When you’ve been abused by a narcissist, the recovery can be hard. When you go back into the “real” world with “normal” people, you might find that you struggle when anyone criticizes you – you may instantly feel put-upon, upset or even angry, because you are so used to criticism leading to misery for you, thanks to the toxic abuse your narcissist put on you.
Before you start today’s meditation, get into a quiet place and take a few deep breaths. Focus only on the words on the screen and the music playing behind them. This will only take a few minutes – and when you’re done, you’ll have an excellent start on your day.
Criticism is Fuel to My Fire:
Daily Affirmation Meditation for Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Coaching
Don’t want to watch a video? That’s okay! Take a moment to read the affirmation meditation to yourself instead. Afterward, take a few minutes to consider the Self-Reflection questions before you start your day!
Criticism pushes me to work more creatively.
I accept that some people have less belief in me than I have in myself. However, their criticism is an important element for self-development. I use it to inspire my creativity.
When I receive a performance evaluation at work, I analyze any unsatisfactory feedback. I identify areas of my performance that have room for improvement and reflect on other ways of doing things.
I accept that there may be alternative methods that produce more fruitful results. My mind is open to changing my approach for more effective outcomes.
It is difficult to swallow harsh criticism when I put my all into my work. But I rely on the expertise of my critics to help me enhance my performance.
The abilities of others around me inspire me to produce a better quality of work. When I see work that is more outstanding than mine, I admire it. I use each chance I get to figure out ways to take my projects to another level.
I avoid allowing critiques to get me down. Instead of hiding in a shell, I take it with a smile then immediately start to spread my wings.
Today, I embrace criticism because it serves to elevate my performance. My output today eclipses that of previous days because I learn from feedback from others.
Now it’s time to think about yourself for a bit. Take a moment to consider the following Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Self-Reflection Questions:
1. How do I handle harsh criticism that I feel is unwarranted and deliberate?
2. What strategies can I use to assess my work to ensure that it is my best?
3. What sources do I use to provide inspiration for more creative output?
Angela Atkinson is a Certified Life Coach and the author of more than 20 books on narcissism, narcissistic abuse recovery and related topics. A recognized expert on narcissism and narcissistic personality disorder who has studied and written extensively on narcissistic relationships since 2006, Atkinson was inspired to begin her work as a result of having survived toxic relationships of her own.
Atkinson offers trauma-informed coaching and has certifications in life coaching, level 2 therapeutic model, CBT coaching, integrative wellness coaching, and NLP. She is a certified trauma support coach and certified family trauma professional. She also has a professional PTSD counseling certification. Her mission is to help those who have experienced the emotional and mental devastation that comes with narcissistic abuse in these incredibly toxic relationships to (re)discover their true selves, stop the gaslighting and manipulation and move forward into their genuine desires – into a life that is exactly what they choose for themselves.
Along with her solution-focused life coaching experience, Atkinson’s previous career in journalism and research helps her to offer both accurate and understandable information for survivors of abuse in a simple-to-understand way that helps to increase awareness in the narcissistic abuse recovery community. Atkinson founded QueenBeeing.com Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Support, the SPANily Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Support Groups and the Life Makeover Academy. In her life coaching practice, Atkinson’s clients enjoy her personalized approach that allows and encourages them to become the best possible versions of themselves and to succeed in doing what they love most. She offers individual and group coaching for victims and survivors of narcissistic abuse at NarcissisticAbuseRecovery.Online and NarcissismSupportCoach.com.