Today on Go Ask Angie, I’m responding to a question from a viewer and a member of my online support group for narcissistic abuse survivors.
THE QUESTION – A SPAN Member Asked: “HOW DO I GO FROM FEELING SCARED, ALONE AND SAD TO FINDING THE ANGER I NEED TO TAKE ACTION AND LEAVE OR GET OVER THE NARCISSIST?”
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When you’ve been through narcissistic abuse, you often don’t trust yourself, and for a lot of us, it’s only justified anger that will get us out.
A lot of people think that anger is all bad – but that’s not always the case. And while I’m sure someone will disagree with me, I think that, sometimes, for those of us who have been stuck in narcissistic relationships, we need something big to get us to take real action.
We spend so much time being afraid, sad, alone – and feeling not good enough – that being angry can wake us up and propel us into action.
In this video, I’ll give you the bottom line on anger, and I will explain what I mean by starting with a story from my own life.
And, I’ll share some techniques that can help push you past the scared, sad and desperate feelings we all experience at or near the end of a toxic relationship with a narcissist – this will help you to take the action necessary to move forward and start building a healthier, better life for yourself.
Your turn: after you watch the video – tell me what you think.
Have you experienced this need to stop being sad and start getting mad – and take the action you need to get safe and back to your true self? Share your thoughts and experiences in the comments section below. Let’s discuss it!
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Angela Atkinson is a Certified Life Coach and the author of more than 20 books on narcissism, narcissistic abuse recovery and related topics. A recognized expert on narcissism and narcissistic personality disorder who has studied and written extensively on narcissistic relationships since 2006, Atkinson was inspired to begin her work as a result of having survived toxic relationships of her own.
Atkinson offers trauma-informed coaching and has certifications in life coaching, level 2 therapeutic model, CBT coaching, integrative wellness coaching, and NLP. She is a certified trauma support coach and certified family trauma professional. She also has a professional PTSD counseling certification. Her mission is to help those who have experienced the emotional and mental devastation that comes with narcissistic abuse in these incredibly toxic relationships to (re)discover their true selves, stop the gaslighting and manipulation and move forward into their genuine desires – into a life that is exactly what they choose for themselves.
Along with her solution-focused life coaching experience, Atkinson’s previous career in journalism and research helps her to offer both accurate and understandable information for survivors of abuse in a simple-to-understand way that helps to increase awareness in the narcissistic abuse recovery community. Atkinson founded QueenBeeing.com Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Support, the SPANily Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Support Groups and the Life Makeover Academy. In her life coaching practice, Atkinson’s clients enjoy her personalized approach that allows and encourages them to become the best possible versions of themselves and to succeed in doing what they love most. She offers individual and group coaching for victims and survivors of narcissistic abuse at NarcissisticAbuseRecovery.Online and NarcissismSupportCoach.com.
Hello I’ve read a lot of information on narcissist but I can’t find much information on the narcissist mother who is worse than her son. I’m 5 months pregnant by him and some how I have to go through her instead of him. I finally told both of them to never contact me again after she invited herself to my ultrasound and her friend that I don’t even know. She speaks for her son and tells him what he is and isn’t going to do. I think she is the root of his problem but I don’t think I can say or do anything that could fix it. She’s already got him programmed but I just can’t get past this. I don’t even know how she hi-jacked the relationship and some how I ended up feeling like Im in a relationship with her. He lies, cheats, thiefs, and has no empathy or remorse what so ever and no attachment to his baby. Both of them have blown my mind.. I thought he was bad but she is worse and seems to think what he does is fine. I’m so confused and broken.