Effective Couples Therapy And How It Works

Written by Angela Atkinson

By Aaron Hernandez
marriage-counseling-services-250x250Some couples hit a stage in their relationship where they know that something isn’t right but lack the skills to understand how to get their relationship back on track. When this happens  some seek the advice and guidance of marriage counselors and therapists. The good thing is that there are some of the most experienced in every state but many people are still a little unsure of the success rates of couples therapy.
With this in mind, let’s delve a little into what principles are thought in couples therapy how they works.
Changes the perspective of the relationship
Throughout the process the therapist will a work with both parties to help them look at their relationship in a different perspective, in essence, a more objective manner. couples learn to cease the ‘blame game’ and start looking objectively at their actions and the affects they have on the other party and their relationship as a whole. When it comes to marriage counseling, couples who have experienced couples therapy suggest that this is one of the most valuable aspects of the process.
Halts dysfunctional behavior
For any therapist, dysfunctional behavior is one of the most relationship damaging and common aspects of any sparring couple. Verbal, mental and even physical abuse can all manifest themselves as dysfunctional behavior. The counselor will assess the risk imposed to one or both parties and on many occasions will utilise ‘time out’ procedures in order to stop damaging dysfunctional behavior from occurring.
Expressing emotion
Whether you attend marriage counseling or visit a therapist, one of the biggest benefits couples can get from therapy is that they will learn to express how they feel and not become emotionally distant. Couples who tend to shy away and avoid expressing emotion are at far greater risk of drifting apart. Skilled therapists can help couples to bring their emotions out into the open and to talk about them in front of their partner.
Improvement in levels of communication
Along with closeness and commitment, communication is classed as one of the three C’s that make up a strong relationship. Invariably when relationships break down, so does communication. With this in mind, therapists use a variety of techniques to help the couple improve their levels of communication. Any skilled counselors will be able to give the couple pointers on which types of communication are effective, and which are destructive, and also how effective listening aids communication.
Working towards a stronger bond
Because much of the therapy involves focusing on problem areas, the therapist may also look at honing in on what the couple perceive as relationship strengths and also work on these areas to cement a far stronger and altogether more powerful relationship bond.
When it comes to relationship counselors, some may argue that seeking help  won’t be for everyone and in some cases individuals who are tied into damaging relationships may well be better off  apart. Whilst this may be true, for those that do go through the process and are willing to undertake whatever is needed to make the necessary changes, then couples therapy can be extremely effective and rewarding.
About the Author
I am a psychologist and a freelance writer on articles specifically related to psychology. Presently I am writing for Counselors, Culpeper VA. They provide services like Family counseling, marriage counseling and individual counseling for any sort of emotional or mental health issues.

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  • Angela Atkinson is a certified trauma counselor and the author of more than 20 books on narcissism, narcissistic abuse recovery, and related topics. A recognized expert on narcissism and narcissistic personality disorder who has studied and written extensively on narcissistic personality disorder and narcissistic abuse in toxic relationships since 2006, she has a popular narcissistic abuse recovery YouTube channel. Atkinson was inspired to begin her work as a result of having survived toxic relationships of her own. Atkinson offers trauma-informed narcissistic abuse recovery coaching and has certifications in trauma counseling, life coaching, level 2 therapeutic model, CBT coaching, integrative wellness coaching, and NLP. She is a certified trauma support coach and certified family trauma professional. She also has a professional PTSD counseling certification. Her mission is to help those who have experienced the emotional and mental devastation that comes with narcissistic abuse in these incredibly toxic relationships to (re)discover their true selves, stop the gaslighting and manipulation, and move forward into their genuine desires – into a life that is exactly what they choose for themselves. Along with her solution-focused life coaching experience, Atkinson’s previous career in journalism and research helps her to offer both accurate and understandable information for survivors of abuse in a simple-to-understand way that helps to increase awareness in the narcissistic abuse recovery community. Atkinson founded QueenBeeing.com Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Support, the SPANily Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Support Groups and the Life Makeover Academy. She offers individual and group coaching for victims and survivors of narcissistic abuse here at QueenBeeing.com and at NarcissisticAbuseRecovery.Online.

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