Have you figured out you’ve been dealing with a narcissist in your life, but you don’t know where to begin your recovery? If so, you’re not alone. In fact, it reminds me of an old story about a child trying to move a heavy stone while his father looks on. The child works and works, but is just not strong enough. Finally, he tells his father, “I can’t do it. It’s impossible.”
His father responds, “Of course you can. You haven’t used all the strength you have available to you yet.” The little boy answers that he has tried his hardest, and still can’t do it, to which the father responds, “You haven’t asked me to help you yet.”
If you need help in your own healing and you don’t know who to ask, look no further – here’s some support and help that’s available to you right now.
Here’s the Help You Need in Narcissistic Abuse Recovery
Sometimes, when you’re trying to recover from narcissistic abuse, it can feel like you’re moving that heavy rock. You struggle and fight, but it’s so hard to stick to the plan that you give up. There comes a time to recognize that asking for help is a sign of strength, not weakness. Enlisting the aid of friends, family, and a good support group can bolster your efforts and help you overcome setbacks that threaten to derail your narcissistic abuse recovery efforts. Instead of trying to go it alone, try a few of these suggestions to help you stay on track with the help of friends and family. If you prefer a guided experience, you can start your narcissistic abuse recovery for free, right here.
Get a support system.
Gather up trusted friends and family members and make them part of your inner circle – your support system. Don’t have people you feel comfortable sharing your situation with? How about a whole group of people who have been there, done that? Join my SPAN group, right here. It’s totally free and confidential. We also have several other groups that are specific to your situation and your level in recovery – check them out here.
Get your family on the right page.
When they’re not narcissistic, husbands, wives, children, and siblings can offer support in unexpected ways. Something as simple as a sincere compliment at the right time can be all you need to nudge you onward. By the same token, refuse to let them sabotage your recovery efforts. Sometimes even people who are acting as the flying monkeys of a toxic narcissist don’t know what they’re doing. Give yourself the freedom and space you need to clarify the situation – and don’t be afraid to take a step back from people who are toxic for you, especially during recovery.
Join our small group coaching sessions.
There’s a lot to be said for seeking out the support of others who are fighting the same battle you are. Whatever it is that motivates you, you can find it in our small group coaching sessions led by the amazing Lise Colucci – and you’ll get one-on-one help as well as being able to connect with and learn from your fellow group members during our sessions. Healthy sharing, companionship, encouragement, applause, and practical, common-sense advice from others who are also fighting to take back your life can all make this whole narcissistic abuse recovery stuff a whole lot easier.
Learn all you can about the topics of narcissism and narcissistic abuse recovery.
Read up on narcissistic abuse recovery, watch my narcissistic abuse recovery YouTube videos, or, if you’re pressed for time (or struggle with ADHD) check out my Tiktok videos for shorter, bite-sized narcissistic abuse recovery help – or visit http://booksangiewrote.com to pick up my books – all less than $5.
Get one-on-one narcissistic abuse recovery coaching, counseling, or therapy.
sign up right here to get one-on-one personalized coaching and counseling for narcissistic abuse recovery with one of our certified narcissistic abuse recovery coaches and counselors. If you prefer a therapist, check out our page on finding the best therapist for your narcissistic abuse recovery needs.
Other Helpful Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Resouces
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- True Survivor Stories: 28 Things a Narcissist Does When Love-Bombing (Beware!)
- How to Find Strength to Leave a Narcissist: Useful Rage
- 101 Struggles Only Narcissistic Abuse Victims and Survivors Will Understand
- This is the Big Secret About Narcissistic Abuse Recovery
- 30 Life-Changing Facts About Narcissists in Relationships
- Codependency Triangle: The Narcissist, the Savior and the ‘Evil’ One
