“Your imagination is your preview of life’s coming attractions.” ~Albert Einstein
Do you consider yourself “in control” of your own life, or does it sometimes feel like life is just sort of “happening to you” instead?
Have you ever thought that some people seem to have really great lives and others don’t – despite working really hard to have everything they want? Why do you think that happens?
For so many people, life has become a cycle of acceptance – accepting that this is their life and that this is as good as it gets. Maybe you’re stuck in a routine life that you never figured would be yours.
You’re the one getting up, going to work, maybe hitting the gym afterwards, waiting for the weekend to relax with friends or hit a party or two and then Monday morning the same cycle starts all over again.
Right now, you may be having some disquieting thoughts about your own life, feeling a sense that something’s just not quite right. It’s not that you’re miserable – this life you’re living just isn’t what you’ve bargained for, what you thought it would be like.
So what’s a girl to do? Well, start by TAKING CONTROL and create the life you want. So how do you do that?
Create the Life You Want: Can the Law of Attraction Really Change Your Life?
Instinctively, you just know within yourself that you were born for more than what you’re currently experiencing. If that’s the way you feel, then there’s something you should know.
You can learn how to wield the positive energy within yourself to make any of the changes happen that you’d like to see occur. The power to make changes in your life – big and bold or simple changes – is within your grasp.
You never, ever have to simply settle for anything in any area of your life. You were meant to have it all in abundance. Whatever you intend to be in life or to have in life – in all areas can happen through the wonderful power of using the Law of Attraction.
What Is the Law of Attraction?
The law of attraction is the practice that your thoughts have the potential to create concrete results or changes in your life. Whether those results are negative or positive will depend on the way that you think – the focus of your mental energy.
Whatever you think – the positive or negative energy – is sent out into the universe. Therefore, your thoughts are directly related to your life situations. There are laws in the universe and in order to change your life, you have to know what those laws are and how to use them.
Create the Life You Want: You Bring About What You Think About
It doesn’t matter how old you are, how much money you make or what your personality type is, the Law of Attraction is available to everyone. What you dwell on in your thought life will manifest in your life.
So in layman’s terms, your thoughts sort of “take root” and then thrive on whatever it is the universe delivers back. Have you ever thought that something negative was about to happen and then it turned out to happen?
Or you thought something positive was going to happen and it did? When you believe it and expect it, you’re tapping into the Law of Attraction. Your actions actually help determine the outcome to some degree.
The universe takes the thoughts you think and combines with the metaphysical. If you zero all your focus on negative things and live in negativity, that’s what you will attract back to you and bring into your life – the bad things.
The thoughts a person thinks will begin to affect his or her actions. If you don’t believe that you’re good enough for that special relationship or for that promotion in your office, then you won’t be.
You won’t be because you’ll start with a negative focus and that negative focus will lead you to actions that sabotage the very things you want out of life. Even if you don’t recognize it, you might sulk and pout and that could lead to someone else being chosen for the job.
The universal law that the Law of Attraction is bound up in means that your inner thoughts – what you cannot see – impact what you can see – the circumstances of your life.
Create the Life You Want: When the LOA Works Against You (And How to Get Back on Its Good Side)
The Law of Attraction is what you use in your life and sometimes you might have used it without even realizing it, but it’s what you use to create a cause and effect in your life.
- Don’t turn your thoughts’ focus on anything that can bear a negative impact. If you have a lot of unpaid bills, instead of dwelling on that, change your focus. Shift it over and instead start thinking about the positive ways that more money is going to come into your life.
- Think about the positive results of getting a promotion or how that you’ll use your talent or skills in ways that they’ll be appreciated and will bring in the kind of income you deserve to have.
- Practice visualizing what you’d like to have in life. If you have trouble doing that, keep a notebook and write down the positive changes that you want to occur. Visualize it as having already happened.
Understanding how to use the Law of Attraction and applying it in the areas of your life that you want changed can bring about amazing results and give you the satisfaction you may be missing.
- You can use the Law of Attraction to bring about greater financial wealth, better health, a stronger, less stressful life and greater relationships.
- Whatever it is that you want or want to change is possible.
Create the Life You Want: Love, Relationships and the Law of Attraction
Most people want to know if the Law of Attraction has the promise of attracting love or good in all of their relationships and the answer is a resounding yes.
