Dinner is where I change things but I use the same types of protein; 5oz chicken breasts, salmon, halibut, tilapia, and shrimp.
So far going Paleo isn’t so bad. I am not sure what I will do next month. Any suggestions? What has worked for you? Share your thoughts and experiences in the comments section, below!