So, I was reading blogs this morning, and one of my favorites–MilesPerHour’s The Busy Mind of a Quiet Man had a list in the side bar of “Your Favorite Posts,” one of which had a very intriguing title: Riding Bareback.
I couldn’t contain my curiosity so I clicked on it. Now, had this been any other male blogger, I might have been afraid of what I would see. But this guy–he’s something else. He’s very open about his love for his woman and for her daughter, and he very clearly respects them–and all women.
So you’re probably wondering why I’m devoting an entire blog post to one of MilesPerHour’s archived posts. Well, I consider it sort of a public service announcement. If you read this post, you’ll see what I mean.
Here is a man who believes…and I hope you’re sitting down here…that MEN are responsible for birth control!
“How damn many side effects are there for women to be concerned about when it comes down to their choices of birth control? Too damn many,” he says. “So they ask us men to wear condoms and we whine and complain and whine some more. Get that mama’s boy a diaper.”
I love this guy. He’s real–he knows what he believes and what he wants, and he’s not afraid to say it.
That said, I don’t think that birth control is ONLY the man’s responsibility. I do think it’s fabulous that MilesPerHour has stepped up to point out that they share in the responsibility–but girls, let’s face it, we are the ones who carry the babies. If we prefer NOT to be pregnant, we must take responsibility for ourselves, no?
Bottom line: you’re in control of your body, just like you’re in control of your life. Men, this applies to you too, as MilesPerHour pointed out. If you don’t want to father (or give birth to) a baby, then take precautions. It’s that simple.
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