How to Use the Law of Attraction for Love and Relationships
The universal law within the Law of Attraction is that you have to believe it to receive it. If you believe that you will attract love and the kind of healthy relationships that you deserve, then you will. It’s that simple.
The first step is to look deep within yourself. You can’t bring harmony into your life if you’re at discord within yourself. You’ll know that you’re experiencing discord in your emotional core if you’re still struggling with feelings of anger, bitterness or disillusionment when it comes to love and relationships.
You have to be able to love yourself and you must know that your happiness in life is not bound up in anyone else’s actions or reactions. You need to release others from being responsible for your happiness or emotional well-being.
Once you practice that, you’ll send out positive thoughts from the center of contentment within you and the universe will pay you back in kind. The way that the Law of Attraction works to bring the good relationships into your life is that it works on a metaphysical wavelength.
Create the Life You Want: Getting the Love Vibe
The vibrations of your thoughts are sent out into the world. What you send out reverberates back in every single situation in your life. If you take your thoughts and you dwell on negative things about relationships, that’s what you unleash back.
That’s why it’s so important that you be free from any past hurts caused by negative relationships. Stop any negative emotions you’re feeling and stop feeling like you’re not worthy.
- Stop doubting that you deserve the good life has to offer. Wanting positive changes outwardly while harboring negative self emotions will not allow the power of the Law of Attraction to be released in your life.
- Don’t engage in any negative self talk. Think about all of your good and positive qualities. You have to be a positive, open receptacle for the Law of Attraction to flow toward you. You want the message that you send out to the universe to be a positive one.
- If you currently have a steady relationship, but it’s not going as well as you feel it should, you have to stop thinking about or dwelling on any flaws in your partner or in the relationship.
- If you don’t have a partner yet and struggle with thinking that you don’t deserve love or don’t deserve a good relationship with a relative or someone you care about, then that negativity will prevent it from happening.
- If a romantic relationship is what you’re looking for, think positively about the relationship you want to have. Think about the positive traits that you want your significant other to manifest in his or her life.
- The energy within your thoughts – the believe to receive – are drawing power that the Law of Attraction uses to make the differences in your life. Keep your thoughts focused only on the good that’s to come in a relationship you don’t have yet.
- If you already have a relationship with say your parents or your siblings or some friends and there’s a lot of family drama bogging you down and clogging up the relationships, then release that negativity.
- Let go of the baggage. This will harness the metaphysical law that the Law of Attraction is based on and put it to work for you by attracting or drawing toward you the right relationship and the right relationship dynamics.
How would you act if every day you were surrounded by people who loved you? People who were supportive of you? Live life each day as if that’s what you have.
Create the Life You Want: Using the LOA to Manifest the Money You Want
Can you use the law of attraction to get rich? Yes, you can. But you’ve got to actually believe it’s possible. See, regardless of the direction you’re sending it, the Law of Attraction has a great deal of energy. If you can tap into that energy, you end up with exactly what you want. It really is that simple.
So why aren’t we all rich? Because we haven’t learned how to control our thoughts well enough just yet. Stick with me here.
Of all of the universal laws, the Law of Attraction is the one that gives wings to whatever it is that your thoughts dwell on. Whatever it is you think about will grow and reach its potential.
This happens because the Law of Attraction is a universal law that responds to your focus. Focus on health and the Law of Attraction responds. Same thing for wealth. You are the reason behind your life situations and only you can change it.
Create the Life You Want: Why You’re Not Already Rich
How much money you’ll have in your life solely relies on what your focus is concerning wealth and how you visualize money. Do you think that some people are destined to have plenty of money and that some people aren’t?
If that’s the way that you think, then you’re wrong. Wealth is available for everyone equally. If you look at the life of someone who has plenty of money, lives in a nice house and takes lavish vacations and think that will never be you, then you’re right, it won’t.
Because what just happened was as soon as you entertained that negative thought, you made it your reality. You tapped into the vibrations of the metaphysical within the Law of Attraction and you actually sent that attraction spiraling away from you.
If you look at people with plenty of money to live the kind of life they choose to live, you’ll notice that they don’t focus on the money. They expect it to be there. It’s one of the reasons why many wealthy people don’t talk about money.
It simple is in their life. It’s a byproduct of the way they think about and visualize wealth. Money doesn’t mean the same to them in the same amounts that it does for people who don’t have the kind of wealth they’d like to have.
For someone who is wealthy, having $100,000 on hand would seem like spare change while to others not used to having that kind of money, it would seem astronomically huge.
