Finding Joy in the Success of Others

Written by Angela Atkinson

We all know someone who seems to have “it all” and many of us can relate to feeling a little jealous of or even angry at Miss or Mr. Perfect. Maybe she’s got the career you’ve always wanted or is Supermom, ruler of the PTA. Or perhaps he’s got the boss’s ear or a sweeter ride than you. Maybe it’s as simple as the fact that their address plaque hangs in a nicer part of town than yours.

While it’s easy to feel slighted or frustrated when you see others achieving success (especially when they’re succeeding in an area you wish YOU could succeed in), it’s completely counter-productive to personal fulfillment.

As we’ve discussed several times, you attract what you put out there–so if you’re constantly allowing yourself to feel “less than” or “not good enough” or “unworthy” by comparing yourself to those who seem more successful, then you will become those things.

So what does this mean? If we’ve let this type of negativity into our lives, is it hopeless? Are we doomed to continue the cycle of unhappiness?

There’s always hope, and the good news is that you can make simple changes today to start bringing more good into your life. Simply changing your perception and allowing yourself to feel genuine joy and happiness for your Miss or Mr. Perfect’s success can help to draw more success (and joy and happiness) into your own life.

Does it sound too good to be true?

I can tell you from personal experience that it’s not–but let’s help you figure that out on your own. Today, my challenge to you is to open your heart and allow yourself to feel really happy for someone else’s success. Congratulate them, tell them how proud you are of them and even how much you admire what they’re doing. Be genuine, be real, and actually feel those feelings.

Afterward, I can promise you that you’ll feel lighter and happier and even more in control of yourself and your situation.

And don’t forget: you can have whatever you want, whatever you believe you can. Learning to be happy for the success of others will help you to attract more of that into your life–more happiness, more success. Sounds like a sweet deal to me.

What do you think?

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  • Angela Atkinson

    Angela Atkinson is a certified trauma counselor and the author of more than 20 books on narcissism, narcissistic abuse recovery, and related topics. A recognized expert on narcissism and narcissistic personality disorder who has studied and written extensively on narcissistic personality disorder and narcissistic abuse in toxic relationships since 2006, she has a popular narcissistic abuse recovery YouTube channel. Atkinson was inspired to begin her work as a result of having survived toxic relationships of her own. Atkinson offers trauma-informed narcissistic abuse recovery coaching and has certifications in trauma counseling, life coaching, level 2 therapeutic model, CBT coaching, integrative wellness coaching, and NLP. She is a certified trauma support coach and certified family trauma professional. She also has a professional PTSD counseling certification. Her mission is to help those who have experienced the emotional and mental devastation that comes with narcissistic abuse in these incredibly toxic relationships to (re)discover their true selves, stop the gaslighting and manipulation, and move forward into their genuine desires – into a life that is exactly what they choose for themselves. Along with her solution-focused life coaching experience, Atkinson’s previous career in journalism and research helps her to offer both accurate and understandable information for survivors of abuse in a simple-to-understand way that helps to increase awareness in the narcissistic abuse recovery community. Atkinson founded Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Support, the SPANily Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Support Groups and the Life Makeover Academy. She offers individual and group coaching for victims and survivors of narcissistic abuse here at and at NarcissisticAbuseRecovery.Online.

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