“Any intelligent fool can make things bigger, more complex, and more violent. It takes a touch of genius — and a lot of courage to move in the opposite direction.” ― E.F. Schumacher
By following a few easy rules, you can simplify your day and remove a lot of the stress that you may be experiencing.
Change can be easier when implemented in steps. For best results, take some time to put these techniques into action. Get used to using one strategy and then move on to another to seamlessly incorporate these changes into your life.
Follow these steps, and your days will be more enjoyable:
1. Consider what’s most important. Simplifying anything always starts with determining what is most important and figuring out how to eliminate the rest.
* What are the 4 or 5 most important things in your life? Make a list.
* Now, think about your activities, tasks, and commitments that are congruent with your list.
* Start eliminating the items that fail to support your priorities.
2. Know what your perfect day looks like. It’s hard to achieve something if you’re lacking a target. So, visualize your perfect day. Everyone’s perfect day is different, but try to understand what yours looks like.
3. It’s okay to say “no.” When faced with opportunities to add activities to your life, consider your priorities list. If a new activity doesn’t fit with your list, just say “no.”
* If you’re afraid you might disappoint others by turning down their request, remember that when you do too much, the quality of your contribution is minimized. You’re letting yourself and your family down more when you take on too much.
4. Prioritize your tasks. Before you go to bed each night, make a list of the three top things you want to accomplish the next day. Make a second list of things you’d like to accomplish, but they aren’t critical.
* Avoid doing items on the second list until the first list is complete.
5. Schedule time to do the most important items. If it’s important to complete a certain task, decide exactly when to do it. These appointments should be bordering on sacred. Nothing should get in the way. Turn off your phone and stay off the internet!
6. Slow down. Going a little slower won’t decrease the amount you accomplish. Rushing is just wallowing in nervous energy that makes you tired, less effective, and prone to mistakes. Smile and breathe. Everything is easier if you simply slow down.
7. Try single-tasking. Multi-tasking has been shown to be a less efficient way to work. Focus on one task at a time. Complete it and then move on.
* This is a great opportunity to hone your ability to focus.
8. Batch the smaller tasks. When possible, have time scheduled to do all of your phone calls at once. The same goes for dealing with e-mails or any other similar task. These are great to do at the end of the day when your energy is low.
9. Leave some space in between. It sounds counter intuitive, but you can get more done if you take a short break between tasks. Have a drink of water and move around a little bit. Breaks are important. Relax.
* It’s not necessary to cram one task right on top of another.
Making your day as simple as possible is almost magical. By focusing on the most important items each day, you eliminate a lot of clutter in your life and your mind. You’ll feel much more peaceful and get more of the important tasks accomplished. Get started today and your days will become more simple and more enjoyable.
How do you simplify your life? Share your thoughts and experiences in the comments section, below!
Angela Atkinson is a Certified Life Coach and the author of more than 20 books on narcissism, narcissistic abuse recovery and related topics. A recognized expert on narcissism and narcissistic personality disorder who has studied and written extensively on narcissistic relationships since 2006, Atkinson was inspired to begin her work as a result of having survived toxic relationships of her own.
Atkinson offers trauma-informed coaching and has certifications in life coaching, level 2 therapeutic model, CBT coaching, integrative wellness coaching, and NLP. She is a certified trauma support coach and certified family trauma professional. She also has a professional PTSD counseling certification. Her mission is to help those who have experienced the emotional and mental devastation that comes with narcissistic abuse in these incredibly toxic relationships to (re)discover their true selves, stop the gaslighting and manipulation and move forward into their genuine desires – into a life that is exactly what they choose for themselves.
Along with her solution-focused life coaching experience, Atkinson’s previous career in journalism and research helps her to offer both accurate and understandable information for survivors of abuse in a simple-to-understand way that helps to increase awareness in the narcissistic abuse recovery community. Atkinson founded QueenBeeing.com Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Support, the SPANily Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Support Groups and the Life Makeover Academy. In her life coaching practice, Atkinson’s clients enjoy her personalized approach that allows and encourages them to become the best possible versions of themselves and to succeed in doing what they love most. She offers individual and group coaching for victims and survivors of narcissistic abuse at NarcissisticAbuseRecovery.Online and NarcissismSupportCoach.com.