To make the Law of Attraction work for you in the area of wealth, you have to change how you view money. Think about what you would consider to be a large amount of money.
For some people, that might be $1,000 while for others, that might be $100,000. Once you have your amount in mind, don’t put your focus on the money. Money doesn’t have any power – it’s neither good nor evil and it can’t make you happy or sad.
Only you have the power to do that. So then how do the Law of Attraction and money go hand in hand? It’s what you think about money in the Law of Attraction that will put the law to work for you.
Consider these tips for bringing more money into your life with the Law of Attraction.
- If you want to start bringing more money into your life, then think about the amount and think about it being your normal. Picture whatever amount you’d like to have as being what’s meant for you. Simply accept it as what you should have and expect it to be yours.
- If you think about a certain amount of money and then think that it will never happen for you or that it seems like way too much money for you to ever have, then you’ve pushed out a negative vibration into the universe.
- The universe doesn’t consider money in any form of amounts. It simply exists. You’re the one that has the power to draw it to you. Start by thinking about an amount you’d like to have. Don’t see it as a one time occurrence like getting a huge check or winning some sort of lottery. See it as your life – your normal financial setting.
Create the Life You Want: You Can’t Be Worth More Than You Believe You’re Worth
Think you’re worthless? Then you are. Does that upset you? Get over it! It’s time you learn to see what you’re worth in a different light.
Yeah, that’s right. It’s hard to hear, but LISTEN UP!
If you’re working at a job and you’re being underpaid and you know that you’re being underpaid, don’t make the mistake of falling into the mindset that you’re simply fortunate to have a job in this economy. (But instead, be grateful to have a job and to have one that allows you the financial freedom you have always wanted – and one that makes it so that you have more money than you’ll ever need – see where I’m going with this?)
Don’t make the mistake of settling for less wealth than you deserve – but stay positive and intentional with your thoughts so that you aren’t constantly struggling against “settling” and “mistakes.”
Why shouldn’t you settle, anyway? Because until you’re truly happy, you’re not “done” – and that’s because even during times when the economy is shit, some people are thriving financially.
New businesses are being created and individuals are succeeding because they expect to and they’re positive that they’re going to – and as it turns out, the universe is abundant and there’s enough room for everyone to have success. We’re really only competing against ourselves.
Think about it.
Take a look around and notice that when some people have a catastrophic event such as a job loss – they decide to create their own job and their own wealth. That’s why you hear so many stories about people who lose their jobs and end up becoming wealthy.
They refuse to give in to the negativity and they don’t focus on the situation. Instead, they focus on and visualize what they want. You can’t make wealth your focus. If you look at people who work simply for the money the career brings in, you’ll notice that those are the people who are unhappy and seem less fulfilled in their lives. Despite making a lot of money, most of them don’t even like their job.
Not all wealth comes in the form of getting more money. Some wealth is found in an inner peace from having a career that satisfies something within you – such as a career where you make a difference in the lives of others.
Some people find that the Law of Attraction works to give them a meaningful career that gives them a lot of joy and peace. They believe in their talents, they’re passionate about their work and have a vision of what they want that career to mean for them and because it’s fulfilled, others notice their lives are happier.
Create the Life You Want: Weight Loss and the LOA
Can You Use the Law of Attraction to Lose Weight?
What you think becomes reality. If you think that you’re fat, then you are. If you believe that you will never lose weight, then you won’t.
Your thoughts will bring to you the exact vibration from the universe that you give you. If you send out thoughts of not being able to succeed in losing weight, then you won’t overcome that until you change your thoughts.
Think about anyone you know who’s really lost weight and kept it off.
I’ll bet they’re similar to me and most people who’ve been successful in losing 100 pounds or more. The fact is that there’s truly not a whole lot of new information about weight loss suddenly appeared on the market.
What changed was the way the people thought about their weight loss journey – the same thing happened for me, too – that’s how I managed to take off more than 100 pounds and have kept if off for more than three years, so far. They turned from the negative can’t do it to the positive, “I’ve made up my mind and it’s happening” way of thinking.
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The universe responds by affirming that belief.
In weight loss, you will attract what you think and what you think will become your visualization of your weight loss journey. Your visualization will give then determine what your attitude is toward losing weight.
