Has someone called you a narcissist, and you don’t believe you fit the bill? I’ve been there – and I’m about to fill you in on a situation that has recently occurred over on my YouTube channel‘s comments section.
You guessed it – I have occasional commenters who claim that I must be a narcissist – obviously, because it’s not possible to understand anyone’s psychology unless you ARE one of those people, right?
Pardon my sarcasm there, but the fact is that MOST people who communicate with me understand where I’m coming from. Generally, those who don’t understand me have a good reason for it – choice or difference in opinion – and maybe, at times, I hit a bit too close to home. Who knows? In any case, I’m once again addressing this silly issue.
In this video, I’ll address these comments – and I’ll fill you in on WHY I won’t argue with people who attempt to label me a narcissist.
“Discussion is an exchange of knowledge; an argument an exchange of ignorance.” ~Robert Quillen
“People’s minds are changed through observation and not through argument.” ~Will Rogers
Look, healthy narcissism is self-focus, self-confidence, self-interest and personal drive, but these qualities must coexist with a healthy concern for others and the ability to genuinely empathize with them.
Unhealthy, toxic narcissism and NPD involve the lack of empathy and concern for others, combined with an unhealthy amount of self-focus. And of course, this kind of narcissistic person is secretly quite insecure and very troubled, in some cases – but you may never know that unless you look beyond the smoke and mirrors.
So, watch that video and let me know what you think. Am I a narcissist? Go ahead, hit me with it. I can take it.
Angela Atkinson is a Certified Life Coach and the author of more than 20 books on narcissism, narcissistic abuse recovery and related topics. A recognized expert on narcissism and narcissistic personality disorder who has studied and written extensively on narcissistic relationships since 2006, Atkinson was inspired to begin her work as a result of having survived toxic relationships of her own.
Atkinson offers trauma-informed coaching and has certifications in life coaching, level 2 therapeutic model, CBT coaching, integrative wellness coaching, and NLP. She is a certified trauma support coach and certified family trauma professional. She also has a professional PTSD counseling certification. Her mission is to help those who have experienced the emotional and mental devastation that comes with narcissistic abuse in these incredibly toxic relationships to (re)discover their true selves, stop the gaslighting and manipulation and move forward into their genuine desires – into a life that is exactly what they choose for themselves.
Along with her solution-focused life coaching experience, Atkinson’s previous career in journalism and research helps her to offer both accurate and understandable information for survivors of abuse in a simple-to-understand way that helps to increase awareness in the narcissistic abuse recovery community. Atkinson founded QueenBeeing.com Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Support, the SPANily Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Support Groups and the Life Makeover Academy. In her life coaching practice, Atkinson’s clients enjoy her personalized approach that allows and encourages them to become the best possible versions of themselves and to succeed in doing what they love most. She offers individual and group coaching for victims and survivors of narcissistic abuse at NarcissisticAbuseRecovery.Online and NarcissismSupportCoach.com.