This has been an oddly rough day for me. The kids have been unusually busy, to put it mildly, and my daughter gave me a fat lip with the remote, which she threw at me after I took away an unsafe toy my son had given her. I have to laugh about it, though, because she’s ten months old. I know she didn’t mean to hurt me, but it made the day feel tougher.
At any rate, I found myself pouting, thinking about what a rough day it was. It seemed like everything was going wrong, and the longer the day wore on, the tougher it seemed to get.
Then, I had one of those cool lightbulb moments we all enjoy. I remembered that I only needed to change my perspective to change my day. Change my mind, change my life. So, I started focusing on the happy things, the good things…the things for which I am grateful.
Like, for example, my darling daughter Sophia must be pretty healthy if she can throw a remote hard enough to give her mommy a fat lip. 🙂 And for her health and vigor, I am so grateful. My son Noah, with his level of persistence, is clearly going to be good at whatever he chooses to do in his life. He’s very passionate and determined to get what he wants. And while that can be frustrating for me at times, it’s really a positive quality. I am grateful for that.
I got a call from my son Cameron’s Communication Arts teacher today, who informed me that Cameron had failed to turn in an essay assigned him over the weekend. I knew that he had trouble with the assignment, as it was to write about HIMSELF. He felt uncomfortable sharing his inner feelings with people at school, and even though I told him to do it anyway, he did not. The teacher promised to email me the assignment tonight, and I promised her I’d be sure he did it. I am grateful for teachers who care, and that Cameron has the opportunity to correct his mistake.
And even though I initially felt frustrated with him, I now feel grateful that I’m able to be here with him to help him succeed. If I had to work outside of the home, I may not have the opportunity to do what’s necessary to ensure that he doesn’t make the same mistake twice.
Changing my mind has put me at ease, knowing that I can deal with anything I need to, knowing that things will be okay. Breathing deeply and reminding myself that all good things are coming my way has calmed my heart, even through perceived stresses. Things are looking up, folks.
So, today I challenge you to turn around the next challenging situation you deal with. It will do you a world of good. Change your mind, change your life. Give yourself the GIFT of inner peace!
Learn it, live it, love it!
Angela Atkinson is a Certified Life Coach and the author of more than 20 books on narcissism, narcissistic abuse recovery and related topics. A recognized expert on narcissism and narcissistic personality disorder who has studied and written extensively on narcissistic relationships since 2006, Atkinson was inspired to begin her work as a result of having survived toxic relationships of her own.
Atkinson offers trauma-informed coaching and has certifications in life coaching, level 2 therapeutic model, CBT coaching, integrative wellness coaching, and NLP. She is a certified trauma support coach and certified family trauma professional. She also has a professional PTSD counseling certification. Her mission is to help those who have experienced the emotional and mental devastation that comes with narcissistic abuse in these incredibly toxic relationships to (re)discover their true selves, stop the gaslighting and manipulation and move forward into their genuine desires – into a life that is exactly what they choose for themselves.
Along with her solution-focused life coaching experience, Atkinson’s previous career in journalism and research helps her to offer both accurate and understandable information for survivors of abuse in a simple-to-understand way that helps to increase awareness in the narcissistic abuse recovery community. Atkinson founded QueenBeeing.com Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Support, the SPANily Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Support Groups and the Life Makeover Academy. In her life coaching practice, Atkinson’s clients enjoy her personalized approach that allows and encourages them to become the best possible versions of themselves and to succeed in doing what they love most. She offers individual and group coaching for victims and survivors of narcissistic abuse at NarcissisticAbuseRecovery.Online and NarcissismSupportCoach.com.