You can’t help it if you were never taught how to eat properly and you gained a lot of weight. You can’t help it if health problems have packed pounds on to your frame. But what you have to do is not to focus on what you can’t help. Those are the negatives and those negatives will embed themselves in your life to keep you exactly where you are.
Memorize this: you can’t change what you can’t change, but you can change what you can change.
You are the master of how you allow things to affect you – of whether or not you let things and situations give you a negative viewpoint in life. You have the power to make any change happen.
Don’t visualize yourself as better looking or happier once the weight is off. You must love and accept yourself the way you are right now. Love yourself, accept yourself and take care of yourself.
What Not to Think About If You Want to Lose Weight With the Law of Attraction
Stop focusing on all the negatives about weight loss. Don’t dwell on what you can’t do such as, “I can’t have that second (or third) helping of pizza,” instead keep your thoughts fixed on what you will gain. Stay focused on all of the positives associated with weight loss.
For example, focus on thoughts that are focused on the benefit of having already lost the weight: “I’m going to get that new outfit because I am slender enough to fit into it.” Decide that the battle of the bulge has already been won and then treat yourself as if it has. Expect positive results and you’ll get them.
Create the Life You Want: Easy Stress Relief With the LOA
Can You Stop Stress With the Law of Attraction?
There’s no secret to the negative impact that stress can have on a person’s life. You want to eliminate stress immediately.
Not only is stress bad for your health, but stress can lead to all sorts of negative thoughts, which in turn will attract the negativity back into your life. So you’ll want to take immediate steps to get rid of the stress in your life.
You might be thinking that you’re stuck in an awful job with the world’s greatest boss and that there’s no way you could possibly think anything positive about it much less have something positive result from it.
But that’s because you don’t realize how the Law of Attraction works to handle stress.
How to Relieve Stress With the LOA
First, whatever it is that’s going on in your life – whatever thing it is that puts knots in your stomach or has you tossing and turning at night – you need to make a list of each of those things.
That’s not because you’re going to stare at the list or dwell on it. Just the opposite. What you’re going to do is to take those negatives and learn how to make them over into a positive.
That doesn’t mean that tomorrow or the next day you’re going to walk into your job and tell your boss exactly what he can do with the job that has you so stressed. What it means is that you’re going to take control of your thoughts and how you see your job and the Law of Attraction is going to change your life.
Once you have that list ready, you must come up with what’s good about the negative situation. For example, a hateful boss will teach you about getting along with unkind people.
A reversal in your financial situation could be turned into a positive by teaching you about being frugal, by taking your focus off of having a materialistic mindset and giving you a mindset of knowing what’s truly important in life. There is ALWAYS something positive no matter what the situation is.
You have to remember that you don’t see everything at once. You only get a glimpse of your life in small increments. Your story is not complete and you don’t know how that negative thing can be exactly what you may need.
Once you have written down something good about each negative thing, change how you see that situation. Put into practice visualizing what it is you’d like to see happen in every negative situation that you listed.
Create the Life You Want: Visualize It, See It, Live It
How to Create a Proper Vision Board
Why it’s important to have one: a vision board will help you to see what it is that you want the Law of Attraction to do for you. You can have a board for each area of your life or you can have a board that focuses on one area at time. Our brains take visual snapshots and hold on to what we visualize. It’s easier to keep focused on what we can see.
What you’ll need: something to attach the pictures on. Most people use a piece of poster board or a board like you see used in a child’s science fair project. Whatever you prefer is fine.
You’ll also need a way to attach the items onto your vision board. You can use tape or you can use stick glue. You might also want to get some labels for your vision board.
Tips for Creating Vision Boards That Really Work
I find that using pictures of what you want the Law of Attraction to bring into my life is a great way to help visualize – and visualizing helps me manifest what I want faster and more efficiently. So find your inspirational photos around by going through magazines or printing images from the internet. Some people also use photographs that they’ve taken themselves – whatever works for you.
Now by just arranging the pictures, you can create a beautiful collage of what you want to see happen. This might be pictures of a new home or a new vehicle or the direction you’d like to see your career take – or like me, a combination of a bunch of separate but related goals you have for yourself. And maybe then, you’re done.
Tips for Taking Your Vision Board to the Next Level
For me, words are very powerful. So I like to put up certain phrases that help me focus on my goals and help to sort of create mental imprints of what I want – this also is an additional way to use a sort of visual affirmation toward my success and causes me to make a mental note of it each time I see it. This lends to my energy moving in the right direction.
The look of your vision board will depend on how much or how little you want to do with your board. You can put a lot of energy into it or just have something simple that helps you to visualize what you want.
When you can see images, it helps you imagine and believe that the image can happen for you. Whatever you place on your vision board needs to be an image or words that stir you, that make your emotions come to light and make you feel happy or passionate or moved.
TIP: Make sure that you don’t make your vision board and then tuck it away out of sight. You want to keep it where you can see it daily.
More Tips for Creating Your Own Vision Board
Make it all your own. Everyone’s got different needs, wants and general ethics, but just for perspective, you might want to start defining your dreams in categories to start.
Vision Board Categories to Consider
- love and relationships
- material possessions
- following your dreams/passions
You can have areas of your vision board where you write on the labels and affix them to different picture in one of the categories. For example, you might want to write, “I will live in a house like this” and fix that label onto the image of a home you want to live in.
Or, go a little less traditional. Remember, this is all about you, so you’ve got to design a board that works for your personal needs.
There’s no right or wrong way to make your board. You can place the pictures in any order and they can even overlap if you want them to. You can use scrapbook supplies to add color and highlights. You can mix pictures with words you’ve cut out of a magazine or printed out.
Don’t limit what you place on your vision board. If you want something particular out of life, put it up there. While some people list a date when they created their vision board and a date when they saw their visualization become reality, don’t make the mistake of putting an expiration date – that is, unless you’re REALLY sure you can manifest the goal by that date.
Create the Life You Want: How to Avoid Screwing It Up
Is There a Wrong Way to Use the Law of Attraction?
- Don’t expect something you don’t really believe can happen. A lot of people don’t totallhy get that they really do have to believe what they want can be real – and so much so that they have to “feel it” before it happens. They don’t completely understand how the universe works and they expect results from what they want to change in their lives to happen right away. (But they don’t really believe it could happen – see?)
- Don’t assume that the Law of Attraction is some kind of magic. You must understand that the Law of Attraction is not a genie in a bottle – it’s a scientific thing that can be demonstrated. You don’t change the way you think, focus on what you want, let go of the negativity and then suddenly everything is exactly what and how you want it to be.
- The place you are in life and what’s going on in your life right now is a manifestation of the Law of Attraction that you’ve already lived. In other words what you have today is part of the cause and effect for the day you already lived.
- NEVER worry about or focus on what you don’t have. “I want a big house because I don’t have a big house. My house is too small,” etc. You’re focusing on the negative. Instead, think about how much you love your big beautiful home and enjoy the feeling of having it, decorating it, entertaining in it. THAT is the key to getting it – not focusing on your current (lack of) living space.
- Not visualizing and sticking to the visualizing is the wrong way to use the Law of Attraction. The universe doesn’t work on your timetable – and self-doubt and impatience are a sign that you have some wrong beliefs about the way the universe works.
Make sure that what you believe lines up with what you want. If you want something, you can have it through the Law of Attraction but if you want it and don’t believe it will happen, then it won’t.
Thinking that you can treat the Law of Attraction like a get rich scheme is the wrong way to use the Law of Attraction and the universe will not respond to a focus or belief that stems from anything that’s negative.
The wrong way to use the Law of Attraction is to think that all you have to do is believe and then not do anything else. You have to focus on what you want. You have to visualize it as if it’s already come to pass and know it’s going to happen.
Create the Life You Want: The Ever-Evolving You
What happens when you use the Law of Attraction to reach your goals? Or what happens when you set a goal (say you wanted a particular college degree) but then changed your mind? What happens then? Is that it? You’re done with the Law of Attraction?
No, the Law of Attraction remains in place even when you’ve achieved what you’ve visualized. What you need to do once you reach what you’ve visualized is to set a new goal, see a new visualization. You want to do this to keep the Law of Attraction at work in your life.
What happens if you don’t allow the Law of Attraction to evolve is that what you intend for your life begins to diminish.
When that happens, you become affected by self-doubts. You can begin to lose your inspiration and passion for the direction that you want your life to move in and for what you’d like to see happen in your life.
Remember that what you’re doing today, even though you may have reached your goals, will affect your tomorrows because that’s how the Law of Attraction works.
So, if the LOA has worked for you before, you know it works. If it’s not working for you NOW, it’s because you STOPPED FOCUSING and being intentional with your thoughts and actions. Now, your higher self is calling you to get back on board and focus on your real desires. Let’s do this.
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